Depressed because I don't like any boy names - RANT!

[FiNZ]

We have a girl's name sorted, but I'm totally stuck for a boy's name, if this baby turns out to be a boy. It's REALLY getting me down. I have a couple of names that I like, but nothing I LOVE, so all I'd be doing is settling for a name. My son is already named the only boy name I really love, and the other name I really like is my brother's name, so I think that would be a bit weird.

Anyway, my husband is being really unhelpful, because he is convinced it's a girl, and his suggestion is ..... (I SO HOPE I DON'T OFFEND ANYONE HERE) .... Jesus. But pronounced the Spanish way, like 'Hey-seuss'. How fuckin ridiculous. I don't know if he's joking or not. I think he's winding me up, but he keeps saying it and I'm not finding it at all funny or helpful.

I guess I should add here that at our 19 wk ultrasound we were told girl (we haven't told a single soul that we were told this), but I don't think it is because we had a 4D scan and it looked like a boy face to me. We had my in-laws in the room with us at the 4D scan, so I couldn't ask the ultrasound tech to confirm gender because of course we're pretending we're team yellow.

So maybe my husband is just saying Jesus because he trusts 100% that the ultrasound tech at our 19 wk scan is correct, but I just don't want to fully count on her being right. I don't know why I'm so paranoid. Well, it's just me I guess.

Anyway, thanks for reading if you've made it this far. I needed to rant. x

 

[aley28]

I could never name my child Jesus. I'm with you on that one!

Coming up with names is stressful. Not really sure what else to say

 

[Duejan2012]

WHen i find out we were having aboy this time omg i was happy but the name thing is killing me. I still dont have a for sure name. I have alot of girl names but not one boy. I figured too that we would have both a girl and boy name just incase but i had the gender confirmed at 30 weeks as long as 19 weeks. My husband keeps saying eeker. Like some soccer player in spain OMG!! lol so i completely understand you!

 

[Trying4Angel1]

It's such a husband thing to suggest names like that. My hubby wanted to name our baby Ruude. Like... Okay ... If we lived in holland, maybe. But we live in alberta. The poor kid would be tormented forever!!

Men... What are they thinking!

 

[BrokenfoREVer]

Don't stress about it. I'm sure your LO is a girl

But, if not, just have a look at his face & a name will come to you, don't get really hung up on choosing a name, when you might look at him & decide it doesn't suit him anyway.

 

[Lady_Bee]

Aw I know what you mean, boys names are so much harder than girls names.

I think so many girls names are all about aesthetics, so I would guess that most women probably find it easier to think of girls names - they're just a lot PRETTIER than boys names!!

I was quite disheartened when I found out my baby was a boy and I had a grand total of about 3 names I vaguely liked, all of which my husband hated ha ha. I went through those name websites and just scanned down the list thinking, "no, no, no, no, no, YUCK, no, no, no.... NO..." it was very depressing. But over time many of the names grew on me, and now we've decided on Alexander which I do genuinely think is a lovely, strong name for a boy. Not sure about a middle name yet but I'm not stressing about that as I know it will come

Don't worry. If your baby is a boy, you WILL find a name for him that you like or even love. Maybe you won't like it in the same way that you love the girls names that you picked - this might just be me completely overthinking things or being a weirdo, but I found that in choosing a boys name I had to kind of change my mindset from "what sounds and looks prettiest" to "what evokes good, strong qualities of character". And, somehow, that helped me to like a lot of boys names that I didn't like before.

 

[Nathyrra]

Boys names are a nightmare. I've had a girls name picked since I was a teenager and boys names always sound so boring or normal to me. The only one I ever liked was my first sons name and so naming a second boy was really stressy. We finally figured a name and have settled into the pregnancy now. It's weird how depressed you can feel when you can't think of name, I can empathise.

 

[flippityflop]

There is also nothing wrong with using your brother's name. It's a nice tribute (unless you hate him!)

 

[cantwaitforu]

I wouldn't name my boy Jesus either!

It was very difficult for DH and I to come up with boys names and agree on them. Fortunately for us, DH is Italian, so it opened up a new set of names we could choose from that sound nice with his last name.

We decided on Sebastiano - actually, it was DH's least favourite of our top three, but my heart was so set on it because I thought it was a strong, charming and slightly uncommon name. DH let me have it after a bit of whining and crying! LOL

If you are struggling with names, try to narrow it down with different criteria:

1) Do you want to be able to shorten the name to a nickname? (Thomas to Tom, for example)

2) Do you prefer long or short names?

3) Any religious affilitation? (the name of a Saint, for example)

4) Do you prefer classic, traditional names, or new names?

5) Will your child be made fun of?

6) Can you picture your son's name on a resume and be taken seriously in a professional environment?

