Does anyone else hate facebook announcements and updates?

[fluffystar]

Sorry for rant but....

Im seriously considering deleting my facebook account as these announcements out the blue get me everytime.

Is it sad that I hide all my friends that are expecting? But then someone else who rarely posts suddenly put a post that they think their bump is getting bigger. I guess she is pregnant then! And to rub it in, she was always horrible to me at uni! I know, why do I have her as a friend if we dont get on, well im asking myself the same thing.

Am I mad? Bitter? yes! but then I also feel guilty about resenting someone else being pregnant. I keep reminding myself that I might not know the whole story - not everyone publicises TTC difficulties. But then I know that some friends put on that they are sooo worried at not getting a BFP after 2 monhs of TTC.

Damn it, I still think im going to ban myself from facebook. I feel crap. Is anyone else this irrational?

Love Fluffy xx

 

[obe]

I know how you feel hun, it is difficult seeing other people getting there BFP when its the one think we want the most! A 'mate' of mine I went to school with has done nothing but moan about being pregnant on her updates, I just want to tell her to be grateful that she's pregnant and shut the hell up!
xx

 

[beanz]

yes, me!

Though I can understand why people want to announce their pregnancy.

One thing I really really hate is when people put the actual positive test on their facebook. WTF is that about! Oh and people who announce they are 3 weeks pregnant. would never ever do anything like that. If I am successful then I might mention in passing and then if I am asked about it I am going to be completely open about the fertility treatment.

 

[VickyLou]

Hey hun your not on your own. I had to hide 2 people yesterday from my news feed cause i just cant handle all the posts about there bump or how much they feel sick etc and the scan pictures. I cant deal with it.

I also feel guilty that i have had to do that..... Dont get me wrong im happy for them that they are having a baby but i cant help but feel jealous and think it should be my turn!!!

Hugs to you huni. Keep smiling xx

 

[VickyLou]

Hey hun your not on your own. I had to hide 2 people yesterday from my news feed cause i just cant handle all the posts about there bump or how much they feel sick etc and the scan pictures. I cant deal with it.

I also feel guilty that i have had to do that..... Dont get me wrong im happy for them that they are having a baby but i cant help but feel jealous and think it should be my turn!!!

Hugs to you huni. Keep smiling xx

 

[hayz1981]

I hate it too! It's horrible and like a knife in the heart. I know I should be happy they are pregnant, but it's so hard not to just be jealous. People who I would never know were pregnant any other way just pop up on my profile! I avoid it now TBH.

 

[fluffystar]

Oooh, thank goodness it is not just me! Thanks for all your responses x

It amazing how much detail some people put on there, perhaps forgetting how many people read it.

One friend had been trying for 2 months with no success and was worrying that something was wrong. Then she her post said that her clear blue monitor said it was a peak day but she wasnt in the mood, next morning she posts how she did any way as she thought she should. You guessed it, 2 weeks later and she is pregnant.

I knew this would be a difficult month with three friends all due at the same time. One down and two to go now!

Hayz1981, I think im with you and will avoid it now! Though I almost feel like im turning into a reclous and shutting myself off from the world in case someone else announces that they are pregnant. That can be right but perhaps necessary for a little while.

 

[emilyjean]

I'm the same way, I hate seeing friends post that, except I tend to stalk their pages to see how their pregnancies are going. It really makes me jealous because I know that all of them got pregnant on accident. Why can't I be so lucky?

 

[BigFoot1980]

I am staying away from facebook at the moment. We should not feel guilty about hiding our pregnant friends. Its not that we don't want them to be happy, but we have a right to protect our hearts.


xxx

 

[chefamy1122]

I am staying away from facebook at the moment. We should not feel guilty about hiding our pregnant friends. Its not that we don't want them to be happy, but we have a right to protect our hearts.

xxx

Soooo true.
I have several FB friends that are pregnant right now, and I can't really blame them for posting pregnancy related things.... it still hurts to see it though

 

[Iril]

I honestly do the same, I hate reading about pregnancies, babies and all that it feels like I can't have..

A while back, I had a chat with a friend from high school, and she asked if any babies were on our way or something like that, and I said no. She started talking about how they've been TTC for over a year. So I opened up and shared that we've been too. Then two days later, she posted in her news feed that she was 12 weeks pregnant.

I understand that people want to keep it a secret until second trimester, but still I felt like she had lied to me and tricked me into telling her something I wouldn't have told her if I knew we weren't in "the same boat".

Got me so upset I deleted her as a friend and haven't talked to her since..

 

[mamawannabe]

.... Reading your post has really made me giggle as I got myself into trouble last week on facebook and have been blocked by two "friends" because of my outspoken'ness!!

You are certainly not the only one. Not only is it "the pregnant" that annoy me but also the ones that have children and do nothing but moan. So, whilst suffering the serious affects of PMT and another failed month of TTC, I was sat reading the posts on facebook about how one friend cannot do anything because she is pregnant and another moaning about her two very young children so i decided to post into my status.... "is sick and tired of having to listen to people constantly moaning about their lives, children and pregnancies. Shut up and be grateful for what you have got ... things could be a lot worse"!!

Oops.... Probably not the best of moves but I think sometimes people take their children/pregnancies for granted. The majority of us who post here would love the chance to moan because they haven't had enough sleep!

Rant over!!!

