Does anyone else hate facebook announcements and updates?

[sarlar]

I agree!! I am always happy to see the beautiful baby pictures but jealousy always rears its ugly HUGE head!! Also, my step sister with whom i am NOT close to at all is pregnant-nine months-21 yrs and has maturity of 15 year old-dating a LOSER of a guy-neither of them have jobs and they are totally clueless!! They have nothing for the baby yet-not even diapers!!! They cant even pay their rent or car payments, let alone pay for a baby. She is dilated and could go any time and has no clue of what is coming. It makes me so sad for that poor baby that I would DIE for and so angry at her for being so carefree and DUMb about such an amazing gift. Sometimes I dont understand Gods plan....

 

[tickledpink]

I'm another who hates the facebook announcements... But I know if I ever get a BFP, I won't be able to resist posting on there and letting the world know I've tried stay away from there a lot just lately, especially when one of my best friends, who was bridesmaid at my wedding just recently, KNOWS that me and hubby have been TTC for over three years and has just found out she's pregnant. She used to be a stranger to Facebook but now here she is posting daily on morning sickness, how everything tastes like cardboard, how she's so tired and now this morning I dared to go on there... the first post was her, asking for suggestions for baby names... I know I should be happy for her but I can't help feeling like telling her to pi$$ off and stop being so damn insensitive

 

[Welly]

Sorry to crash, but just wanted to add my view

Me and dh were ttc this baby for 3 years. I know compared to some that 3 years isn't long, but for us it was the most horrific time. Being prodded, tested, investigated, treated like a lab-rat, etc.

During the final 18 months (which is when our problem started to really hit home) I used to get so down seeing facebook announcements, I hid so many people. The final straw for me came when my cousin announced her second baby (they had 2 in the time we were ttc) on her facebook status- she knew that me and dh were trying and going through a hard time, but she chose to announce it rather than tell us face to face! I was furious and deleted her immediately. I felt terrible that i'd deleted her, but I couldn't believe how insensitive she was.

Over the last year I found out that several of my facebook friends pregnancy announcements were done so because they'd been ttc for a long time. I assumed they'd magically fallen pregnant, but some people just don't announce their difficulties.

When I got my bfp, I was ecstatic. After the hours of crying, and sleeping with the test on my bedside table (so that I could reassure myself I wasn't dreaming during the night), we decided to tell parents only. A week later I decided that I would announce my pregnancy on facebook. Tempting fate? Maybe, but in 3 years of ttc I didn't get a sniff of a bfp, so the fact that i'd actually got pregnant was worthy of celebration in itself. I have never wanted to upset anyone announcing my bfp, and i've always made a point of stressing how long me and dh were ttc.

 

[HopeSprings]

Hi all! I know I'm coming late to the party but...

I hear ya! DH has said I should be happy for them (which I mostly am, and then you feel like a smuck for being upset right?). To soothe myself, I assume everyone has been trying since their last baby was born/they got married/have been together. It helps a little.

That being said, some things still irritate don't they?
My cousin had her 5th.
Two friends pregnant and announced they are expecting their 3rd-both accidents.
Just found out a friend's daughter is preggo with #2, had the first with a different boyfriend at 17, it's only been a year and her mother is raising #1 for her!!! Why is she pregnant again? Really.

I have been debating if I will announce, and when (end of first tri?), when I get BFP. I probably will block all the nobodies on my list and then let it rip!

 

[maaybe2010]

I'm 20 and a girl from my year has a scan picture up of her THIRD baby. . . .

 

[LadyK]

I like this thread! A place to rant! Here's my rant!

2 blokes I know have posted the birth of their babies on Facebook in the last week. 1st bloke is an ex-boyfriend, who wouldn't commit to me because I am older than him and he didn't think I would be able to give him baby (he didn't say this in so many words but it was obvious)! 2nd bloke is really a friend of a friend so I don't know him that well but he's given the baby a name that I really really like and would consider for a daughter! So feeling pretty sh*t about both of those posts!

Next rants are unrelated to FB but want to get them off my chest! My sis, who is 3 years younger than me, is 8 months pregnant. I am very very happy for her and excited about being an Aunt. BUT! She got pregnant on the 3rd attempt of IUI with donor sperm. Our fertility tests etc came back the same with the same levels of FSH etc. So howcome she can get pregnant after 3 months, with 1 attempt a month, with frozen sperm, and I can't get pregnant with lots of attempts per month with fresh sperm? It just seems so unfair!

Last rant! Girl from work, pregnant, complete accident, doesn't want to be pregnant, doesn't want a child, due in 3 weeks. Again .... not f*ing fair! I'm surrounded by it wherever I go!

OK that's it, thanks for reading, rant over! Off for a glass of milk! Good luck and baby dust to you all!

 

[tickledpink]

Question... how I 'hide' friends or their status'? a few people have mentioned it on here but i don't know how to do it. I signed in today to be greeted with 3 status'.... one booked in for her c-section tomorrow, one just had her scan and another just announced she's 9 weeks pregnant... if it carries on like this I'll go mad

 

[broodymum]

i know how you feel i went on facebook the other day to find my sister had posted she is pregnant and doesnt wish to be was i jealous hell yh and i havent been on since as i would love to be and she is writing how bad she feels

 

[HopeSprings]

Tickledpink-

To hide someone on facebook- if you are on your home page and see something you don't like, mouse over the right side of their comment and a HIDE button will appear. If it's an application (like farmville) it will give you the choice to hide the person or the application. If it's just a status update, then you hide that person. When you want to see them again, go to the bottom of the page 'edit options' and it will show you all the things you hid.

Happy facebooking!

 

[tickledpink]

All sorted... now I can relax!

Dee

 

[Blue12]

I had to find this old thread!

My rant is not that people shouldn't proudly post it because it is one of the biggest events in their lives and you never know if it was hard for them.

The problem for me is what happens to me when I see them because of my situation. I get incredibly jealous, and incredibly down, and then get angry that so many years of my life have gone to this and that I still have nothing. Then I fear what if get to the end of the road and still have no baby - in that case I made need to be off of facebook for at least some time.

This week each day there has been new announcements pg, births, and millions of scan pics from about 10 people and it has just got me so down. It definitely doesn't help that I am injecting crazy amount of hormones into my body daily.

Ugh... facebook...

 

[Terangela]

I am in a different place than most of you. I get excited to see my friends announce, However I only have real friends on my fb, not acquaintances or people I knew once upon a time. I usually know long before they put it on their profile. I just get excited as I am hoping we will all have little ones close in age. I keep thinking that this is my month. If it is I will be 1 month later than my SIL, 1 week behind one of my BFFs, and I have another very fertile friend who is also TTC and may only be 1 week after me. I also have another friend due Jan 11th but will have a scheduled c-section 2 weeks before that. So I get excited as there would be a friend in each circle of friends that would have a little one close in age. I am so excited and really hoping this is the month. If it isn't then I will keep trying.