do men just have a swinging brick???

[vix1989]

Hiya girls!
right heres my issue! yestersday we went for our first scan, just me OH and our 19 month old son!
I was so excited and nervous because i knew i was quite far on! so in the waiting room im sat there(i hate hospitals anyway) really nervous and i kept saying to him i feel so nervous, and he would just say oh right!
i just passed this off as him not really nervous himself! when we got into the room the sonographer had to tell him to sit by the bed with me!!!
when our baba came on screen i looked at him ...HE WASNT EVEN SMILING!!! just looking at the screen it turnd out i am infact 16 not 15 weeks.
Even when the baby started doing funny things like sucking its hand he wasnt faced?!?! WHAT IS WITH THAT!
when the sonographer handed me the photo it only took him till we was in the car for me to say..arent you gunna have a look?
i wanted to celebrate he didnt.
he just dosent seem excited as he was with our first?
does this mean because this is our second its like so wats new?
its really worrying me! he dosent seem to understand he says hel be excited when we find out the sex but that isnt fair!
sorry to rant ladies just very frustrated!
i think if its worked ive attached scan photo if anyones interested! lol

 

[lauren-kate]

I think it's just some guys like to make out that they're not affected by their emotions? Some guys just have trouble letting anyone see how they're feeling about things. Even just some days. Like, my oh will be very emotional some days, but others he'll bottle things up more.

 

[vix1989]

just dont get it he nearly cried with our first born and at the birth! i can see when this one is born hel be like had it bought the tshirt! grrrrrrrrrrr

 

[chica]

Maybe he was really overwhelmed and his emotions were getting all mixed up! Sometimes it takes people a while to get excited about things.. it'll soon sink in and I'm sure he'll finally express some emotion! xx

 

[GersPrincess]

Aww lovely photo chick! Congrats on your pregnancy.
Is your OH maybe just a bit worried about being a Dad of 2? He's maybe worrying that being responsible for 2 children is a lot more than just 1, and he could be worrying about supporting you all?
I'm just going by what happened in our house when we found out we're expecting! DH was all excited about the prospect of us having one of our own (I have 2 kids and he has 1) and then when we actually did fall pregnant after 3 years, he totally shat himself and went all weird... turns out he is just worrying about the jump from 3 kids to 4, meaning bigger car, house, financial worries etc, and he's fine about it now.

 

[CARTER157]

I think us men need to see the baby as a baby in the flesh. You are connected to the bean as its growing inside and some guys need to see the baby (in real life )

 

[vix1989]

Aww lovely photo chick! Congrats on your pregnancy.
Is your OH maybe just a bit worried about being a Dad of 2? He's maybe worrying that being responsible for 2 children is a lot more than just 1, and he could be worrying about supporting you all?
I'm just going by what happened in our house when we found out we're expecting! DH was all excited about the prospect of us having one of our own (I have 2 kids and he has 1) and then when we actually did fall pregnant after 3 years, he totally shat himself and went all weird... turns out he is just worrying about the jump from 3 kids to 4, meaning bigger car, house, financial worries etc, and he's fine about it now.

thank you!!!
ive asked him if hes worried about us being a family of four soon and he says hes not orried in the slightest unless hes lying! lol i know hes a little worried about financial situations hes not getting many hours at work due to credit crunch

 

[lauren-kate]

Actually, thinking about it more... my ex NEVER wanted to see the scan photo, even when I asked him. I don't think he saw it until after Ryan was born. I agree with what CARTER says in that women have all the bonding BEFORE the baby is born, but for men it's harder because they don't have the feelings and ties to an unborn baby that the woman has.

Also, didn't mention before, but your scan picture is lovely. I'm so broody right now..

 

[NuttyJester]

To be honest, I wasn't as excited as OH, so it's not just men! I could've waited a few more years to see it!!!

 

[vix1989]

hmmmm thats a fair point actually...i never actually realised women could be not as emotional it honestly never crossed my mind.
im not saying theres anything wrong with it tho...it just hurt that OH didnt seem that bothered

 

[scottishgal89]

hey...long time no speak.
sorry to hear your oh is being a pain too. i hope he gets better.
i just wanted to say thanks for posting your scan pic.
i think my scan will be when im at 16weeks and i was curious as to what id be able to see. its amazing eh?!
xx

 

[amie-leigh]

hi i know in not in 2nd tri but just thought i'd let you know that this was an issue with my OH as well he seemed really unbothered by it which surprised me as i miscarried in 2007 it wasn't until we found out the sex at 19weeks he actually started to show emotion, now he wont shut up about the baby (which is a good thing sometimes), i asked he why and he said thats when it really hit him that we were having a baby lol

 

[moomoo]

My OH was the same when we went for our first scan..i was nervous due to past mc and needed just to hold his hand and he just sat there with his arms folded watching dickinsons real deal on the effing telly!! grrr

He was very quiet in the scan room, then went for a fag whilst i had my bloods done..i was like - i hope you take more bloody interest when baby is here!!

What men dont seem to realise is, you need emotional support when you are carrying the baby moreso than after.. bloody men..who'd av em!!

xx

 

[Waiting4Baby]

I've seen my OH go through a lot with me right by him... I'd not seen him really show much emotion about much of anything (other than anger, of course, 'cause that's 'acceptable' for a man to show). But then our puppy died a few weeks back and I found him crying. I feel bad thinking that I was glad that he was crying? He's been through a lot of stress and worrying and that was the first time I ever saw him cry.

He gets happy about baby stuff though, so I dunno.

I think men just don't want to show their emotions. It's almost like they think you'll think they're weak for feeling emotion at all.

 

[vix1989]

hey...long time no speak.
sorry to hear your oh is being a pain too. i hope he gets better.
i just wanted to say thanks for posting your scan pic.
i think my scan will be when im at 16weeks and i was curious as to what id be able to see. its amazing eh?!
xx

yer he is getting better
i hope your scan goes well!!!
yer its very amazing thank god its sooooo clear lol

 

[vix1989]

thanks girls for all your support im starting to understand that at the end of the day he must be interested and he wont be like this forever!