***December Dreamers*** 70 babies born***

[sammiwry]

Ness I dunno how you cope I'd be going stir crazy with the amount of sleep you get a night

 

[Nessicle]

I am Sammi can't you tell lol I'm a walking misery guts right now!

 

[sammiwry]

I am Sammi can't you tell lol I'm a walking misery guts right now!

Well now you mention it..... I'd be on the verge of killing people... Wait I think I might be at that point...

 

[GoogilyBear]

Googly, correct me if im wrong but im sure i can remeber you staying you had strep b. If you do thats why you cant have a water birth

yeah ive strep b, but they still told me it would be okay for me to have a waterbirth.

NO offense to anyone here, i am greatful for all your support and advise etc, i dont know what i would have been like without you lot,
but its my decision, i know your just looking out for me and saying the docs know best, but for once i am putting myself first, i really would like my baby born in water, its something ive had my heart set on. Its entirely up to me.

My OH agree's that we have been messed about so much that its time to take a stand. We were so happy when they first told us we could have the baby in the waterbirth pool, and that all was well and okay.

I hope none of you take this the wrong way, i really do apprieciate you all wanting to give me advise etc.

And as for giving Docs some slack, its all i have been doing untill now :/

 

[Nessicle]

That's all we can do is offer Advice Googily as were not medical professionals obviously. Do you not want the safest delivery for your baby though? If they'd told me it's not safe to do something then I'd listen to them 100% they're not trying to take your dream birth away from you at all just wanting you and the baby to be safe and is t that the most important thing?

 

[GoogilyBear]

That's all we can do is offer Advice Googily as were not medical professionals obviously. Do you not want the safest delivery for your baby though? If they'd told me it's not safe to do something then I'd listen to them 100% they're not trying to take your dream birth away from you at all just wanting you and the baby to be safe and is t that the most important thing?

Its not that i dont want the safest way. none of us know how our labour is going to go, who knows we may all end up having an emergancy c sections, i just want some form of a plan that i am comfortable with, and if i go in and its totally impossible then okay i hold my hands up and i will change my ways, but untill we know how labours going to go i would like to have my own peace of mind and know what i am going into.

 

[Nessicle]

Oh no I completely agree i don't have a birth plan cos I don't know what will happen personally I don't think it's realistic but you just seem dead set 100% on a waterbirth that you've been advised isn't safe so that's obviously not an option??

Everyone is entitled to have the birth they want but within reason and you were saying stuff the doctors basically ...I'm just a bit confused now...?

 

[sammiwry]

I have to agree with ness, normally I am all for fighting the medical profession to get what I want out of treatment as at 21 and I dont enjoy having plates in my foot and a back that is older than it should be because they kept trying to fob me off. But I do not know what is best for my baby, they do, they have been to uni and spent years since learning and researching as to how to make things as easy as possible with babies best interests at heart.

 

[Pixxie]

Just checking in quickly while Lyra is asleep!

Congrats to all the new mummies, sorry I don't have time to go back and read who has actually had babies.

We came home last night at about half 6, had a bit of a tough night with Lyra not settling and me being shattered since I hardly got any sleep in the hospital. In the end OH had to get up and go downstairs with her so I could get a few hours in between feeds. She's feeding well but gets a bit too comfy and gives up, so I keep having to take her clothes off and play with her feet to stop her falling asleep! Breastfeeding is a bit uncomfortable but bearable, stitches hurt though and it's painful to sit down. I'm surprised how little belly I have already, I just have a bit of saggy podge

Hope we get some more new mums soon! xxx

 

[sammiwry]

Nice to hear from you pixxie! Can't wait to see pics!!

 

[Nessicle]

Nice to hear from you Pixxie! Glad Lyra is settling in well sorry you're having trouble bf-ing sure it'll get easier

Hope the stitches heal soon!

 

[GoogilyBear]

Oh no I completely agree i don't have a birth plan cos I don't know what will happen personally I don't think it's realistic but you just seem dead set 100% on a waterbirth that you've been advised isn't safe so that's obviously not an option??
Everyone is entitled to have the birth they want but within reason and you were saying stuff the doctors basically ...I'm just a bit confused now...?

Okay... this is going to be difficult to explain.
I am not saying stuff the doctors, yes they may know whats best for baby, but how do they know whats best for me?

I am set on having a waterbirth yes, this is based on the fact that water is my main form of pain relief as due to the needle phobia, i dont particully want to be prodded with them everytime i cannot cope with the pain. But there is another underlying reason i would like a waterbirth too, and to avoid the needles.
I feel asthough that if i exsplain why ive this phobia for you, you will understand, but posting on a forum something so personal would be a big step, its so hard to get my point across without it. The doctors know about it but they dont seem to care but my OH and family know about it and they totally agree that a waterbirth would be best if its what i want. Ive got all of there support on this.
Its taken me a long time to come to terms with having the canulla put in, but even thats going to be fairly traumatic. I know they can put the pain relief in the canulla to make it easier for me, but they still have to bring it near me to put it in.

