Dreading telling work :-(

[pinkcatgirl]

I'm 14 weeks this week and still haven't told work... I'm dreading it. I'm a GP in a small practice, there's one other female GP - and she announced her pregnancy 10 weeks ago! I'd only found out 4 days earlier so obviously said nothing as still so early.

I'm planning on leaving permanently when I go on maternity leave, it's a long commute to work and with two kids I want to find a job closer to home.

Just thinking about it makes me feel so sick. I should be so happy and excited right now but I just feel guilty. Bleugh. Any advice welcome!

 

[MamaLa]

I was in a similar situation. I work in am internal medicine clinic running the lab department. The NP was about 25 weeks when I found out that I was expecting. I dreaded telling work. I didn't want them to think I was following behind her, get on me for being so young, or anything negative. I told them when I was 17 weeks, and they were over the moon with joy!. I was shocked, I was literally sweating telling them, but they have been nothing but supportive.

 

[shinona]

I was terrified to tell my work too as I haven't been there long. But they were lovely and really supportive. Will you tell them that you're leaving permanently? If so I'd put on your big girl pants and do it soon so they can start looking for someone else. As my dh said to me "it's not going away so you need to just tell them" lol! He was right of course xx

 

[NotNic]

If you're in the UK don't tell them you want to leave afterwards. Legally they can't ask you, and you may have a clause about repaying holiday pay etc. back in your contract so you're probably best to do research first - plus you don't know where you will be in a year's time, so best to be in a job while you look for a new one.

I've just told my team and HR at 22 and a bit weeks. It's a relief to finally wear comfortable, bump revealing clothes My company has had some restructuring (not in my department) and I've just changed my hours so I was dreading telling them, but they've all been really pleased for me. Remember nothing they say can change you having a baby, and if you tell it as 'happy news' in a positive way it'll go down much easier. Good luck!

 

[pinkcatgirl]

Came into work to find the practice manager is away for 2 weeks! Pah!

So will be 16 weeks when I next see her! May not need to say much.

 

[Gingerspice]

Are you a partner or a locum? Surely if a partner it makes little difference from a legal perspective whether you're wanting to leave? I mean it's not like you'll get maternity pay and potentially paying for your cover to fill your gap so in that respect it's down to your choosing as to whether you formally leave before maternity or after? The bit of Maternity is obsolete to your decision in leaving a practice from their eyes.....

 

[pinkcatgirl]

I'm a salaried so have a 3 month notice period but that's it. I'd get much better mat pay if I didn't leave and came back for 3 months but that's what I did after my last baby and then am still there a year on! The hour long commute is getting me down and once kids at school will be impossible. Would rather leave now and find a closer job.

I just feel I am "letting them down" by having children!! Pathetic really but I think I'm a guilty feeling person by nature.

 

[Spiffynoodles]

When I was pregnant with my first, I literally found out I was expecting the same day after I'd accepted a job offer! I was really nervous about telling my boss, because I was worried that they would think that I had known I was pregnant when I took the job and just didn't tell. I waited a little while and then told the boss, and he was really happy for me. He said that they would be sad to see me go (I quit to be a SAHM when baby came) but that being a mom was more important.