Did your OH 'wet the babies head?' (bit of a rant)

[AshleighR]

I've never heard of it either! Truthfully I'd think the guy was a jerk if he did that. It's one thing to celebrate the birth with friends a week or so later but on the night of the birth? And being so drunk that he can't help out with the newborn would be so frustrating. My husband doesn't drink but if he did, I wouldn't mind him going out for a drink with friends to celebrate as long as he was still functioning when he got home at a decent hour.

 

[oliviarose]

You are not being unreasonable at all. But that is men for you. They don't take the time to think things through properly.

 

[Kiddo]

My OH went out to wet Harvey's head a week or two after he was born. I didn't mind him going out at all but did object to him lying in all morning the next day and moaning about his hangover. This time round his brother tried to organise a night out but OH was having none of it. I think he would rather spend the time trying to catch up on sleep instead of in the pub now!

 

[cleckner04]

I've never even heard of this. My DH would never do something like that.

 

[TennisGal]

Nope, DH bought a lovely bottle of pink champagne and pink Schloer for me (bfing, haha!) both times (pink for the girlies) and we toasted with our family.

 

[sophxx]

No he didn't and if he had I wouldn't have been happy. He did go out fir a meal with sone friends but was home for 8 and it wasn't as soon as lo was born.

 

[KittenKat]

My OH didn't go out and wet any of the babies heads, with our first (Mia) he nipped home quickly for a quick nap as he had had very little sleep for a week as I had been in slow latent labour for what seemed like forever. He then came back to us, picked us up and took me to get a pizza because that was what I was dying for.

With Rosa he went home a couple hours after birth to pick Mia up from babysitter, then came to pick us up and took me for a Maccy D's.

With Kara he spent time with the other two girls pampering them and making cups of tea for me and trying to get my midwife to have one, and as she was born in our front room we waited until evening (after a trip to get bloods done at hospital due to slight mishap in samples) and he got me a chippy.

He spent as much time as was possible with me and his daughters, made sure I was happy and had what I wanted. I was the one that had gone through all the hard work so it was down to me what happened, hence why lots of crappy food was involved hehe

 

[smokey]

As with most things its progressed from what was originaly ment to be a toast of brandy or such and a cigar to celebrate a new life to "lets go and get smashed and off our faces just because we can" but I think this is a typical British attitude to drinking type problem though, everything has because an exscuse to drink more and longer.

Tell him if he insists on doing it that couldnt he please do it say a week later and you dont mind him having A drink but you realy need him to be there for you that night and the first day or two.

I just find it ironic that some think the first thing of being a father is to go and get hammered when in fact there are other more important fatherly things that need doing.

OH never did go out to wet the babies head, he stayed with me till as late as he could then went home and stayed sober just in case he needed to rush back to the hospital for any reason.
My dad and OH's grandad sat in there own homes and had a drink to toast (after my dad finely stoped crying) and that was it

 

[fairy1984]

i would be hurt that my OH would prioritize seeing his mates for drinks over spending the first few precious days with his new child because clearly when men get drunk, they'll be no use the next day at all.

You are completely right to tell him that he can go but just not until the next week or sometime thats convenient.

also, surely you dont know when the baby will be born therefore is it feasible for him to go and get drunk no matter what day of the week it is? what about work the next day?

 

[shortie1990]

Yeh, I think it is just taken this tradition of toasting the new baby, and they've completely ruined it by people like my OH getting smashed! (sort of like stag do tradition)

I was shocked when he mentioned this, but I dot think he thought of the actual reality of it, and when the baby is born going out having a drink will hopefully be the last thing on his mind, as when I came home from hospital last time he had the house in perfect condition and wanted to fuss around after me, just typical bloke opening his mouth and talking about this head wetting with out actually thinking about it first!

I don't mind him going out drinking, I've never stopped him as he's entitled to go and have a drink, usually takes the piss, and I've never said anything, but this time, if the baby is born and he STILL thinks he's going out.. He definitely has another thing coming, that is NOT happening untill I'm confident happy enough to deal with a 16 moth old a new born and a 26 year old drunken mess! Don't think it's fair for me to look after him as well once I've just given birth!

 

[shortie1990]

i would be hurt that my OH would prioritize seeing his mates for drinks over spending the first few precious days with his new child because clearly when men get drunk, they'll be no use the next day at all.

You are completely right to tell him that he can go but just not until the next week or sometime thats convenient.

also, surely you dont know when the baby will be born therefore is it feasible for him to go and get drunk no matter what day of the week it is? what about work the next day?

He didn't really think about it, if I was in hospital he'd not actually be missin any time with us, but this time I'm hoping for the birth centre tk give birth, therefore I won't be staying over night, so that shoots his plans right out the window!

And as for drinking any day of the week, when the baby is born he'll be having time off work, so no, he won't need to be at work the next day, but others may be..

Just typical bloke saying things with out thinking, theres no way we can know how this birth is going to go/ when it's going to happen etc, so in reality he just needs to wait and see how things are before he opens his mouth!

 

[smelly07]

Wetting the babies head IS DEFINITELY just a reason to go out and get pissed!!!

My husband went out to 'wet the babies head' the evening i came home from hospital with my eldest.....he didnt really want to go but his 'step dad' used his typical old talk 'its traddition bullocks and would go on and on until he went...
My husband spent the evening texting me and saying he will be home soon, he only went for an hour or so leaving his step dad at the pub.

With our youngest he didnt 'wet the babies head' but doesnt have the influence of his step dad in his life now......which thankfully is a good thing in a way!!!

 

[lindseymw]

I didn't really care tbh! 1st DS, I was still in hospital when he went out. He phoned me at 4am very very drunk! (I was awake with the baby anyway). DS2 went out when I got back from hospital, he got really drunk then but it didn't really bother me.

 

[emsiee]

Why cant he do it a few days later when your home? That would make more sense...my OH wouldnt go out the day I gave birth, Id kill him. lol

 

[Snowball]

Nope, I doubt he mentions his baby (or his other 3 children) to any of his free and single friends now he's part of their gang! Oh to relive the days of zero responsibility

 

[Midnight_Fairy]

Mine didnt but we dont do drinking really. I would be ok with it if he waited a few days but your not out of line for saying no right away!

 

[AP]

DH dodnt/hasnt and finds it disrespectful guys leaving a woman in the house with a baby on her own all after pregnancy, just so they can get pissed with no responsibilty for that night.

 

[EllaAndLyla]

Tell him straight!! he can go out on the piss 100 times over but he can never spend the night at home with his new born, 16 month old and you for your newborns first night home ever again!! and it is completely unfair to leave you with them both on your first night home together let alone the first 2 weeks really!! He shouldn't be so silly!!!

My OH never did, we have had drinks together after about 2-3 weeks after birth to celebrate BUT that was just us two, at home and we didn''t get smashed! xx

 

[emzky90]

My OH didn't and I'm glad as I would of been so angry if he came home steaming! With one baby it would be bad enough but with two! Ushhh, put you foot down on this one hun! xx

 

[Tegans Mama]

Nope, I think it's ridiculous tbh and very selfish!