jojo2605
Mom to Sam & Dylan
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HI ladies :wave:
Right I have a bit of a problem
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Bit of background. My mom and dad divorced when I was 9 and my mom remarried.
I am very close to my stepdad as he was around from when I was young and he was also kind more like a father to me than my dad. THis is no disrespect to my dad at all, he's not a bad man, I think he just spent so many years after the divorce feeling like the victim that he never really made enough effort with me really. I went to see him regularly though and I still do. I just don't feel he truly knows me as a person & I've never had that 'daddy's little girl' feeling you know?
Here's the issue: I know my dad has to give me away, I couldn't not let him, I would feel like the biggest bitch on earth otherwise. I would ask someone else entirely like one of my brothers but I know that would be making an issue of my dad not doing it and make the day too awkward. So decision's made on that score.
Now, when it comes to the speeches - me and my OH are not good with public speeches and to be frank the thought my dad getting up there and doing the whole 'apple of my eye' speech kinda makes me cringe as I know he'd just crack stupid (unfunny) jokes and wouldn't really have many anecdotes as he hardly remembers how old I am never mind anything else.
Soooooooo, do you think it would be weird if the only speech on the day was done by the best man (well men as OH can't decide between his two best men)? We could give one of them some words to say on our behalf thanking the people we wanted to but then thats it?
I mentioned in passing to my dad that I wasn't keen on having loads of speeches and he looked disappointed at not being able to speak and said 'that's a shame, I'd have liked to have said a few words' so already it's started that I'm getting all stressed at trying to do the right thing my us and not upsetting anyone!
The only other alternative is to have my dad speak and then my stepdad too but I fear that would be weird for them both too!
Arrghhh!!!! This is why I've put off getting married for so long!!
Sorry ladies that turned into a bit of a rant!![dohh :dohh: :dohh:](/styles/default/xenforo/smilies/doh.gif)
Right I have a bit of a problem
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Bit of background. My mom and dad divorced when I was 9 and my mom remarried.
I am very close to my stepdad as he was around from when I was young and he was also kind more like a father to me than my dad. THis is no disrespect to my dad at all, he's not a bad man, I think he just spent so many years after the divorce feeling like the victim that he never really made enough effort with me really. I went to see him regularly though and I still do. I just don't feel he truly knows me as a person & I've never had that 'daddy's little girl' feeling you know?
Here's the issue: I know my dad has to give me away, I couldn't not let him, I would feel like the biggest bitch on earth otherwise. I would ask someone else entirely like one of my brothers but I know that would be making an issue of my dad not doing it and make the day too awkward. So decision's made on that score.
Now, when it comes to the speeches - me and my OH are not good with public speeches and to be frank the thought my dad getting up there and doing the whole 'apple of my eye' speech kinda makes me cringe as I know he'd just crack stupid (unfunny) jokes and wouldn't really have many anecdotes as he hardly remembers how old I am never mind anything else.
Soooooooo, do you think it would be weird if the only speech on the day was done by the best man (well men as OH can't decide between his two best men)? We could give one of them some words to say on our behalf thanking the people we wanted to but then thats it?
I mentioned in passing to my dad that I wasn't keen on having loads of speeches and he looked disappointed at not being able to speak and said 'that's a shame, I'd have liked to have said a few words' so already it's started that I'm getting all stressed at trying to do the right thing my us and not upsetting anyone!
The only other alternative is to have my dad speak and then my stepdad too but I fear that would be weird for them both too!
Arrghhh!!!! This is why I've put off getting married for so long!!
Sorry ladies that turned into a bit of a rant!
![dohh :dohh: :dohh:](/styles/default/xenforo/smilies/doh.gif)