Don't you just get annoyed

[2bananas]

When you discuss names you like with people and they will right in front of you screw their nose up and say I dont like it.

I know some names arent going to be like by everybody and I dont expect them to. But its the way some people go about it.

I dont like every name I hear, and my usual comment is 'i wouldn't have it myself but if you like it thats all that matters' as I believe it actually is all that matters, that the parents like it.

So i am for this reason not discussing my names with anyone in my family or friends - i dont really have any definite names yet anyway but I mentioned a couple the other day in passing to a friend and her reaction was:

'i dont like that'

'thats a stupid name'

and the best one......

' i'll just call it something different if you call it that anyway'

I had the same bloody palava when I had my dd aswell, I called her Isabelle, my mum still doesnt like it even after 4 years.

At the end of the day why are people so opinionated that they think its ok to tell a pregnant woman... who likes a name for her unborn child, that they dont like it and its stupid?

I was really mad!

BTW - the name in question was Dylan

 

[Ilove]

If people ask for opinions on the forum I will say if I'm personally not keen, because there'd be no point in asking if they only wanted positive or false comments about it. But I mean it's obvious that what matters is if the parents like it, and Ill always try and find good points

In real life it can be different, when its your relatives etc...I feel bad for kids who dont get called by their real names by grandparents! My mother can be very opinionated and has outright said she hates some of our name choices...It did hurt, thinking that was potentially her future grandchild, but tbh we dont care anymore, its our choice

Theres definitely a way to put things though. "Thats stupid" is just rude and uncalled for

 

[Neferet]

Oh yess! I hate it when people do that!
My mum is terrible for it and I've now told her that if she has a problem with what I name him to the extent that she calls him something else, she'll never see her grandchild.
I think people should give honest opinions, but they don't have to be so harsh about it.

 

[Gunner's Mama]

There is a definate difference between posting on a forum asking for advice and your mother telling you its a terrible name. It was nice keeping my son's name a secret because once the baby is in your mother's arms she isn't going to turn up her nose to her grandchild. Dylan is a fine name!

 

[lili24]

I could understand if it was an outrageous name but who would turn their nose up at Dylan? It's lovely! The same for Isabelle! x

 

[DizzyMoo]

i liked dylan as an option for my 1st , i love it!!
isabelle is also the name of my cousins 2nd girl & although she really does not look like an isabelle she looks more of a butch name lol the name is very cute though. Makes me more determined when ppl dont like a name to stick with it or at least let them think im sticking with it. My mum is very opinionated on names & is still coming up with name choices for me despite the fact ive told her im having bobby grr. It was either bobby or riley & she wants riley so it kinda put me off coz i know she'd then say she picked it or she helped me decide grr

 

[Mary Jo]

I HATE this and I've had it with some of my OH's relatives (and to a lesser extent his friends), so much so that next time we will not be telling anyone of our shortlist and just announcing our decision when baby is born.

My MIL-to-be, for example - GAH - we told her were debating Adam and Elliott and she told us she MUCH prefered Elliott and didn't like Adam because in her 25 years of being a child minder she had never met an Adam who wasn't a snotty nosed brat, whereas all the Elliotts were sweet and good boys. Same with my OH's step grandmother (who I don't know well at all and she got on my bad side by touching my belly without asking first), who also turned her nose up at Adam for being "common" whereas Elliott is "more unusual". SO? I don't care! Neither name is THAT common! she then proceeded to give HER favourite names for our consideration, which included some I cannot bear (I don't like any names in the Cayden/Jaden/Braden family and it was one of those). Thing was, I didn't slag off HER favourite names so I'd have appreciated if she'd kept her opinions on our choices to herself! We didn't even tell her what they were, we said we had 2 options and were waiting to meet the baby before deciding, but MIL to be decided to announce our shortlist and - well, people started to weigh in.

Grrrrrr. NEVER AGAIN. It's not their child! they had their time to name a baby, this is ours, let us have it. Also, while their opinions have not put us off Elliott, we are 90% sure baby will now actually be Adam

 

[timbawundakin]

My mums bloody world famous for this. I say I like a name and shes like, oh! you cant call her/him THAT!!!!!!!
E. why not?? MY child MY choice.
Stick to your guns hunni. Dylan is a cute name.

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[Rikki]

Also, while their opinions have not put us off Elliott, we are 90% sure baby will now actually be Adam

Adam is a great name. I called my youngest son Adam. His dad hated it, but I stuck to my guns, and I'm glad. There actually aren't that many Adams around. As you mentioned - the rage at the moment seems to be names like Jayden or similar, which aren't names I personally would use.

As for Dylan - perfectly normal name and good enough for Catherine Zeta Jones!

 

[tinypumpkin]

We're not telling IRL either for the same reason. It's such a pain isn't it. Asking on here is totally different and I appreciate the honesty.

As for Dylan, it was one of my top choices for a boy but we are having two girls. I adore the name, it's so lovely. Stuff them if you want it, go for it.

 

[2nd&Last]

I had this trouble last time I was pregnant, everyone thinks it's their right to tell you what they think. My gran was the worse, she turned her nose up to every name I liked.

Then when I decided my cousin stole the name I had picked anyway.

I haven't told anyone any names I have in mind this time and everyone keeps asking and trying to trick me into telling them, even asking my five year old what they are.

Stuff em, you call your little one whatever you like chick. xx

 

[Vicks]

We don't know the sex of the baby yet and have been set on a girls name (Olivia) since we found out we were pregnant.
But boys name... wow!! Everything we suggested someone either said they hated, laughed at etc, so me and hubby decided on a name at 20 weeks and haven't told anyone!!!! It's driving them all mad not they don't know, but we just say that they all were so opinionated before, we don't want their comments anymore!!