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Nimbec my friend who just had a baby in December has told me many stories of her daughters projectile poos! Too funny!

Justme so sorry your feeling the way you are I agree with Iow, though, you should definitely talk to someone as it could be PND.

 

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Noo I also thought the same as my youngest is 7 but turns out this one is a different gender so who knows!

 

[flamingpanda]

Oh justme, you must speak to your MW or HV as it sounds like a bit of PND. It's really common and honestly it's not just you. Your whole life just got turned upside down and you're not sleeping, it's stressful, it's hard. I know right now it seems like this will go on forever but it won't. In a few weeks Winter will be smiling and interacting, then it's a whole different ball game. Lots of people really hate the newborn stage and for good reason, you don't get a lot back for all that you put in.

Are you BFing or FFing? If it's formula is your husband taking it in turns with you? As much as I felt dreadful when we switched to formula (mainly because I felt like a failure, it was actually the right choice for Hadley in the long run), the one fantastic thing was we were able to take turns in the night. It means you will get a better block of sleep, as will he. I suddenly felt better, she started putting on weight, things were just better. I'm so glad we share it now. In an ideal world things would be different but in the long run it was a good choice for our family, especially Hadley.

nimbec - at the poo. We witnessed Hadley's first poo as we had her nappy off at the time and dear Lord! It was horrendous, like a runny playdough factory! Things are fantastic though. She's so funny now. She seems to understand "where is she? there she is!" and she covers her head with her blanket. When I say "where is she" her whole little body quivers with giggles, it's so cute. We also bought her a Jumperoo which she loves, really great purchase. However I do worry slightly as all she wants to do now is bounce. I have a vision of her bouncing off to university one day. Just put in my request for flexible working when I return in July. I don't want to go back but I don't have a lot of choice. It will be best for us in the long run, financially at least. How are things going for you?

 

[Noo]

Justme - Please contact your GP and seek some support/counselling. You definitely sound like you have a touch more than the babyblues and it's really important for your future bonding with winter and life as a family that you seek support ASAP.

 

[annio84]

Justme, so sorry you're feeling bad. As others have said definitely speak to MW/GP/ whoever you're happy with. I hope you start to feel better soon.

welcome to the new arrivals. We need some more movement over here!

Nibec - lol at the projectile poo! Don't think i even realised that could happen!

Hope everyone else is well! Plastik how are you getting on?

 

[kraftykoala]

Oh Justme, I could have written that post with my first, emergency section too. It's hard, but you don't get medals for struggling on in misery, talk to your midwife / health visitor about how you're feeling. I waited 12 weeks before telling anyone I wasn't coping with my first and got diagnosed with PND, 12 hellish weeks where I contemplated buggering off and leaving him with DH regularly.

Please talk to someone lovely, you don't have to feel like this xxx

 

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Justme I hope you're doing ok!!

Just had my biweekly scan to check my cervix. Cervix looks good and she also checked the baby real quick and everything looks good there and he's still a boy! Here's a good picture of my little man that I got today!

 

[flamingpanda]

Oh wow, that's a fab pic more babies, really clear! You can see all his features.

 

[Mrs. Eddie]

Welcome to all of the new members! Great to see some of you over here now!

Nimbec at the explosive poo. I had to help my friend clean up one of her twins in a restaurant bathroom once as the result on an explosive poo (all up his little back). It was honestly EVERYWHERE!

Justme, so sorry to hear that you are having such a difficult time. I have no children yet myself so can't offer any personal experience but all my friends who have had children warned me that the first three months are very difficult so you are not alone in feeling overwhelmed/discouraged. As others has mentioned, it sounds as though you would benefit from speaking to your DH, MW or someone else about how you feel. Sending you huge and hope that you feel better soon.

Morebabies, as I said in the other group, I absolutely love that scan. Do you have to have your cervix checked for any particular reason? (I think I remember you saying you had to be on bedrest during one of your other pregnancies).

