My OH has been given £1000 for getting a 1st on his degree and wants to use it for going to New York with his friend. Originally he was going around april time for a couple of days and I was okay with that. Now though it turns out that due to his postgraduate course he starts in january the first week off he will get is late june and he wants to go then. Thats 2 weeks before we get married! Besides the terrible timing and him leaving me at home with a toddler whilst he has a holiday we can only just afford the wedding and probably wont be getting on honeymoon but he will find another £500 to spend £1500 on a 4 day trip. Im gutted. I want to cry everytime he mentions it and not because he is going away without me but because he always sees things as "him" not "us". Whenever i have something to celebrate I celebrate with him and whenver i have spare money for a treat i treat us a couple. He celebrates with his friends and spends his spare money on himself with no thought for "us". I dont know how to tell him. I dont want to upset him and he is so excited about new york. Would you just get over it and let him go?