Baby dust to all xxx

 

[mamawannabe]

I honestly do the same, I hate reading about pregnancies, babies and all that it feels like I can't have..

A while back, I had a chat with a friend from high school, and she asked if any babies were on our way or something like that, and I said no. She started talking about how they've been TTC for over a year. So I opened up and shared that we've been too. Then two days later, she posted in her news feed that she was 12 weeks pregnant.

I understand that people want to keep it a secret until second trimester, but still I felt like she had lied to me and tricked me into telling her something I wouldn't have told her if I knew we weren't in "the same boat".

Got me so upset I deleted her as a friend and haven't talked to her since..

Oh no that's not very nice. I would have felt the same way too. Don't feel bad for deleting her, we shouldn't have to feel bad for how we think and feel about other people being pregnant or having children. I sometimes beat myself up and think "did I behave a bit irrationally" and yeah, sometimes I do but you cant help how you feel. xx

 

[Leila Fae]

I too get fed up seeing people's pregnancy announcements on Facebook and it does get me down. I haven't blocked anyone for it though.

I can totally understand why people announce it in that way and to be honest *when* I finally get a BFP and make it through 1st tri I will probably want to shout it out via my status!

The people who do that simply don't know that one (or more) of their friends is TTC (or LTTTC!) and the effect that their happy announcement has. Doesn't stop it hurting though. Then I feel bad for thinking uncharitable thoughts which makes it all worse!

 

[Aphrodite]

Mama and Leila I know what u mean. I dont feel angry or anything, just disappointed that things wont happen easily for me. I genuinely usually feel happy for everyone unless they feel sorry for themselves at having to wait a stupidly short amount of time to get pregnant. They can go and do one. Someone announced their pregnancy (bloke) on FB and someone commented and said 'congratulations on ur fertility' which wound me up a bit even if it was a joke. TBH, I cant wait to be able to announce my pregnany on FB like evryone else. It is hard, but I guess thats life.

Mama I have a friend too who just moans and moans constantly about her kids and pisses me off. It obviously pissed off someone else too as they made a harsh comment lol. She doesnt cope well and is so soft, like 'x wants to do some gardening but cant possibly as baby wont stay in the buggy without crying' hmmm maybe as you've given into him at ever aspect of his life grrrr its so IRRITATING! I swear Im NEVER going to complain when I have a baby-my brother is another one moaning at being up at half 5 with my nephew (he doesnt work and doesnt live with the Mother). He can sleep in the day-plus, we get up at half five every day for work ANYWAY. Ooh I know Im ranting too but it HACKS ME OFF!!!

 

[subaru555]

One thing I really really hate is when people put the actual positive test on their facebook. WTF is that about!

I did this! It was like a trophy and I'm sure yours will be too.

I think after years of trying (particularly 6 years in my case) when you finally get that bfp it's such an amazing thing and you want everyone to know.

Perhaps put yourself in other LTTTCers who have finally conceived.

You don't know how you'll react when you do get that bfp.

 

[a_missy]

i can totally understand that and i see why some people choose to share their excitement in that way but personally i wouldnt be able to, i'd be worrying that one of my friends was secretly going through the same as i had and i wouldnt want to make them feel bad so i wouldnt do it...

i guess everyones different though arent they? its not right or wrong either way i dont think, its just a personal choice and everyones journey is different too, like subara said she waited a bloody long time for that BFP ha

Iril - i cant believe she let you pour your heart out like that knowing how it would make you feel when you found out, that seems uncalled for, she should have either changed the subject or just told you the truth.

 

[Iril]

Iril - i cant believe she let you pour your heart out like that knowing how it would make you feel when you found out, that seems uncalled for, she should have either changed the subject or just told you the truth.

Yep, she shouldn't have pretended they were LTTTC at all. I met her bf a while after, and he said they'd gotten the BFP on their first cycle TTC and I found out a little later they'd only been together 5 months before she got pregnant, so there's no way she was honest.

 

[beanz]

Ah - when I DID get pregnant last year (Sadly miscarried) it never occured to me to put the test up on my facebook and I honestly won't be doing it if this IVF turns out to be successful! Each to their own though. Someone I know posted about 20 of the bloody things.

Out of interest, who here if they get pregnant will be open on Facebook about how it happened? If I get pregnant I will be open about the fact that it was through IVF etc because I know it's not easy for 25% or more of the population.

 

[Aphrodite]

I would like to be open about it, but I cant as DH and I don't want anyone at our church to know, and I have loads on my friends list. Plus we NEVER want his brother and wife to know weve had IVF as she would use it against me.

I actually want to be open about it to certain people but DH doesnt-like people who I think need to be taught a lesson about moaning about 4 months of TTC!! We have decided to tell some people AFTERWARDS as DH is happier about that, not sure why. Also I kind of think, I want people to know what Ive been through to get here, don't know why though. Ive already told my brothers girlfriend that DH doesn't know about and I feel really guilty as I know its not right...I just cant help myself Im such a gobshite

Just edited to add...I am worried that when I am pregnant, my SIL will deliberately get pregnant so I dont have all the attention. She would totally try to steal my thunder a la Rachel from friends. So we might not tell them till Im like 30 weeks lol. But that would then stop me from announcing it on fb. I could remove them as friends tho as neither of them go on it that much and might not notice Ive deleted them. Hmm theres a thought.....