"Does anyone else not test early" Refugee Club

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Baby1 so great to have you over here! And congrats again!! I'm just so happy for you!

Plastik that's unfortunate about your scan but like you said you luckily have scans all the time so that makes it a little better but hopefully you can still get a picture from you doctor. Love what you've done for you little boys room!

I'm anxiously waiting for my next scan in 2 weeks and I just got the date for the scan after that and I'll be around 18 weeks so will hopefully be able to find out the gender. That one is March 11th which seems so far away! No going to lie with two girls we are hoping for a boy but of course will still be happy either way!

 

[justmeinlove]

Geeze, JustMe, how rude of your work!! I like the sound of your doctor though!!! If you were closer to me I would happily give you one of our cots! We seem to have them coming out of our ears! Sadly, I think shipping a cot from South Africa to you might be more expensive than actually buying a new one

I can't remember if you said you were having a baby shower or not? If you are you'll probably get tonnes of clothes for baby then. We have quite a bit, but I've been told I'm not allowed to buy anything else until such time as we've had our shower.

Is anyone feeling uncomfotable yet? I find doing up my shoes a bit hard now, and often get some help when getting up off of our couch or out of bed in the mornings. I can do it on my own, but its easier to ask DH for a hand

Aw thanks Plastik, that's so lovely of you
As for baby shower, no, I don't think my family/friends are the sort to do that sort of thing (although friends have given us quite a lot of stuff they're done with and my best friend keeps buying the baby stuff)

Am sorry your scan didn't turn out as well as you had hoped. But I do like reading about all of your baby stuff, it's so nice that you're at this big stage now, especially as I am always reminded of you grumbling about your breasts hurting and how you couldn't POSSIBLY be pregnant

We bought this yesterday with the money we were given:
https://www.kari-me.com/shop/details/25/1002/baby-carriers/kari-me-baby-wrap/kari-me-smart.html
Am really excited about having a sling and SO glad we're not going with a pram!

Quite a ton of snow here at the moment! Which is lovely Though am a bit sad as haven't been out in it yet and also I apparently have hormones which meant I cried when my hb headed off it by himself to work today

 

[iow_bird]

hello ladies!!

All good here. Turned out my waters leaked and resealed (So I didn't pee the bed ) baby is still inside, but I'm so ready for him to come out now!!!! Mum has just landed at Auckland Airport, she's staying for 3 months! Yay!

Justme: Are you not getting a pram at all???? I love my slings, but I couldn't be without my pram either!!

Panda: Your little one is soooo gorgeous! Has made me very clucky! Can't wait to be snuggling my little boy now!

Baby1: Congratulations!!! The same thing happened to me with DD, had all the forms to go for fertility tests next cycle.... didn't get a next cycle, got a BFP instead!!

PlastiK: sorry your scan was a bit pants! But lucky you getting so many of them! I would be very worried if the scan tech thought baby's head was where his bum is.... give a whole new meaning to not knowing your arse from your elbow eh! Love what you've done with the nursery, so cute! Wish I had a nursery to do this time, but baby Shrimpy will be in our room for the first 6 months and then sharing with his big sister.

Morebabies: Yay for scan date! It'll be here before you know it!

Hope all you UK ladies are enjoying the snow! It's really warm here... I could do with a bit of snow!!

Take care
Love KAtie

xxxx

 

[justmeinlove]

Iow, no, no pram, I really don't like them. And the snow is nice but being in new Zealand would be awesome too!

Plastik, did I say I liked your nursery walls? I do! It's a very nice design and also lovely colours

 

[Lotus Womb]

Hi ladies,
Glad your all well. It's been a while and with working full time and all things seem so busy right now. I had the home birth midwife come round last week and she went though all with us. My parter joined us on face time lol. We also got to hear the babies heartbeat which was amazing. I am really missing my DB now but will see him in 2 and a half weeks as I am all booked for my Miami trip. As it is snowing in London and freezing I am about ready to go lol.
Sickness completely seems to have gone though smells can still get to me so enjoying it all. I am sure I felt some flutters this week but more will be revealed in the coming weeks I am sure.
X

 

[Noo]

Hi Guys

I was naughty and tested a little early yesterday but got my AF shouldn't have been due till today so not too early! I just suddenly had a feeling and felt rough! Tested again today and it's much darker so feeling more confident about this pregnancy.

I'll take some time to catch up on this thread a little later this evening but thought I'd say hi

 

[iow_bird]

Justme: I'm not keen on them either.... but they are a godsend as baby gets older! We have one that faces us, so she isn't being pushed out into the world. We got it cos we used to walk the dog on massive walks and missed Tilly cos she was facing the other way to us!! Its a bit too hot to be carrying an older baby in the summer here though! I have a wrap a lot like the one you've got and it's awesome. I'm suprised it says it goes up to 3yrs though, my toddler wouldn't go in ours anymore. Strechy wraps are a bit iffy once baby gets a bit bigger. I took DD in mine back to the UK when she had just turned a year old and I wouldn't really use it again after that.
Have you seen the Manduca carriers or the Ergos? If you're going to be carrying baby in a carrier a lot those are the best ones to have. Woven wraps are awesome too, but a bit fiddly. My favourite was my ringsling, used it soooo much! I bought a set of rings from slingrings.com and made my own. There are some great instructions online.

Oooh, that turned into a really long message! Sorry!!!


Noo: Congratulations!!!!! Yay for the new BFPs in our group!!! xxx

 

[flamingpanda]

Welcome all the new peeps! Congrats on your !

