Done CC and feel like crying!

[helent1983]

Well done you. My Lo does the hiccup cry in his sleep too and usually he goes to sleep properly after a while. I've only done short periods of cc 5 mins max because I'm still getting used to everything and want to reassure him still (plus I'm worried about being branded a bad mum) his dad tho will cuddle him as he spends so little time with us that he likes the cuddle. I think it takes a strong woman to do cc as its easier to feed them or cuddle them than listen to that heartbreaking wail even when its in their best interest

I am not as strong a some though. Like I previously said I don't think I could go longer than 1/2 hour it would just be too hard! Luckily I have only ever had to go in on him once before he has dropped off.

Well done you too!

xx

 

[helent1983]

She's been in her cot since 8, I checked her 5 minutes age, lay her back down and put her dummy in...soothed her for a minute then left. Before I even get the door shut she's yelling.

I don't want to give in as this is a last resort. Hubby says its not a bad thing if she sleeps in our bed as she wont be in it forever. I really don't want to go down that road as I don't sleep at all when she's in with me, and I get really narky if I'm too sleep deprived. God I sound like a horrendous Mum!"

No your not a horrendous mum she will learn babe! xx Keep strong and I am sure she will drop to sleep soon.

xx

 

[nikki-lou25]

She's goin quiet, then crying. It sounds like she's droppin off. If she starts again I'm goin to have to get her because an hour is more than enough Poor Aimee, I feel like I'm failing her but I need her to know that bedtime is when we go to sleep.

 

[helent1983]

She's goin quiet, then crying. It sounds like she's droppin off. If she starts again I'm goin to have to get her because an hour is more than enough Poor Aimee, I feel like I'm failing her but I need her to know that bedtime is when we go to sleep.

Bless her it sounds like she is nearly there! Well done you have done great! You will feel better in the morning about it I am sure!

xx

 

[nikki-lou25]

Thanks hunny! She keeps lettin out little cries - gonna go get her

 

[jojo2605]

I know just how you feel Hun. We've introduced a CC type method the last couple of days as we're at the end of our tether with sleep and our LO.

As has been said, well done for sticking to it as it is not the easy option.

I don't see how comments on how other people couldn't do it would help.
In our situation we felt we had no option. If my LO would go to sleep by being rocked or sung to then I'd do it gladly every time!! Unfortunately Sam gets into such a state when tired that nothing helps him to settle. Furthermore, if by chance we do manage to get him to sleep that way, because he hasn't self settled he's awake within half hour. I never imagined I would be able to use this method but after weeks of screaming and crying and thrashing at every sleep time, after 2 days, this seems to work. Tonight Sam went to bed for the first time without crying, and for us that's a major achievement.

I would like to add tho that I can only stand to leave Sam for 3-4 mins max as it's really upsetting!!

Don't let anyone make u feel bad Hun, u know what's right for your baby

 

[helent1983]

I know just how you feel Hun. We've introduced a CC type method the last couple of days as we're at the end of our tether with sleep and our LO.

As has been said, well done for sticking to it as it is not the easy option.

I don't see how comments on how other people couldn't do it would help.
In our situation we felt we had no option. If my LO would go to sleep by being rocked or sung to then I'd do it gladly every time!! Unfortunately Sam gets into such a state when tired that nothing helps him to settle. Furthermore, if by chance we do manage to get him to sleep that way, because he hasn't self settled he's awake within half hour. I never imagined I would be able to use this method but after weeks of screaming and crying and thrashing at every sleep time, after 2 days, this seems to work. Tonight Sam went to bed for the first time without crying, and for us that's a major achievement.

I would like to add tho that I can only stand to leave Sam for 3-4 mins max as it's really upsetting!!

Don't let anyone make u feel bad Hun, u know what's right for your baby

Thanks!

It is lovely to hear it working for you hun! Really pleased for you that Sam managed to get to sleep without crying!

 

[pheobe]

i wud never do this

i do not get the point to this post at all!

 

[mrs mcgrath]

My LO hasn't had a hiccuped cry, he has just has the hiccups before.

A couple of nights in the first few weeks after he was born we had to let him cry in his moses basket as he had been fed, winded & changed and he was just wanting held... after about 7-10 minutes he would stop & fall asleep, he was usually fighting his sleep...

Those 10 minutes felt like an hour... it was awful... but in the long run worked out to be the best thing we could do as he now goes to sleep on his own in his basket without having to be nursed...

They say you have to be cruel to be kind... its not that you're being cruel... its just better to get it stopped now. Our biggest fear was with lifting him into our bed he wouldn't sleep in his own when he is older... something we def didn't want, especially as we want to try for another 2 babies in the future... something that would prove difficult if our son was in the bed with us lol xx

 

[Vici]

You're doing a fab job - for many people CC is a last resort and well done for being strong xx

 

[xxxleeleexxx]

heya we decided to do CC and it was the best desicion i ever made Chloe now goes doen at 7pm usually without a fuss and goes all the way through till 7 or 8am it all pays off trust me xxx

 

