Done CC and feel like crying!

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I have just done CC with Archie which has worked but he is now doing that little hiccup cry in his sleep and I feel awful! I don't feel bad about actually doing CC as he is normally very good at getting to sleep but it is just this hiccupping is so upsetting! :cry:

Does anybody else's baby do this when they have gone to sleep?

xx
 
Mine has done this when ive used CC, its like a little sob hiccup isnt it?

It makes you want to pick them up and cuddle them in.
 
Mine has done this when ive used CC, its like a little sob hiccup isnt it?

It makes you want to pick them up and cuddle them in.

Yeah it does! I just know if I do he will learn that this will happen everytime. I wouldn't do CC for more than 1/2 hour though cause Archie will always fall asleep before this amount of time and if he hasn't I would be concerned there is something wrong.
 
It is very difficult but as my HV says you get to a point when you have tried everything else and you can quite easily only have to do CC once or twice before LO realises what you want them to do. It is personal choice and i think it takes a very strong woman to hear their LO cry and resist picking them up gor their own good.

Well done hun and dont beat yourself up

XXX
 
I never had to (thank goodness!) but you have to remember how ever hard it is to listen to them you are doing them such a huge favour by teaching them to go to sleep....so I can imagine its really upsetting to do and hear - but well worth the outcome!!

Anyone who thinks this is not a really important thing should maybe see 3 and 4 years olds who still cant sleep through the night!!

You are doing a great job!
 
Now he is asleep I have been up to him and moved him into a better position and put his blankets back on. Told him I love him and given him a kiss and he has settled into a nice calm sleep. So glad his hiccupping didn't go on for too long! x

I am looking forward to a nice big smile when he wakes in the morning!! x
 
dont wana make anyone feel bad sry but i just wudnt , cant see the point in it at all, causes babies heart rates to rise , makes them feel insercure, a little cuddle and a song doesnt take long !
i cant even understand it anyways :?
dont wana upset anyone, but its my opinion
 
dont wana make anyone feel bad sry but i just wudnt , cant see the point in it at all, causes babies heart rates to rise , makes them feel insercure, a little cuddle and a song doesnt take long !
i cant even understand it anyways :?
dont wana upset anyone, but its my opinion

I have tried the cuddles and singing which is great while I have hold of him but as soon as I put him down he starts crying again!! I want him to learn to go to sleep on his own.

I understand it is not for everyone. Believe me I am all for people doing what they think is best for their baby and if you don't agree with it then that is fine with me.

:hugs:
 
dont wana make anyone feel bad sry but i just wudnt , cant see the point in it at all, causes babies heart rates to rise , makes them feel insercure, a little cuddle and a song doesnt take long !
i cant even understand it anyways :?
dont wana upset anyone, but its my opinion

I have tried this, and past few nights have still had her with me at 3am...bedtime routine starts at 6:30! Sometimes CC is a last resort

It's killin me listening to her right now, but I honestly and truthfully can't see another way!
 
I have seen my friend do this with her LO and so I appreciate how hard it can be. I am sure that it will be worth it, however hard it seems, well done xx
 
Controlled Crying

I am going to have to give in, shes makin me cry - I cant stand hearing her cry like she is doin, she's gone past just cryin to screaching :(
 
Sorry to be dumb but what is CC?!

It is controlled crying. Basically it is a method used to get your baby to sleep.

Got this info from a website:-

Controlled crying

If all other methods have failed, controlled crying is the most effective way to sleep-train babies over 6 months.

It is an intense technique and takes a lot of commitment and perseverance but can be very successful in getting your baby to sleep through. If your baby is still feeding in the night, however, it's a good idea to try the core night method to ensure he isn't crying from genuine hunger.

Start controlled crying in the evening on the first day. The same procedure should be carried out no matter how many times your baby or toddler wakes up in the night.

Day 1
Step 1 Decide on a regular time to start the bedtime routine and stick to it. Allow at least one hour for the bath, milk feed and settling.


Step2 Settle your child in his bed before he gets too sleepy. Kiss him goodnight and leave the room.


Step 3 Allow a minimum of five to 10 minutes of crying before returning to reassure him. Reassurance should be kept to the minimum. You can stroke him or say 'ssh-ssh' softly, but resist the urge to pick him up. Leave the room after two minutes even if he continues to cry.


Step 4 After the first half hour of crying, the times between visits should be increased by five to 10 minutes each time, to 15-20 minutes between visits.


Step 5 Continue with the checking plan every 15-20 mins until your baby or toddler falls asleep. Reassurance should still be kept to a minimum of no more than two minutes and he shouldn't be lifted out of the cot.


Step 6 If your baby wakes in the night, continue to follow the same plan for the evening, gradually increasing the time between visits, until you are going in every 15-20 minutes.

Day 2

For daytime naps, it is important you start where you left off in the night.
Step 1 Wait at least 20 minutes before checking your baby and continue to keep visits to him to a maximum of two minutes, with the minimum of reassurance.


Step 2 If your baby or toddler falls asleep closer to the time he's meant to be getting up, allow 15 minutes in the morning nap and 45 minutes at the lunchtime nap so he won't end up sleeping after 3pm in the afternoon. If your baby's very tired he may need a short nap of 15-20 minutes late afternoon, so he doesn't become over-tired.


Step 3 Follow the same settling procedure as the first night in the evening, this time waiting 20-25 minutes before returning. During visits on the second night, reassure your baby by saying "ssh-ssh", but don't stroke or touch him.


Step 4 If your baby is still crying after the first hour, the time between visits should be increased to 35-40 minutes.


Step 5 If he wakes in the night, you should wait 45 minutes before checking him, and you shouldn't speak to him or stroke him. Reduce visits to one minute.

Day 3

By the third day, the majority of babies and toddlers will be settling themselves at all sleep-times within 20 minutes and there's no need to check on them.
Step 1 If your baby backtracks at one of the steep-times and you have to go back to checking him, start off with looking in on him every 15-20 minutes and increase the interval until you are back to 4-5-50 minutes.


Step 2 Once your child has done a few days of settling within 20 minutes, you should be able to use the crying-down method for getting him off to sleep. Within a couple of weeks, the majority of babies and toddlers will be going to sleep without any fuss at all.
 
Controlled Crying

I am going to have to give in, shes makin me cry - I cant stand hearing her cry like she is doin, she's gone past just cryin to screaching :(

How long has she been crying for babe and when was the last time you checked on her?

:hugs:
 
Well done you. My Lo does the hiccup cry in his sleep too and usually he goes to sleep properly after a while. I've only done short periods of cc 5 mins max because I'm still getting used to everything and want to reassure him still (plus I'm worried about being branded a bad mum) his dad tho will cuddle him as he spends so little time with us that he likes the cuddle. I think it takes a strong woman to do cc as its easier to feed them or cuddle them than listen to that heartbreaking wail even when its in their best interest
 
I just had to do CC a min ago, Put her to bed at 7pm and been up crying twice already, thing is she stands up in the cot not and is unsteady so i go in lay her down loads of times then she ends up doing this choking cough thing so i end up getting her out anyway! DOH!
 
She's been in her cot since 8, I checked her 5 minutes age, lay her back down and put her dummy in...soothed her for a minute then left. Before I even get the door shut she's yelling.

I don't want to give in as this is a last resort. Hubby says its not a bad thing if she sleeps in our bed as she wont be in it forever. I really don't want to go down that road as I don't sleep at all when she's in with me, and I get really narky if I'm too sleep deprived. God I sound like a horrendous Mum!"
 
well done helen its a bloody hard thing to do but works :) x
 

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