We had a Moby wrap for Hadley and as much as I love it, she hates it. Screams something rotten when she's put in it. We're going to sell it as she's getting a little too big for it anyway and would probably be better with a carrier by the time we get around to using it again, I think she might prefer a little freedom to move. So we're looking at a Rose & Rebellion (https://www.roseandrebellion.com/). We'll give it another go when the weather is a bit more reasonable. She's just very willful. I go to a new mum's group on Wednesdays and everyone else's babies seem really docile. Hadley however fusses and moans because it's not what she considers to be our routine. That said I wouldn't change her for the world, she seems to have such a funny personality already. For the record she hates her pram too but it's easier to put up with when she isn't strapped to me!

Plastik - LOVE the nursery walls. Looks absolutely fab! We went for a woodland theme but we couldn't paint our walls (we rent ) but love what you've done. I'll attach a pic of our room.

Also - everyone please be careful in this weather. I managed to fall over without snow when I was pregnant so it's easy done when you get a little bigger! Take care and wrap up warm!

 

[justmeinlove]

Re snow, can I heartily recommend shoe snow chains!!!

 

[Noo]

I feel really stupid asking this as a midwife - But at what point (UK) am I supposed to contact a midwife for booking? During my training and when I had my son it was around 8-10 weeks but I've been told by a few people they've been in for a meet n greet at 5-6 weeks. I work on Delivery Suite so I've NO idea what current community midwifery entails anymore!

 

[Jaynie82]

Hi ladies! Hope u don't mind me coming across! Got my bfp on sat and think I am 4+4 so still really early. Fingers crossed all will be ok. Calling the doc in the morning to make an appointment and secretly hoping for a snow day tomorro!
Need to get up to speed with everyone's stories managed to read the first 16 pages but bear with me!

 

[Noo]

Hi ladies! Hope u don't mind me coming across! Got my bfp on sat and think I am 4+4 so still really early. Fingers crossed all will be ok. Calling the doc in the morning to make an appointment and secretly hoping for a snow day tomorro!
Need to get up to speed with everyone's stories managed to read the first 16 pages but bear with me!

Congratulations

 

[flamingpanda]

Congrats Jaynie!

 

[baby1wanted]

Plastik and Panda I LOVE your nurseries! May have to pinch some ideas off you when the time comes!
Lotus wow I can't believe how far along you are already! Hoping it's all going well for you.
Thanks to everyone for the welcome and welcome to Noo and Jaynie, excited that there's a few of us at the same stage

I'm getting a bit worried as my cramping is really ramping up - feeling it on and off all day and panicking that I'm going to start bleeding any minute, did anyone else have the same in the early stages?

 

[flamingpanda]

Yes, in fact I would say most of my 1st tri experience was me thinking I was going to get my period at any point. I did actually have a little bleed at 6 weeks but I was told it's quite normal and scanned fine. So unless you bleed and it's heavy don't worry too much. Your body's just going through lots of changes preparing for LO. Those pains did ease around the time I moved to 2nd tri.

 

[Noo]

Are you guys giving the Dr/Midwife your LMP for dating or are you giving them your dates based on ovulation/conception from your charting? With longer cycles there is an almost weeks difference in my EDD between LMP date and ovulation date (25th September V 1st October - The latter of the two being correct)

 

[plastikpony]

WELCOME Jaynie and Noo!!! So awesome to have some new faces around, it's really exciting!

Panda, did I ever tell you that you have made the most BEAUTIFUL little girl! Wow!! Congratulations!!!

JustMe, you are so brave to go about all this without a stroller! I'm sure you'll make it look easier than the rest of us would I'm really glad I've got my nice big stroller even if it's just for the packing space. I can't seem to leave the house without a WHOLE lotta stuff going with me

Iow, great advice on the carriers!!

AFM, had a really nice chilled weekend. It was rainy and miserable here, so couldn't do anything with my horse, but we had quite a productive time at home! We are lowering curtain rails upstairs ( I don't know WHAT the previous owners were thinking, but the curtiains in every single room upstairs are a different height, and NONE of them are standard! ) Also, the duck-egg blue curtians I bought for Ethan's room just let in way too much light for my liking, so they are going into the 3rd spare room and Ethan is getting hand-me down brown ones. They still look good and are fabulous black-out curtains. I'll just have to brighten up the space with bedding and some other bits and pieces. It actually looks very nice, just very brown at the moment We also went to Baby City and put together a registry for my baby shower (I still have no idea when it is, going to be a suprise apparently). So that's done. I'm not really comfortable with 'telling' people what to buy me, since I would be thrilled with just a party anyway, but apparently I have to. I just made it clear to DH and my friend who is organising it that NOBODY is expected to bring gifts. And if they want to, it definitely doesn't HAVE to be on the registry. She just said it makes life easier for the people who don't already have an idea of what to get us.

Wow, that was long! Sorry ladies!! How is everyone feeling? JustMe, have you noticed a difference in your LO's movements?

 

[justmeinlove]

Typing on phone so short reply. When you say difference, in what sense?

Re stroller, I try to take practically nothing when we go out, so maybe it's why I like the sling idea

Should we have a group in the baby club section once there's at least two of us? I think it would be nice!

Welcome to everyone who must have joined the testing group after I left? And congrats!!

 

[justmeinlove]

Ooh btw I don't know if it's true but someone suggested avoiding black out curtains to me cos thrn the baby won't sleep in lighter rooms...

 

[plastikpony]

I'd also heard that about the black-out curtains, but I figure I can just leave a crack open to let in as much light as I want. That way at least I'm controlling the curtains instead of the curtains controlling me. Ok, that just sounded weird when I typed it, but it totally made sense to me

I mean like instead of kicks and twitches, I can actually feel that space is getting a little low in there. Sometimes I just feel pokes and scrapes now, and was wondering if you get the same? Still quite strong movements, just... different.

I think the baby club group idea is absolutely brilliant!!!

Baby1, thanks for the compliments on the nursery!! I must say, I'm pretty thrilled with it