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AppleBlossom
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Lol! He lent me some money. Maybe I just won't pay it back and he can take it as a penalty for being a pretentious arse
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Dating with a baby!?
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jenmc226
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I was lucky. My mother retired right before I had my son and lived only a mile away. She could pretty much watch him anytime. And she set up a bedroom for him in her home and he was accustomed to sleeping the night there. I was happily single for almost 2yrs. I wasn't wanting or trying to date. But then I kind of got the "itch".
I did sign up for an online dating site. Well, actually it was the free 1 week trial. I wasn't even signing up to really find a date, but more so to kind of snoop around and see what kind of people were out there. I even went so far to make up a new dummy email address. I felt totally safe. I didn't put in any personal information. Since it was anonymous I playfully "interacted" (sent messages or 'winked') at some guys in my area. I ended up striking up email conversations with 2 guys. 1 of the guys puttered out after a few emails. The other guy I continued to talk with. Then we did a phone call and then we did our first date. My mom took my son and I went out on my first date in a very long time. The guy was so sweet and I had a great time.
He knew that I had a son who was 2 1/2 at the time. And he was OK with that. The first time he met my son he came over to my apartment in the evening shortly after I had put my son to bed. My son was still awake, though. I went to use the restroom and when I came out I found my date sitting in bed with my son reading him "Old McDonald Had a Farm". I know he was just trying to impress me, but it was sweet. We really hit it off and he has been great with my son. We got engaged after 10 months. We bought a home together last fall. And we were just married last month (23 months after we met). And we're expecting another baby now this winter. My son is 4 1/2 now and calls my husband Daddy. My husband has completely taken over the roll of being a Dad and treats my son as his own. He calls him "his son".
I kind of lucked out with my internet dating trial and didn't get to fully experience it. But it's a great way to get to know someone before meeting them and as a single parent it can be hard to make time to go out without child in tow. Just be careful - we've all heard the horror stories. Just know that there are many happy endings.
And just because you're a parent doesn't mean you're not a woman with needs/desires. That you don't want someone to take care of you. The hardest part is finding someone to care for your little one. This is where friends and family and neighbors can be of great help. There's probably a lot more people out there who would be happy to lend you a hand, but you're just worried about inconveniencing them. Good luck!
I did sign up for an online dating site. Well, actually it was the free 1 week trial. I wasn't even signing up to really find a date, but more so to kind of snoop around and see what kind of people were out there. I even went so far to make up a new dummy email address. I felt totally safe. I didn't put in any personal information. Since it was anonymous I playfully "interacted" (sent messages or 'winked') at some guys in my area. I ended up striking up email conversations with 2 guys. 1 of the guys puttered out after a few emails. The other guy I continued to talk with. Then we did a phone call and then we did our first date. My mom took my son and I went out on my first date in a very long time. The guy was so sweet and I had a great time.
He knew that I had a son who was 2 1/2 at the time. And he was OK with that. The first time he met my son he came over to my apartment in the evening shortly after I had put my son to bed. My son was still awake, though. I went to use the restroom and when I came out I found my date sitting in bed with my son reading him "Old McDonald Had a Farm". I know he was just trying to impress me, but it was sweet. We really hit it off and he has been great with my son. We got engaged after 10 months. We bought a home together last fall. And we were just married last month (23 months after we met). And we're expecting another baby now this winter. My son is 4 1/2 now and calls my husband Daddy. My husband has completely taken over the roll of being a Dad and treats my son as his own. He calls him "his son".
I kind of lucked out with my internet dating trial and didn't get to fully experience it. But it's a great way to get to know someone before meeting them and as a single parent it can be hard to make time to go out without child in tow. Just be careful - we've all heard the horror stories. Just know that there are many happy endings.
And just because you're a parent doesn't mean you're not a woman with needs/desires. That you don't want someone to take care of you. The hardest part is finding someone to care for your little one. This is where friends and family and neighbors can be of great help. There's probably a lot more people out there who would be happy to lend you a hand, but you're just worried about inconveniencing them. Good luck!
Clare12345
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+1 on getting the cat. I got one a few weeks ago. Good for my daughter and I both. I also am "dating" but its more like not dating and just a really good role model in my daughters life.... Very weird, not sure its going to work out, but at least they get along really well. Its my backwards situation 
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I read somewhere recently that someone thought that 'marriage is outdated'. Its totally possibly true. We need someone, but who says it has to be a husband we're stuck with every day. Someday soon a bunch of mommies should start living together. Free babysitting!
. I read somewhere recently that someone thought that 'marriage is outdated'. Its totally possibly true. We need someone, but who says it has to be a husband we're stuck with every day. Someday soon a bunch of mommies should start living together. Free babysitting!
bloodbinds
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I think random dates are possible, but actually building a relationship?? Doubtful methinks.
I mean, think how hard it is! I don't want a possible partner to be introduced to Bella until i'm serious about him, and to have a new boyfriend around while i'm being a mummy isn't a great start to a relationship. I wouldn't be able to give him the attention he would want most likely! So i would either need to put Bella in nursery while i go out on dates, or fob her off with my parents or sisters while i go off with my man, and i would just feel really guilty and horrible doing it. Baby comes first after all!
So i think for me it's going to be difficult, unless maybe i meet a man at work when i go back to work?
*sigh*
Lucky for me i'm not looking for a relationship or anything at all really. I tried one date and it made me realise i am sooooo not ready!! Lol.
I mean, think how hard it is! I don't want a possible partner to be introduced to Bella until i'm serious about him, and to have a new boyfriend around while i'm being a mummy isn't a great start to a relationship. I wouldn't be able to give him the attention he would want most likely! So i would either need to put Bella in nursery while i go out on dates, or fob her off with my parents or sisters while i go off with my man, and i would just feel really guilty and horrible doing it. Baby comes first after all!
So i think for me it's going to be difficult, unless maybe i meet a man at work when i go back to work?
*sigh*
Lucky for me i'm not looking for a relationship or anything at all really. I tried one date and it made me realise i am sooooo not ready!! Lol.
Although I'm not a single parent (or a parent for that matter) I'd advise ladies on here not to give up hope. Talking from a male perspective, there are some men put off if a woman has a child. However, there are quite a lot that aren't. I know plenty of single mothers that have dates or boyfriends after having a child with a previous partner.
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lushious09
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i think itl be better dating when u have a baby least u can tell genuine men from the pricks!... a guy who will still be intrested in u even if u have a baby is a decent bloke as he dosnt judge ur past nor ur lifestyle but has a genuin intrest to you...he aint all about a one nyt stand either... just txt them and meet up with them when u can! i plan on doin a nursing course next year so my baby will be babysat most of the time so i see no diff in this x
Ju_bubbs
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You'd be suprised lol.. Ive been a single mum on and off for many years now, blokes will actually use the kids to their advantage if they just wanna get you in bed! The lengths some go to in unbelievable
lushious09
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ive decided when ever i meet anyone they will no from start i have a son... as soon as they start flirting with me in a sexual mannor (u no how guys turn everything u say into a sex advance) itl be a no go for me!
