Doctor Appointments

[Sus09]

Ah, NorthStar it does make sense!

 

[dachsundmom]

NS is correct; they are trying to make sure only the good jizz gets in there...you want to make sure the jizz is washed first.

Your doc is strictly looking at a male factor issue now.

 

[Natsby]

She doesn´t think I have a problem,although as she still doesn´t have my fsh she can´t be sure. But it looks like it is OH who has the problem. At least we have some kind of answer. I don´t know if it was always like this and we got lucky the last two times, or if some thing has changed with OH and his swimmers are getting worse. I can´t find the results from his first SA, but I´m going to ask the Dr to print them out for me when I see her next, I want to see if they have changed much.

 

[NorthStar]

At least now you know you can make the informed decision chick it's better than struggling on in the dark, hopefully.

 

[Natsby]

Yup! I´m going to sleep now and see if things look better in the morning. Thanks for listening lovelies!

 

[Sus09]

You know, after reading your appointment Nats, I am going to send my OH to have a SA as before I got PG quice quick, 4 cycles first time and by accident second time... that was with my ex... With my current partner nothing has happened. I keep thinking it is me who has the problem.

I have to be honest, I am quite nervous about the results of my tests, and the results of the tests to come, I am not sure how I will deal if they say we will need help... like you I always thought It would happen in a natural way.

Actually, going back to the doctor appointment process here, I could do the process a lot quicker, as my OH´s brother has a surgeon friend who works with the FS that will see me after GP does the tests. He could take me in straight away, the problem is... we don´t want to tell his brother that we are looking for a baby.

 

[Sus09]

Good night Nats

 

[dachsundmom]

Nats....

Sus, all he has to know is that you want the all clear, should you ever decide to have a LO; no need to tell him you are actively TTC.

 

[Sus09]

Dmom that could be a good approach, as they did ask him for a favour when I had an emergency last year... I could say I need to have that checked again and then I can tell the truth to the doctor once I see him... It would save me months of waiting...

I will tell my OH tomorrow once he has woken up and he is not hungover, to see what he thinks.

 

[NorthStar]

Sus if I had contacts that could escalate the timing for me, I would 100% use them.

 

[Sus09]

Maybe we should just be honest with my OH brother, it would save lots of time and excuses... Let´s see what OH thinks... I feel I should use that contact as soon as I have my first bloodwork. We were so stubborn not to tell his brother that we did not think we had the opportunity of the FS

 

[Natsby]

Sus I agree it is a good idea to get your oH to do and SA sooner rather than later. it takes three months to change the quality so the sooner you know the better. I have been blaming myself for the past two years and taking on board all the "advice" of family and friends and now I find out it wasn´t me anyway. Oh has found somewhere on the web that poor semen quality can lead to MC too. So maybe if we sort this out I will get full terms too! I hope so, I really find it tough to contemplate that it might not happen for us, it is in the box in my head marked, TOO HARD! but days like today it crops up anyway.
Sus good luck with your oh, I hope he agrees to a SA soon.

 

[dachsundmom]

 

[Desperado167]

Maybe we should just be honest with my OH brother, it would save lots of time and excuses... Let´s see what OH thinks... I feel I should use that contact as soon as I have my first bloodwork. We were so stubborn not to tell his brother that we did not think we had the opportunity of the FS

I would def use wotever resources I could Hun ,hope your oh agrees to it ,am so hopeful for u now ,

 

[Desperado167]

Sus I agree it is a good idea to get your oH to do and SA sooner rather than later. it takes three months to change the quality so the sooner you know the better. I have been blaming myself for the past two years and taking on board all the "advice" of family and friends and now I find out it wasn´t me anyway. Oh has found somewhere on the web that poor semen quality can lead to MC too. So maybe if we sort this out I will get full terms too! I hope so, I really find it tough to contemplate that it might not happen for us, it is in the box in my head marked, TOO HARD! but days like today it crops up anyway.
Sus good luck with your oh, I hope he agrees to a SA soon.

Nats ,

 

[Sus09]

Thanks Nats

Why do we do this to us? we tend to blame ourselves and never think it is the man who might have the problem? If I use my past with my ex as an example then I should assume that there is the possibility that my current OH could have problem. but still I do still think it is me.

He has agreed for a SA, however so far they are only words, he has not booked an appt with the doc yet. he has asked if he needs to ask the GP, so that is a start, let´s see if he actually does it now!

Yes, I think we all think every now and again if it will happen for us, but I have known so many couples who have had problems conceiving, both of them, and they have managed to have children, that makes me think that yeah it might be harder for some, but I feel we will wanted and appreciate it even more when it happens

 

[Natsby]

Hi everybody.
OH and I have discussed what to do now and I think we are decided. He is going to try to stop smoking weed, cut right back on cigarettes, (maybe cut down his Effexor too,) take high dose vitamin C, Maca and CoQ10 for two months and then we will try IUI. My family have offered to pay for one cycle and I will find the money for another one or two if possible. The odds don´t look good, but they are better than what we are looking at right now.
I wish he had offered to change these things earlier, then maybe we wouldn´t be looking at treatments at all, but such is life. At least I don´t feel like I´m in the tww anymore, I know now that it would take a small miracle for me to get a bfp right now, so I´ll wait and hope for one before I´m 39 (March 2012).

 

[dachsundmom]

Nats, that sounds like a really good plan. I also wish your OH had made these changes earlier, but I think he needed to hear it from a doctor in order to believe it.

 

[Sus09]

Naths that is great news

I am glad you both came to a decision and that your OH has agreed to cooperate. As Dmom said pity he did not make changes before but hey at least you are both on the right path now!

My my EX had his first SA back with low count, she stopped smoking weed as well and the next SA he had came back a lot better, hope it it the same for you.

AFM I have talked to my OH and we are going to try to contact the FS that saw me a year ago. He saw me for an emergency I had, not due to fertility but we thought we will ask my OH brother to contact his friend so that we speed the appointments up and not wast time with my GP. Due to Christmas I doubt that it will happen till January, but then it gives me time to experinment in December with suplements and see what happens.

 

[keekeesaurus]

Nats that sounds like a plan! My OH smokes cigarettes and pot and I'm dreading his SA results in a way (not that he's jizzed in his pot yet, we're still waiting for the forms) because I'm not sure he'd want to give it up . It's great that your OH is making these changes now and good to hear about the IUI - I really hope everything works out for you .

Sus hope you get an earlier appointment and things get moving for you!

I'm thinking I might get OH to try the maca and maybe some zinc supplements, but we'll see what the SA says first...and see if he actually does it lol. Apparently we have to get it to the lab within 1-2 hours of him doing it so I've got all these visions of driving along at breakneck speed to get there as we live 13 miles away . I just wish those bloody forms would hurry up. Either that or I get a BFP first.