[Lara+sam+bump]

dont wana make anyone feel bad sry but i just wudnt , cant see the point in it at all, causes babies heart rates to rise , makes them feel insercure, a little cuddle and a song doesnt take long !
i cant even understand it anyways
dont wana upset anyone, but its my opinion

try 3 hours of rocking at 3am whilst he screams in your arms, or 45mins+ pushing a buggy back and forth in the living room everytime LO needs a nap, or drivivin round in the car 4 an hour with LO screming, finally he falls asleep you stop the car, he wakes up, it starts again. I only had to do it twice and now LO goes down fine more often than not. Think sometimes people with slightly easier/textbook babies are quick to judge others whose babies have more trouble working out the world. Not meaning to upset anyone

 

[sophie c]

Hi girls im just posting to let you girls who are trying CC know of sucess (really good sucess)

me and my OH decided when alys was younger that she could come in bed with us if she woke in the middle of the night (and believe me that was verryy often) too often because we were like zombies in the days, well it got to a point where she was in our bed every night by around 3am, not to mention the hours of trying to get her to sleep (rocking, singing, silence, dark room, the lot)
well we moved in december and so alys was in a new room, new house so we though *new start*
we started a routine where she would have a bath at 7.30pm, the have a little play in her room, then bottle (still in her room in the dark) then put in her cot with her glow beat (subtle music and glow) then walk out after kissing her good night.

well the first night took around a total of 22mins crying before settling ALL night !12 HOURS!
we got down to like 12 mins by mid week, then after around a week of the same thing over and over, she got used to it, she wouldnt even wimper, she would know what was coming it was calm time, sleep time, now she goes to sleep fine every night all night no fuss, no problems! i always said i would NEVER let her cry to get her to sleep and i couldnt listen to her crying, and ill be honest for the first few nights it was like every whimper was tearing at my heart because i wanted to go and hug her but i knew that it would bee sooo much better for her and us in the long run and its really worked!! shes even the same in the MILs house when she stays (not very often atall lol) but still. its only been 2months since we started and its AMAZING how different our nights our and how well aly sleeps. i would recommend CC to anyone!!


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[Foogirl]

We didn't do CC but did do some sleep training and as with all these methods, it involved some crying. Ours gave the option of staying in the room and making soothing noises, but this definitely made her worse so we paced the floor, listening to her cry for five minutes - which seemed like a lifetime.

But here is the thing, she would cry at bedtime before we tried the sleep training anyway. And it would take a couple of hours trying to get her to sleep. Crying on and off, on and off over a couple of hours, this had gone on for a month and would have continued for months after. Babies don't just all of a sudden at a certain age, decide they know how to do it, most will need some help. (As someone said - speak to a parent of a 3 year old who wont sleep through - there are plenty of them!)

Those who talk about raised heart rates blah blah blah - the babies are crying for prolonged periods of time anyway, they won't settle down. Using a method which is short term crying for longer term gain has to be better for them?

It sounds like you are doing great HelenT. It is hard work and it takes strength. But it is worth it in the end.

And a tip someone gave me - use an I-pod to take the edge off the crying!

 

[Sherileigh]

i wud never do this

What a supportive and helpful comment.

 

[Sherileigh]

My son cries more in the night then he would if I did CC. I will be doing this, just have to figure out where to even start! And how to get rid of OH while I do it. I think pretty much most of our parents did this and didn't even think twice. My DR told me to 'Ferberize' my son! lol. I know full well that my son and his inability to sleep and total lack of sleep is a million times more detrimental to his health that me letting him cry. Plus the effect it's having on us...not good. As one book said, if you're child is playing with a knife or doing anything that's not good for them, you'd stop them, and no amount of crying would make you stop, so lack of sleep is not good for them either.
Not trying to debate, just pointing out for some people then really don't have any other options! Myself included!
Please keep us posted on your progress!!

 

[mumtosam]

We did a form of CC and it worked for us. Sam now settles to sleep really easily on his own and he has started to sleep through most nights. It is a hard thing to do but was best in the long term for all of us. I wouldn't do it before a baby is 6 months old and we didn't do it until he was nearly 9 months but that's just my opinion.

 

[helent1983]

Well Archie woke at 7.00am and is a very happy little boy this morning. He is laid on the floor now getting very excited by his toys. Seems like me leaving him to cry for a bit hasn't affected him at all in fact it seems the long sleep has done wonders!

Thanks everyone for your support!

xx

 

[Vici]

Well done hun and enjoy your happy baby x

 

[honey08]

dont wana make anyone feel bad sry but i just wudnt , cant see the point in it at all, causes babies heart rates to rise , makes them feel insercure, a little cuddle and a song doesnt take long !
i cant even understand it anyways
dont wana upset anyone, but its my opinion

try 3 hours of rocking at 3am whilst he screams in your arms, or 45mins+ pushing a buggy back and forth in the living room everytime LO needs a nap, or drivivin round in the car 4 an hour with LO screming, finally he falls asleep you stop the car, he wakes up, it starts again. I only had to do it twice and now LO goes down fine more often than not. Think sometimes people with slightly easier/textbook babies are quick to judge others whose babies have more trouble working out the world. Not meaning to upset anyone

ive FAR from a textbook baby, ur judging me straight off, ive read the cons of CC in the past and find it really awful for wot the babies going thro when ur leaving them to cry !!
and dont even begin to tell me wot its like when u cant get a baby 2 sleep for hrs n hrs on end THEN go to wrk at 9am

all im saying is this is somat i just cudnt do