does my baby dislike me

[mummylicious]

my son is 5 months old and iv been reading that he is ment to start showing love at this stage signs of it are reaching out to be picked up smileing at you giveing you hugs and kisses ... well he does smile at me when he sees me in the morning when he wakes up but no reaching out or hugs or kisses he has kinda hugged my oh and my mum tuk him today for a few hours and i had no smile when i picked him up either did my oh and when hes upset oh seems to calm where a month ago he wouldnt go to anyone but me i know i sound childish but i want to mother him hug him he is my little boy and it just seems he doesnt want me too im so upset i need to know is it someting iv done my tone of voice or something .....

 

[Mum2b_Claire]

I think 5 months is very young for hugs and kisses. Ruby was a year before she gave proper hugs and still doesn't kiss. She's a daddy's girl too.
Seriously, he doesn't dislike you. You have obviously made him feel secure so he feels no need to doubt you, so he is happy to go to other people.

 

[Gen79]

I'm still just pregnant so not experienced but I would say that your baby loves you and you should just trust that right now. Babies all develop physically and emotionally at different rates. Don't beat yourself up about who you think he loves more, its not fair to anyone. You're not exactly an unbiased observer are you?

 

[RJsMum]

My son is 8 mos and still doesn't properly show love. He will occasionally grab my face and smoosh his into it...hard...but I think that's because he just wants to nurse and for me to quit making faces at him, hehe. The only thing he does do now is hold up his hands to be picked up...but he's a few months older than your LO.

 

[mummylicious]

i know its silly but i cant shake this feeling i love him so much he is my world i just i dunno feel like im not doing something right

 

[smokey]

I think 5 months is a bit young yet, I think average for hugs and kisses is about 10-12 months.
Only reason why Brian puts his arms around me is hes after yanking my hair, he puts his arms up on occasion but I dont think hes actualy aware of why hes doing it yet and only does it when hes upset.
His daddy gets all the best smiles and giggles, daddy means fun and mummy means buisness in our house
Brian will go to other family members very happily but I like to think thats because he is independant (may change in time) and is happy enough knowing im still fairly close and there IF he was to need me.
Of course your LO doesnt dislike you, weither they show it or not you mean the world to him and more interaction will come in time and will melt your heart when it does

 

[Mum2b_Claire]

i know its silly but i cant shake this feeling i love him so much he is my world i just i dunno feel like im not doing something right

It sounds like you are a lovely caring mummy, please try not to worry.

 

[A3my]

I had a similar fear with my LO when he was tiny because of what I read. I convinced myself he was autistic becasue I read he should only have eyes for me during the first weeks when actually he wouldnt even look at me. But then he was fine and loves eye contact now. Try to ignore what you read and dont worry. Your baby will do all those things when he is ready. I know how hard it is not to get paranoid xx

 

[mandylou]

i know how you feel, im dying to see some sign that max loves me, he smiles, but no hugs no kisses.. all he does is kick me, scratch my face, pull my glasses off, pull my hair, and bite my fingers

 

[mummylicious]

thank ye ... ye really put my mind to rest no more reading for me ha ha but really thanks for answering me xxxx

 

[Baby France]

Don't worry about what your baby 'should' and 'shouldn't' do! It all comes with age! Hell my little boy adores his dad and when he was young it was me all day everyday but his dad always got the biggest smile...the little traitor!! Ha ha!

He didn't start reaching out for me til way past the 9 month mark and it did make my heart melt and still does!! He absolutely adores you, I can assure you that much! Your smell, voice and presence will instantly soothe him - he's just learning on how to show it! And when he has learnt it - you will know it x