Dear LTTTC Ladies...

[nolansmom]

I've been browsing this forum for many months as I do with various forums on BnB. I often read your vent thread as I appreciate the blatant honesty in it. I've also wanted to post here for some time but I didn't want to stir up any trouble (my threads sometimes do that)..

As someone who hasn't experienced fertility issues it's easy to take for granted how easy it is to get pregnant either accidentally or intentionally. I hope it doesn't sound silly but I often talk to friends (pregnant or otherwise) and remind them of how it's not so easy for everyone and that many women have struggled with having a LO. I feel like it's something all women should consider and be compassionate and empathetic about.

Anyway, I'm not in your shoes and can't claim to understand for even a moment what you ladies have or are going through but I wanted all of you to know that I read your posts and hope that you all can get your BFP's. Not everyone who visits this site simply bypasses without giving your struggles thought and consideration.

I wish all of you BFP's and H&H pregnancies.

L

 

[YearningHeart]

nolansmom - Awwwwww thats so sweet of you and touching. Its nice to hear from someone who is fertile. I really hope all those and me who have been TTC do see a BFP soon. I didnt ever think I would ever be LTTTC. In fact I thought baby making was easy what could be so hard?!
The little did I realise. I learnt so much during my journey of TTC and still am. I never know what PCOS was or even IVF! Thats how naive I was. Now I feel I have become an expert on IVF.
x

 

[zanDark]

It's lovely to see some empathy and support from someone who has never dealt with such issues How wonderful!

As someone who went through 3 years of LTTTC, I often come back to this forum and silently pray for all the women here, I avoid posting because I'm worried of causing upset and bad feelings that I know all too well and completely understand...LTTTC leaves scars even after you've gotten your BFP, it's not something you forget!

Hopefully a day will come when this area of the forum will be empty and all the wonderful ladies that are posting here will have their beautiful and healthy babies in their arms

 

[YearningHeart]

ZanDark - Your message is so lovely! I think I would still come to this forum too after BFP. The ladies here are so lovely and supportive. I dont share my TTC journey with no one other than DH and here. So I like coming here, there is so much DH can understand, hes a man at the end of the day - Sometimes you just need a girlie chat. Congratulations on your BFP by the way. Did you get a BFP naturally/IVF?

X

 

[zanDark]

Thank you lovely We got out bfp with ICSI due to a very low sperm count.

I'm hoping to see good news from you and all the other ladies here very soon x

 

[YearningHeart]

Thats good! exciting exciting! When is your due date? Hope all works out for you. My 1st round of IVF failed and I think it will be good few weeks or maybe even months before the next one starts. In the meantime I want to take the best chances possible for a natural BFP. X

 

[zanDark]

I'm so sorry to hear about your IVF! going through the entire process and getting a bfn is heart breaking!!

Lots of baby dust to you and prayers that you will conceive naturally soon

I'm 33 weeks today, so almost there I turn off my signature with the ticker in here to avoid making the lovely ladies feeling upset.

Loads of baby dust to everyone

 

[YearningHeart]

ZanDark - Awww your so understanding. I get happy when I hear about ladies who have been TTC then see a BFP on B&B however I get upset when I hear a friend/family with news of BFP. Just today I heard of a familys BFP. I my IVF worked out then both of our due e would of been like 2 weeks apart. That made me in tears. It sucks when everyone you know get a BFP and they have so many babies and Im stuck to even conceive one. Im so happy for her dont get me wrong, I just wish I could have my mommet.
Anyways enough of me ranting one. I feel rubbish right now. x

 

[wannabemummyb]

I've been browsing this forum for many months as I do with various forums on BnB. I often read your vent thread as I appreciate the blatant honesty in it. I've also wanted to post here for some time but I didn't want to stir up any trouble (my threads sometimes do that)..

As someone who hasn't experienced fertility issues it's easy to take for granted how easy it is to get pregnant either accidentally or intentionally. I hope it doesn't sound silly but I often talk to friends (pregnant or otherwise) and remind them of how it's not so easy for everyone and that many women have struggled with having a LO. I feel like it's something all women should consider and be compassionate and empathetic about.

Anyway, I'm not in your shoes and can't claim to understand for even a moment what you ladies have or are going through but I wanted all of you to know that I read your posts and hope that you all can get your BFP's. Not everyone who visits this site simply bypasses without giving your struggles thought and consideration.

I wish all of you BFP's and H&H pregnancies.

L

Really nice of you to post its a good thing when people talk about infertility it makes it less of a taboo subject and you maybe surprised to find out someone you know might open up to you about their struggles, it effects more people than you'd think.

I thought when i started trying it would happen within a year! Dh thought we'd get preggers straight away but it didn't happen.

 

[YearningHeart]

wannabemummy - Yeah thats what I thought. Being pregnant is easy and simple.

 

[wannabemummyb]

wannabemummy - Yeah thats what I thought. Being pregnant is easy and simple.

And it seems for many it is just that easy my friend got her bfp whilst on the pill!

 

[YearningHeart]

Really? One of my friend had 3 kids, seriously one after the other, not even half the year went past and she got pregnant. Some peoples body is super fertile.

 

[StorkStalker]

One of my friends also got pg while on the pill.. twice!
And I´ve seen many of my friends have 2-3 babies while we´ve been trying to conceive... One of them even had 4 (4 separate pg)!!

None of them seem to get it.. none of this... they just tell me to relax (still after everything, 1 mc, 1 ectopic, almost 6 yrs trying, etc) and that when my time will come it will come...

I remember watching Giuliana and Bill and feeling like on the same boat (kind of) and now their baby is 1 year already.. I´m happy for them, because she had struggled but still..

Anyways thanks to the ones who understand... It is not simple nor easy to get pg and have a healthy baby...

 

[YearningHeart]

Stork - Yeah I know its hard. I always hear of pregnancy be it family or friends. There is always someone I know that is pregnant. Sometimes I brush to a side and it does not bother me much however sometimes it really hurts. Its so painful and the worst part of it is not knowing how long it will be before there a BFP. Weeks? Months? Years? These things always run across my mind.
x