The MW's are willing to compramise, and let me have the canulla and have the drip next to the pool so there is no problem there. I dont understand the blood pressure thing myself, thats something i will discuss with them when i go in on the 24th.

I have to agree with ness, normally I am all for fighting the medical profession to get what I want out of treatment as at 21 and I dont enjoy having plates in my foot and a back that is older than it should be because they kept trying to fob me off. But I do not know what is best for my baby, they do, they have been to uni and spent years since learning and researching as to how to make things as easy as possible with babies best interests at heart.

I agree they know whats best for baby, but they do they know whats best for me?
Doctors are more bothered about our babies then they ever will be about us, but i feel in order to make baby safe they need to make us feel safe first, and if that means disagreeing with them then so be it.

do you see what ia m getting at..? its so hard to describe :/
i can say all the right things in my head but writing them down is so hard, i am worried i am contradicting myself but i dont think i am, its just so hard to describe :'(

I am fed up with shedding tears over this, i am fed up of people telling me what i can and carnt do, what i can and carnt eat or drink. I just want to be me, and for doctors or whatever to accept that.

I just want this all over and done with.

I think that i am having a really bad day back ache really is not helping.

 

[Mizze]

Hey Pixxie! :wave:

Nice to hear from you, lovely to hear about Lyra

Hope your stitches get better soon.

Mizze xx

 

[sammiwry]

But now isn't a time to demand whats best for us, we have taken the decision to have a baby an now we need to put there needs before ours no matter how much discomfort and annoyance it causes us

 

[YoungNImum]

Well went to the Mw this morning, on my own, as OH started a new job this morning, which we where over the moon about being so close to x-mas and baby coming.
But MW has made me an emergency appointment for 3:15 as she isnt sure if my baby is developing proberly. Iv to get a growth scan and anomaly scan. IV only pulled myself together from gettin out of the doctors at 10:30 iv only managed to stop crying, I dont wont to call OH to worry him while he is working so my mum is going to go to hospital with me. Im just so upset i dont think ill be able to pull myself together while im in the hospital.

 

[Nessicle]

Ive come over feeling dizzy and sick had something to eat so it's not blood sugar levels...weird maybe it's just over tiredness...

No ones having a go Googily just trying to understand that's all - perhaps were just struggling to understand given your other personal issues were not aware of

 

[GoogilyBear]

well thats your opinion. your entitled to yours am me to mine.

 

[Nessicle]

Courtney how scary Hun I hope everything is ok! Starcrossed one of my bump buddies had to have lots of growth scans as her little boy wasnt growing as well as hey wanted they delivered him early and thigh he's small he's perfectly formed so Thoth I know it must be so worrying try not to worry too much til you've had your scan chances are baby is fine xxx

 

[GoogilyBear]

I know none of you are having ago.

If i could share with you all i would. Its taken me ten years to get over it, its going to effect every part of me going into labour.

If it wasnt going to bother me so much, then yeah i would happily let the docs do whatever they like, but sadly its going to effect me greatly, and ive got to make sure they understand.

I dont want you all thinking i am being selfish, or as though i have an excuse for everything. But its something ive got to do out of my own peace of mind, ive put this baby first over everything else so far, its just this one thing i am asking for. ONE thing.

 

[WILSMUM]

Just checking in quickly while Lyra is asleep!

Congrats to all the new mummies, sorry I don't have time to go back and read who has actually had babies.

We came home last night at about half 6, had a bit of a tough night with Lyra not settling and me being shattered since I hardly got any sleep in the hospital. In the end OH had to get up and go downstairs with her so I could get a few hours in between feeds. She's feeding well but gets a bit too comfy and gives up, so I keep having to take her clothes off and play with her feet to stop her falling asleep! Breastfeeding is a bit uncomfortable but bearable, stitches hurt though and it's painful to sit down. I'm surprised how little belly I have already, I just have a bit of saggy podge

Hope we get some more new mums soon! xxx

Hey pixxie good to hear from you! BF really helps shrink yr belly down quickly! I'm not BF but managed to get back into my pre preg jeans within 2 weeks of having Ailsa - still have a bit of flab which hangs over my scar and that will take time to go as I need to heal internally!

I know what you mean with the feeding (kinda) Ailsa will drinkhalf a bottle and then fall asleep but we've found that it we change her bum half way through then that wakes her up enough to finish the bottle.

U'll be amazed at how quickly she'll change and she will settle down into a routine for you soon