Tripletotskin
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Hello Everyone,
I have a bit of a dilemma, actually, I consider it a huge dilemma and I would appreciate a bit of insight from you. At first, I didn't want to post it here because it seems like such a personal and private dilemma but I started to like the support that I'm seeing from this site so here I am, opening a bit of my private life to all of you...
I am a very happy mother of three beautiful boys (triplets). My husband and I tried to conceive for a couple of years and when we didn't succeed, we went to the doctor to find out why. The doctors didn't find anything, in fact, all our tests turned out normal. Like most couples who could not conceive, we went through infertility treatment and we tried everything until we decided to finally try IVF.
As most of you possibly know by now, we were successful in our first try and we had our triplets. So, every thing turned out great! So you're probably asking by now, where's the dilemma?
Well, the dilemma is, I have leftover embryos that are currently frozen (4 to be exact). I am not sure what to do with them. Discarding them is definitely not an option! Adoption seems to be the best option but I just have this weird feeling about it. I keep thinking that if I give my eggs for adoption, I will always be thinking that somewhere out there is a child of mine. I have also considered getting pregnant again and trying for a girl but the chances of me having multiples will be very high. I would welcome to have multiples again but there are a lot of risks and issues involved. I will be 43 this year, also, quite frankly, I don't think we can afford to have more kids, financially, especially with me not working at the moment. Sigh! What to do...what to do... Any advice, anyone?
I have a bit of a dilemma, actually, I consider it a huge dilemma and I would appreciate a bit of insight from you. At first, I didn't want to post it here because it seems like such a personal and private dilemma but I started to like the support that I'm seeing from this site so here I am, opening a bit of my private life to all of you...
I am a very happy mother of three beautiful boys (triplets). My husband and I tried to conceive for a couple of years and when we didn't succeed, we went to the doctor to find out why. The doctors didn't find anything, in fact, all our tests turned out normal. Like most couples who could not conceive, we went through infertility treatment and we tried everything until we decided to finally try IVF.
As most of you possibly know by now, we were successful in our first try and we had our triplets. So, every thing turned out great! So you're probably asking by now, where's the dilemma?
Well, the dilemma is, I have leftover embryos that are currently frozen (4 to be exact). I am not sure what to do with them. Discarding them is definitely not an option! Adoption seems to be the best option but I just have this weird feeling about it. I keep thinking that if I give my eggs for adoption, I will always be thinking that somewhere out there is a child of mine. I have also considered getting pregnant again and trying for a girl but the chances of me having multiples will be very high. I would welcome to have multiples again but there are a lot of risks and issues involved. I will be 43 this year, also, quite frankly, I don't think we can afford to have more kids, financially, especially with me not working at the moment. Sigh! What to do...what to do... Any advice, anyone?