Do you tell your baby 'No!'?

[going_crazy]

Just wondering your thoughts on this as I had a bit of a run in with a 'friend' today.....
Basically, while I was holding LO, she went to grab my glasses from my face. I told her 'No' in a sternish voice (ok, I didn't sound particularly mean, but my tone was lower than usual!) and went to carry on my conversation with my friend.

However, my friend (who, by the way doesn't have any children) told me that at 8months, my LO was too young to understand 'No', and that I was being very harsh! She said when she has children she wouldn't use the word 'No' "in that way"

In my opinion, LO needs to know that she can't just grab peoples glasses off their face, and as she's too young for an explaination, I think the word 'No' is ideal!

Any thoughts? Am I a complete meany?!?!

 

[Mummy2onexx]

thats bollocks if i'm honest lol
i tell my 8 month old no because she has to get used to being told no she might not be able to understand me but she will do soon, your friend was being an idiot like you said 'she doesn't have any children herself' therefore she cant commet
ignore her hun xx

 

[msmissa]

I use "no!" with Aiden, too. They need to understand as they grow that there are certain things they shouldn't do. And it won't be long before they start understanding just my opinion

 

[Kalah]

It would be mean if you said it in a mean way, but it's not to early to start associating the word no with something they shouldn't do. I mean, you teach all the other words and what they go with so "no" isn't any different. As long as you aren't shouting it or scaring LO when you say it then I don't see any problem.

 

[citygirl1]

Not at all. I have started telling Daniel no and he is only 5 months! Whether he knows it now or not, its a word he will have to learn.

 

[Lellow]

I always tell Aymen 'NO'....but it falls on deaf ears...he just ignores me

 

[kristel_]

I tell my 4 month 'no', imo when they start taking in what you're actually saying is when they start to learn. So at what point does she deem her children able to understand 'No'? Sureley after never telling them 'no' and then all of a sudden saying it, it's is more harsh and they are less likeley to understand and be more confused??

 

[katieandfras]

I started saying no at 11 months but she sobbed everytime so i cant bring myself to do it anymore!

 

[NG09]

I tell my LO no when he's going to do something he shouldn't. He understands me fine but sometimes I think the tempatation is just too much for him! lol

 

[stardust599]

I tell Macy no too.

My sister has been doing it with my nephew since he was very young, now at nearly 11 months old he understands it perfectly.

For example, we can be in the kitchen and he'll crawl towards the cooker or dog bowl wanting to touch it. My sister just has to say "No" and look at him and he stops. He'll try again a few times but will stop every time she says no - he knows exactly what it means! xx

 

[oliviarose]

I tell Harrison "NO" he stops and looks at me when I say it, but carries on doing whatever he was doing after lol.

 

[mommyB]

I've been telling Adrian "no" for a couple months now. I really only have to say no when he grabs my hair and pulls really hard and a couple times when he would bite down really hard on my nipple during breastfeeding. The first couple times I said it he would smile, he though I was funny. He has excema and when I nurse him he sometimes has a tendancy to scratch his head, so I say "no scratch" and he stops so it must work. I say it in a stern "I mean buisness" sort of way, but I would never ever shout or yell it at him.

 

[xemmax]

When I say 'no' Oli stops what he is doing and bursts into tears! He absolutely hates the word!

 

[sunshine114]

We say no. Daniel kind of looks at us, then goes to do what he was going to do anyway, so we repeat by saying "No, these are your toys," if he is reaching for something he shouldn't. He is learning it and most of the time he stops what he was going to do and crawls off to find something else to do.

Not saying no to children and letting them get their own way is a large part of the reason schools are dealing with so many children with behaviour problems IMO.

 

[tink23]

i hadn't been up until now only cuz I thought there'd be no point..

But the other day Eli was holding onto my hair and mum told me to say no to him firmly. She reminded me he will eventually learn what it means and it may be good that he's already heARD it so I'm now saying it whenever he grabs my glasses or hair

 

[hel_5]

I always do - but in a nice way - esp if she trys to grab my glasses, if they break i would be screwed

 

[rainbows_x]

I always say "no" and then either "dangerous" or "naughty", she looks around and gives me a little cheeky grin!

 

[venusrockstar]

I say "NO" sometimes, but try not to use it too much since I find it a bit negetive. I use "Don't Touch" or "Hands Off" more than I use the word no. When I do say "no", she stops what she's doing and bawls.

I don't want no to be her next new word and then she says it all the time to me

 

[charlotte-xo]

I say no to alfie not nastily just like no lol..obviously he hasnt got a clue what im saying but id like him to get used to it iykwim.

 

[Kalah]

I say "NO" sometimes, but try not to use it too much since I find it a bit negetive. I use "Don't Touch" or "Hands Off" more than I use the word no. When I do say "no", she stops what she's doing and bawls.

I don't want no to be her next new word and then she says it all the time to me

I worry about that too and try not to say it too often for the same reason!

She already knows how to shake her head "no" and does it at the funniest times! Like when OH asks her if he can kiss mommy now and she shakes her head "no" Or when she crawls away into another room and I say come back here and she turns to me and shakes her head and keeps going!