Did your OH 'wet the babies head?' (bit of a rant)

[shortie1990]

Right, I know it's 'tradition' for the blokes to go out and 'wet the babies head' - any excuse to get drunk! But what do you think about it?

Just when Riley was born, In was in hospital and OH went out with my dad and a few others and got ridiculously drunk, ended up throwing a pint..and the glass.. Anlt the land lady and got barred.. (I wast told at the time) but OH mentioned about where they could go this time and was thinking of places easy toget to via train.. But I think it's incredibly selfish to be thinking of this and plannin it, because if everything goes to plan, I'm hoping to be giving birth at the birthing centre, which I won't be staying the night if it's not necessary, in which case, I come home with a new baby and a 16 month old.. And he goes out on the piss.. I don't think so matey! I will need his help! And if I do need to stay the night, I want him to be at home with Riley, I dint want Riley at any one else's house for any longer than needed, and for him to go out drinking is not a valid reason IMO?

When this was mentioned when my mum was there she just said oh it's tradition dont be unfair... What the actual hell???

I'm not saying he CAN'T, I'm just saying can we please just let me give birth to her first and see how things are, and give it a couple of weeks, i will need OH to give Riley more attention and what not so I don't feel like I'm abandoning him for a new baby!

What are your thoughts ladies, what did your OHs do about wetting the babies head? (especially for 2nd(+) time mothers?)

 

[cherryglitter]

i wouldn't put up with it!

 

[shortie1990]

I ain't arsed about the going wetting the babies head, celebrating, but just a tiny bit of though to how I might actually need his help would be nice.. Without my mum sticking up for him!

 

[Natasha2605]

I think it's absolutely ridiculous. ''Yeah welcome to fatherhood...now time to get pissed''

Na doesn't sit well with me at all!

 

[Twister]

I think the whole wetting babies head thing is just an excuse to get drunk. Have words with your oh and explain that with a young LO and a new born you are going to need the extra help from him. He can celebrate in a couple of weeks when everything has settled down a bit.

 

[leahsmummy443]

i hate the whole idea, think its ridiculous and my oh will not be going to 'wet the babies head' how stupid, you have just had a baby and that means lets go and get so drunk we dont remember anything and act like idiots... one of our friends had a 'wet the babies head' thing and he ended up being sick into his pint and then as a drunken dare drank it again!! i mean, wtf?? how is that the way to start fatherhood? oh can go and have A PINT with his mates to 'toast' to the birth of his new daughter, that will be all. i wont put up with that silly excuse!!

 

[lozzy21]

God no, OH dident go out after Niamh was born for 5 weeks and that was for his work xmass party that he had already had a ticket for (she was early) and even then he came home crying because he missed us.

So no your not being unreasonable especially after last time, all you need his him locked up in a cell for 24 hours.

 

[amie-leigh]

my OH assumed he would be going out the night i had morgan but i got home and didn't have a very smooth delivery so needed help
he did go out about a week later saying he was going for one or two drinks and a few games of pool he stumbled in at 3am and smelled like he had bathed in the pubs drip tray
i was not happy i think it is a stupid tradition and one that was clearly made up by a man

 

[Blah11]

Mine did but not til amelie was a few weeks old. He was out til like 4am and came home very drunk. I was not impressed!

 

[shortie1990]

God no, OH dident go out after Niamh was born for 5 weeks and that was for his work xmass party that he had already had a ticket for (she was early) and even then he came home crying because he missed us.

So no your not being unreasonable especially after last time, all you need his him locked up in a cell for 24 hours.

exactly what I've said to him!

 

[xolily]

i don't think it's tradition that it has to be on the night of the birth.. does it? i wouldn't have bothered if my OH wanted to but he didn't. just say you don't mind him going but not on that night for the reasons you've explained! x

 

[lozzy21]

I think it used to be done on the night the baby was born since it used to be normal for the woman to be in hospital for a week so it dident matter but now most woman are out with in 6 hours then its causing a few arguments.

 

[Tasha]

My BIL spent two weeks 'wetting the babies head' when our oldest was born OH went out once about three weeks later, but wasnt pissed just went out with his friends to celebrate becoming a Daddy. He didnt do it with the second, cos like you ours were close together in age (15 months) and I needed the support, in fact regardless of age gap, or how many others you have I think the least you can expect is support from your OH in the first few days, not as if they have carried the baby or anything

 

[amazed]

I wouldnt be impressed thank god hubby dont have many friends and dont drink much lol...x

 

[shortie1990]

I wouldnt be impressed thank god hubby dont have many friends and dont drink much lol...x

OH doesnt really have many friends as such, but he'll be going out with my Dad, both of them LOVE to drink, but neither of them know when to stop, and each time they've been out day drinking, its ended badly.. so whydoes my dad want to ENCOURAGE him???

 

[tallybee]

Oh dear... I have to say leaving you on your own to cope while he goes to get rat-arsed is a very selfish thing to do. Tradition is no excuse.

 

[lesleyann]

Oh never went out to wet kyles head, so I doubt he will this time, We can Wet both childrens head at our wedding reception

 

[lhancock90]

OH did but only because he had to go into work to fill in his paternity/holiday forms and his work mates took him for a pint after, it was a massive night on the lash and i'm finally going out, 13 weeks later.

 

[shortie1990]

Least there are a few OHs out there who seem to have taken advantage of this tradition too..! I don't think he quite realised the fact that I might not be in the night, or me needing help afterwards, but after Riley was born, he didn't go out once I was home, he had the time off work and ran around after me, I just think he's forgotten this bit!

I just didn't want to sound like I was saying NO, I was making him realise it's not going to be like last time he can go for a drink when I won't need his help!

When I said that I'd need help my mum just said that she'd have to come round.. Which isn't the answer either! She should be on my side! not his!! Some times my parents favour him over me - totally unfair!

 

[nickyXjayno]

never heard of it & neither has my oh. he thinks its a bit odd as he would rather be with me & baby than get drunk.