 

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Yeah when I was pregnant with my youngest daughter my cervix was real short even at the level 2 scan and ended up getting down to 1 cm toward the end. At one of the scans with her they picked up on contractions I was having at 6 months which is what led them to putting me in be rest at the time. So this time once I hit 3 months I was automatically "high risk" due to the previous problems with DD2's pregnancy. I've been making sure to take it extra easy in hopes of avoiding the same problems again. But even though things look good now its once the baby gets bigger and lower that I'll really have to keep an eye on things and take it easy.

 

[Mrs. Eddie]

Aw, I see. I'll keep my fx that everything continues to go well for you! At least you get to keep seeing Baby, which is very exciting!

Oh and I meant to mention in my last post that I have started to feel Baby E move recently I thought I had felt things before but last Thursday I definitely felt something different and have felt similar movements a couple times since then . It always frustrated me when people who had been pregnant before couldn't explain what movement felt like but now I totally get it, totally difficult to describe but it is honestly the best feeling ever!

 

[Toms Mummy]

Aww, that's brilliant mrs eddie! I can't wait to feel baby

 

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Haha yeah its definitely hard to explain at first! I'm at the point in the last week or two that I feel movement every day and its clear kicking I don't know if it can be felt from the outside though because every time either DH or myself put our hands there he stops! I do love it though!

 

[Noo]

Loving feeling baby move now Feels strange!

 

[Mrs. Eddie]

Thanks Tom's, you'll be feeling it before you know it. I can't believe how quickly this pregnancy is going!

Love the fact that he's already giving you a hard time Morebabies

 

[plastikpony]

Hi Ladies!!

Quick update while Ethan is sleeping, I probably should be too, but just wanted to pop in! Not going to go into too much detail but for you ladies still waiting, good luck! Hope things keep going well.

JustMe, honey, how are you? PM me if you need to rant or talk or anything, ok?

My little guy is awesome. I'm slowly getting used to the no sleep thing, or very little sleep rather. He definitely has his days and nights mixed up, but we are totally in love with him!!

As for the delivery, the C-Section was amazing and I'm super glad that we decided to go that route. My scar looks great, I'm up and about and not even taking pain killers anymore since about 3 or 4 days ago. I know a lot of people have their opinions about elective sections, but all I'm going to say is it was right for us. Calm and exciting and an all-around fantastic experience.

As for having a baby, it's hard. But I would do it all over again. It's so worth it. My DH is besotted with LO as am I, and both of us are more in love with one another than ever. He told me he didn't know it was possible to love me more than he already did, but now he does. Love that man!!!!

Took Ethan for his first weekly weigh-in yesterday and he is up to 3.26kg from 2.95kg at birth. Not sure about conversions, sorry!! His Apgars were 8, 10, 10!!

Ok, I'm off to catch 20 minutes of sleep!

 

[annio84]

What a little cutie he is plastik!! Glad to hear you're doing so well.

 

[annio84]

Ooops! Double post.

 

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Ohhhh Plastik he's adorable!!! Glad to hear things are going well for you! I can't wait to meet my little man and seeing yours makes me even more excited!

Justme I hope things have gotten a little better for you! I've been thinking about you and hope you're doing ok!

I hope everyone else is doing good too! AFM now that DD2 has been better for a little while I've been trying to get back into a somewhat normal sleep cycle. It was a pretty nice day out yesterday so got outside and did a little walking around at the outlets. Other then that.. pretty uneventful here!

 

[Mrs. Eddie]

Plastik, Ethan is gorgeous, huge congrats! I'm glad to hear that your birth experience was so positive.

Noo, it is exciting to feel baby isn't it? Honestly one of the best things I have experienced about pregnancy so far.

Morebabies, I'm glad to hear that your DD is better, I was thinking about her the other day. We are finally getting nicer weather too. I am so ready for spring at this point.

Other than that, things here are good. My DH gets back tonight from his trip (he's been away for a week), so I am super excited. Then we are off tomorrow to visit family for Easter weekend!

Hope everyone else is doing well!