I've stopped trying to forge a relationship with my DS and my MIL. I just can't be bothered with it when she doesn't try herself!
Daniel is 17 months old and MIL has met him a total of 4 times (will be 5 - she is coming down for a 2 week stay - arriving today - oh joy)
They live in yorkshire (200 miles away) but frankly, in this day and age, I think there are other ways of having a relationship.
We have installed Skype on their computer so they can do free video calls with us. We have told them that all they need to do is phone us to see if we are in/Daniel is awake and we can then skype each other and they can 'see' Daniel and how he is doing.
I have got sick to death of telling my hubby that we really should skype his parents to show them a milestone of Daniels. They are able to make outgoing calls on their phone so I am now waiting for them to initiate some contact.
Both of them are retired and able to drive, but they always want us to visit them in Yorkshire. This is pissing me off too, for various reasons. We both work (hubby nearly 40hrs a week - me 30hrs a week) I'm a shift worker and have to work 2 or 3 weekends a month, so visits need to be planned around my weekends off (which I don't really want to spend with my MIL). Travelling 200 miles with a small child is not pleasant.
They don't have a single thing for him up there. No travel cot, no booster seat, not even a few toys! And more importantly, they refuse to have a fire guard around their open fire, telling me that I should just keep an eye on him and he will be fine!! (I have offered to BUY a fire guard - but nope!)
When they do come and visit, its because they have other plans than seeing their only grandchild! This visit is to see our new house and to 'help' us move! (no doubt, my MIL has a hundred plans for decorating my rooms and will get terribly offended and huffy when I say I don't like her style)