does your MIL have a relationship with your child?

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  1. missy123

    missy123 Well-Known Member

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    Im just wondering because it kills me that mine hasnt got any time for my little boy..is it common with the "sons" children for the mum to keep her distance?i saw my MIL last week and she didnt even saw hello to my child :cry: just chatted to me and im soooo upset since x
     
  2. mumj18

    mumj18 Well-Known Member

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    Wow. That's really sad. My MIL definitely has less time for our little girl than she does his sisters son. They were born six months apart so everything she's doing he did a few months beforehand so it's boring for them now. It really upsets me when I think about it. My little girl started blowing kisses the other night when MIL was here so all I got was 'aww ***** does that, that's what he does.'

    I wanted to slap her!!!

    But hey, our LO's will always be number one in our eyes!!
     
  3. karlilay

    karlilay Mum of 2 :)

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    :( :hug:

    My MIL does now, but its been a hard struggle to get to where we are (she visits on a Sun). Personally, i couldnt care less if she dropped off the face of the planet but hey...
    I think maybe have a word with OH, take LO round more often to play...
     
  4. missy123

    missy123 Well-Known Member

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    its so sad..i cant wait to have the grandkids around when im older..they are such a blessing :thumbup: i just hope he doesnt feel too bad..hes 7 and he has mentioned it to me that he does not get much time from her or attention
     
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    (we're not married but..) my other halfs mum has our daughter every monday, and when this one is born she'll be having this one to when i go back to work. Shes a bit of a snotty lady so am suprised she wanted to help us out but i do like that our children get to spend time with their grandparents
     
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    sophxx Well-Known Member

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    Nope none at all she's never met him
     
  7. mumj18

    mumj18 Well-Known Member

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    When I think about it though if I had a son I cannot see any reason why I would love his child any less than my daughters or be any less interested.
     
  8. missy123

    missy123 Well-Known Member

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    has she never tried????
     
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    My MIL adores our kids, and my eldest who I had before I met OH. She treats her exactly the same as all her other grandchildren.

    Daisy has always gone up to her house for tea since she was about 2 and now Eden has started going too as SIL is living with her now. They dote on them both.

    I think a lot of mil's are closer to their daughters kids than their sons tho. I don't know why. It's strange!
     
  10. missy123

    missy123 Well-Known Member

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    very strange...we are trying for a baby for so long now and we want it sooo desperately yet she doesnt seem to even notice the one we already made :growlmad:
     
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    XcupcakeX Well-Known Member

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    :nope: That is so sad that she didnt even say hello to your LO. Its discraceful infact. Not surr what to suggest. My MIL is fantastic with Lola, they absolutely adore each other. Its particularly important to me because I have no relationship with my own mum and therefore neither does Lola (they have never met) But OHs mum makes up for that and more .
     
  12. missy123

    missy123 Well-Known Member

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    ahh she sounds lovely..yeah that night we met in mass she came over to me and hugged me and said hello and did not even look at my son :nope: i mean a hello and a little kiss would have made all the difference but she couldnt be bothered..she never minds him or visits us..we always visit her to maintain a relationship with our son but when hes in her home hes plonked in front of the TV she has her daughters kids all the time :shrug:
     
  13. moomin_troll

    moomin_troll mummy to zane and corey

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    zanes seen mil a hand full of times, she doesnt even bother to make a effort. she only saw zane cuz oh would take him to see her.
    so he doesnt even no her which is fine with me shes a bitch.
    since oh died she still hasnt made much effort n shes seen corey once.

    if ur mil doesnt make an effort its her loss, ur oh needs to have words with her
     
  14. missy123

    missy123 Well-Known Member

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    im so sorry hun :cry: thats so bad on her part..ive told my husband i wont be bothering anymore as its not fair on the child..hes starting to notice and id hate for him to feel left out by an adult who should know better
     
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    moomin_troll mummy to zane and corey

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    im making zero effort with my inlaws so if they wana no the boys they can kiss my ass for the pleasure lol

    its awful ur mil didnt even say hello to him! id definatly tell ur oh to have words, she should be ashamed of herself
     
  16. Princess Lou

    Princess Lou Finally a Mummy!

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    My sisters baby was her fellas parents 5th grandchild and my sister actually has to ask them if they can have time without them. Lol.
     
  17. Kiddo

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    I'm lucky. I love the fact that Harvey has such a strong bond with OH's parents and I'm sure Vincent will too. They see them at least once a week and most Sundays they take Harvey shopping or to the airport to watch the planes or to the pet shop to see the animals. Whenever we go to pick him up either mil or fil are on the floor playing with him.
     
  18. MissRhead

    MissRhead Well-Known Member

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    Shes not my MIL anymore but no, she has never bothered with LO. Never ever comes to see him, never has. LOs dad will sometimes take him round to her house when hes home. I dont really care though, LO will know when hes older that their not worth the time anyway x
     
  19. ktm_x

    ktm_x Ellie's Mummy x

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    It's my fil that's the problem. He got caught out lying as to why he wasn't coming to my LO first birthday, we haven't heard a peep from him for two month, infact he doesn't even know we've moved house...
     

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