DH doesn't want to BD.....

[Briss]

Congratulations, H&H 9 months (well what's left of them), very inspiring

the problem with my Dh is that we never have sex and he does not masturbate either, so we have 0-1 sessions in TWW and 2-3 BD sessions during my fertile days so what happens is that when it comes to BD before O his sperms have been sitting there for 2-3 weeks (not 4 days like yours) so I guess it's just not a good quality of sperm (on top of the fact that he has low sperm count). it all seems hopeless

porn does help but again, it seems like I have to almost force him to look through magazines …

 

[notrustyyet]

There is much more debauchery available on the internet...(so I'm told lol) maybe more of a selection to peak his interest vs magazines? Your hubby is much younger than mine, I understand everyone has an individual drive, but like someone else said maybe his testosterone is low??? I think it's pretty unusual for a guy not to masturbate. I did read somewhere that sperm production does go way down if no activity for more than 1 week. So his body is probably just starting to build up again when your window is over....

Another thing, my DH started when things weren't happening in the baby making dept. decided to get himself into better shape, started lifting weights at home again that had been collecting dust. Let me tell you, the erections/sex he had post workout were way better than usual, and guess what, Testosterone levels rise right after a weight lifting session. Don't get wrong idea, my DH is just an average guy, not a muscle bound gym buff or anything, he just added maybe 15-20 minutes a few times a week, did some push ups etc and it helped his ego too to get in better shape.

 

[Briss]

I also think his testosterone is low so i am giving him supplements for this, also he started exercising too which I hope will help. although after a short weight lifting session he is so exhausted that he does not feel like BD

I am surprised myself that he does not masturbate, he is not religious or anything so I guess it's just lack of sex drive

 

[Zeri]

Congratulations, H&H 9 months (well what's left of them), very inspiring

the problem with my Dh is that we never have sex and he does not masturbate either, so we have 0-1 sessions in TWW and 2-3 BD sessions during my fertile days so what happens is that when it comes to BD before O his sperms have been sitting there for 2-3 weeks (not 4 days like yours) so I guess it's just not a good quality of sperm (on top of the fact that he has low sperm count). it all seems hopeless

porn does help but again, it seems like I have to almost force him to look through magazines …

To get rid of the stale swimmers, how about having one BD session a few days away from O, then the other 2 sessions in the fertile window?

 

[Briss]

he is not up for any BD unless I make it clear that this is the day. I guess there only way to get his sperm moving outside my fertile window is for me to give him a blow job now and again, not my favorite thing but if it gets me where I want to be in the end it is all worth it

 

[Suzy_Q]

I was going to suggest the bj a few days before your fertile window. My OH loves them and in a pinch, I've been known to use the "baby batter" via softcups. He even suggests that I may not have gotten all the broken bad sperm out of his system and should try again soon If he's willing to make the contribution, I need to be willing to help him along as best I can!