Here are a few that we liked:

Julian
Elijah
Giacomo (Jack)
Max
Charles
Xavier

Good luck!

 

[Hevalouaddict]

im glad im having a girl, my oh chose the name Ernie Tarquin Claude for a boy, i loved tarquin but ernie was a nono! although my oh chose paige... my oh is called claude so claudette was also thrown in but paige won! yay

 

[Snuffy]

im glad im having a girl, my oh chose the name Ernie Tarquin Claude for a boy, i loved tarquin but ernie was a nono! although my oh chose paige... my oh is called claude so claudette was also thrown in but paige won! yay

Paige was our girl's name from practically the moment we got the BFP. We struggled with boys names so I was a little bit gutted when we found out this one was a boy and in my head I was wailing "but what about my Paige???"

The only boys name we both really like is Oliver so I don't care how popular it is at the moment, he will be Oliver (or Ollie for short).

It is a complete about turn from last time when we had several boys names and couldn't think of any girls names we could agree on. I think it was about the same stage I am now that I said what about Amy and he said that's nice, so from that moment decision made lol.

Unfortunately all our boys names from last time were no-go this time. Number one was Adam, but DH now works with an Adam who is apparently a knob so that's out. The others were Matthew and Daniel - since returning to work I work for both a Matt and Dan and I'm not having people think I named my child after my boss

 

[xdxxtx]

My OH and I had a girl's name lined up, and we were both POSITIVE we were having a girl. Actually, we were in shock when we saw a penis in our anomaly scan, but there was no denying it. We went through every "boy" name there was. Nothing we liked. So, we ended up going through androgynous/unisex names and found one we LOVE. We know of a girl who has the name and a famous man who has the name, and we're very happy with it. So, if "boy" names aren't doing it for you, try looking at unisex names - there are plenty of kinda masculine ones out there that many girls have (like Jordan! I didn't know it was a unisex name until I met a girl in college with the name.) and there are some kinda girly ones that many boys have.

 

[chasemanzmum]

Cameron Lewis is what we are naming our boy. GL finding a name that fits.

 

[hellywelly]

We thought we were having a little girl and had loads of names for her - Connie was 1st with Alice as a 2nd. For boys names we found it really difficult - I only liked the name Harry and hubby was 90% there - he didn't have any ideas for any other names. But here are some other names that I absolutely love but because friends or family have called their LO's this I couldn't choose them - they are:

Luke
Matthew
Anthony
James
William

Obviously now Harry is here I could not imagine him being any thing different - but hopefully these are some more suggestions for you. Also I wouldn't call my bubba Jesus - hope that your hubby is joking as this could be a sticking point xxx

 

[FiNZ]

Thanks everyone for your replies and suggestions. They were so helpful!

Guess what? I had to have a growth scan today, as I have measured 2 weeks behind at my last 2 midwife appts, and it was confirmed that we are definitely team pink!!! So I don't need to stress anymore. But I will have a few boy names to tell people if they ask what our boy names are, as we're not telling anyone we know we're having a girl!!

xxxx

 

[diamondgem27]

You wouldn't be allowed to name your baby jesus I don't think. The registry office has restrictions on certain names such as jesus and god x.

 

[Eilidh_x]

We are having the exact same problem! Soo many girls names that I like then every time me and my fiance pick a boys name, a couple of days later I hate it!

Here's a few that we kind of like:
Jack
Christian
Ben
Ollie
Ross
Adam

Good luck!

 

[poppy666]

I always struggled with boy names than girls... congratz on team pink

 

[jess181989]

Boys names were difficult for us as well- I know completely where you are coming from!! FOB was no help he kept suggesting stuff like sparticus and titan 'oh yeah babe, it will be well cool when he introduces himself I AM SPARTICUS'...... urm, no- he would be teased forever and a day! Men eh!!

We just sat down with a long list of 'possibles' and crossed out the ones we really didn't like and eventually ended with Harry.

If you really can't thing of anything, I'm sure when you see him it will be easier? You have at least the first day or so to give him a name once he arrives.

xx

 

[Nyssa1991]

i was completely the opposite, Oh was adament it was a boy, and we had a boys name picked and our hearts set on it, Cailan Vincent Lee, all 3 names had special significance to us
Cailan is Gaelic for Collin (my late uncle)
Vincent (my OH's late uncle)
Lee (my dad, who is also my best friend)

and at 22 weeks we found out we wer having a girl
had no idea for girl names
all the ones he liked i hated, all the ones i liked he hated
he had - Joanna Beth, Bethany ann, Mikayla
i had - Demi Louise, Casey, Cayla
his mum tried getting us to compramise with Mikayla on the birth cert and calling her cayla, i was disgusted as i would know her name was not Cayla and it was Mikayla, and in high school it would prob go to Macca :s blah horrible name lol

so eventually last week we got Layla Ann Louise