My son is 2 years and 9 months old, he has gross motor delay and speech delay. He has hypermobility in his ankles so can't yet walk, he has recently got a walking frame which he enjoys using as he can walk holding on to something albeit very unsteadily. He can say the odd word, and the occasional sentence which he sometimes won't say again. He is on the waiting list for autism screening as there are a few red flags. However, he is a very happy and contented little boy.
My mum is a very self-conscious person and is obsessed with what people think, to the point of pushing my OH and I to the point of nearly exploding at her over the years however until now we have managed to successfully just bite our tongues. As well as what people think, she has 5 sisters and (some of them anyway) have this sibling competition thing going on. As I said, until now we just put up with it, however this is to do with our son so I fear if this situation escalates at all there may be an argument brewing.
We know from past experience that my mum will shut down and go quiet if we speak about something she is uncomfortable with. If you speak about it to her you feel like you are talking to yourself as you get no answer and then the subject will promptly be changed. I guess going quiet is better than saying anything, but eventually she will say something like 'don't tell people that...etc' or 'people might think....etc'.
Friends and family who are primarily are her contact know there are delays with my son however aren't told a thing, she just brushes it off as 'just a little delay and he'll get there' which just looks weird. Any time we mention our son's delays or talk about taking him out with his frame she shuts down completely and changes the subject and it makes my blood boil! When we mentioned the autism screening the comment was even made by my dad (I apologise for offending anyone, I am only repeating what was said) 'we don't want people thinking he is thick'! I know she will eventually come out and say something else and when this happens this will come to a head.
Has anyone else any experience of dealing with someone behaving like this?
My mum is a very self-conscious person and is obsessed with what people think, to the point of pushing my OH and I to the point of nearly exploding at her over the years however until now we have managed to successfully just bite our tongues. As well as what people think, she has 5 sisters and (some of them anyway) have this sibling competition thing going on. As I said, until now we just put up with it, however this is to do with our son so I fear if this situation escalates at all there may be an argument brewing.
We know from past experience that my mum will shut down and go quiet if we speak about something she is uncomfortable with. If you speak about it to her you feel like you are talking to yourself as you get no answer and then the subject will promptly be changed. I guess going quiet is better than saying anything, but eventually she will say something like 'don't tell people that...etc' or 'people might think....etc'.
Friends and family who are primarily are her contact know there are delays with my son however aren't told a thing, she just brushes it off as 'just a little delay and he'll get there' which just looks weird. Any time we mention our son's delays or talk about taking him out with his frame she shuts down completely and changes the subject and it makes my blood boil! When we mentioned the autism screening the comment was even made by my dad (I apologise for offending anyone, I am only repeating what was said) 'we don't want people thinking he is thick'! I know she will eventually come out and say something else and when this happens this will come to a head.
Has anyone else any experience of dealing with someone behaving like this?
