My husband wanted to have a diaper party at our house. Basically he invited a bunch of men over to drink and cook out and they bring pampers. Two weeks before this party he said he wanted to have, he requested that I take our daughter and we be absent for the manly hangout. I told him no problem. the party started at 5. He told me if I wanted, I could stay with his mom for the night or he would get me a hotel. I told him no way! Im 9 months pregnant, Im uncomfortable and I will be sleeping no where else but my own bed. He said fine. However, i did tell him I will not be watching anyone else's kids so they can attend his party and everyone needs to be gone by 10 so i can sleep. My husbands family is rowdy and plays dominos and poker well into 3 am in the past and I told him i wont deal with it 9 months pregnant or with a newborn. This conversation took place leading up to the party about 10 times. He never agreed or refused in each conversation simply was passive aggressive and said, "We'll see." Which isnt an answer. As guests arrived i announced to his uncles have fun this ends at 10 and Im going to bed. I left with our daughter and (might I add) someone elses kid in tow until 10:20 when i came home to a house full of men playing poker and blaring the T.V. I called my husband before my arrival and reminded him that everyone needed to leave and he said i will talk to you when you get here. Again evasive. I announced to the guys that the party was supposed to end at 10 and it was now almost 10:30 and it was time to go bc I am 9 months pregnant, tired, and due in a week. My husband gave me the death glare and asked to talk to me in the bedroom.
Once there I told him exactly what I felt about this and why I was so frustrated. He told me, "This is what is going to happen, they are going to stay here and play poker, we will keep it down and turn the t.v. down." I said no it is not going to happen like that bc we discussed this repeatedly, I was considerate of your requests and you need to be considerate of mine. If you wont advocate for my needs then I will. In the past his family is unable to "keep it down" cursing and yelling at each other during poker games until 3 am. Im not dealing with that crap! Everyone left after my announcement, but my husband accused me of embarrassing him and kicking his family out. He said I was classless in my delivery and ghetto. He says I should have pulled him aside to talk to him YET AGAIN, prior to addressing the guests. I told him no, you wouldnt do it so I did. Why because I was assertive, am I classless and ghetto, but if he did it he would have been manly, assertive, and showing leadership. Its a bunch of frustrating crap. So now he wants me to apologize to his family for asking them to leave. I told him no, he needs to apologize for misleading them to believe that this party had no deadline! He should also apologize to me for stringing me along for 2 weeks to believe that he was going to cooperate with my request to have guests leave at 10. I told him if he wanted to party later he should have had his gathering somewhere else or got his own hotel. IM PISSED!
Further he come home yesterday and announced when the baby gets here and my family comes from out of town to visit he will not be doing anything with them, accommodating them in anyway, or cooking for them because of how I treated his family/guests by asking them to leave the party. How immature and vindictive is that? I told him so too. This is juvenile. Hard to believe he will be 40. Grow up!
Once there I told him exactly what I felt about this and why I was so frustrated. He told me, "This is what is going to happen, they are going to stay here and play poker, we will keep it down and turn the t.v. down." I said no it is not going to happen like that bc we discussed this repeatedly, I was considerate of your requests and you need to be considerate of mine. If you wont advocate for my needs then I will. In the past his family is unable to "keep it down" cursing and yelling at each other during poker games until 3 am. Im not dealing with that crap! Everyone left after my announcement, but my husband accused me of embarrassing him and kicking his family out. He said I was classless in my delivery and ghetto. He says I should have pulled him aside to talk to him YET AGAIN, prior to addressing the guests. I told him no, you wouldnt do it so I did. Why because I was assertive, am I classless and ghetto, but if he did it he would have been manly, assertive, and showing leadership. Its a bunch of frustrating crap. So now he wants me to apologize to his family for asking them to leave. I told him no, he needs to apologize for misleading them to believe that this party had no deadline! He should also apologize to me for stringing me along for 2 weeks to believe that he was going to cooperate with my request to have guests leave at 10. I told him if he wanted to party later he should have had his gathering somewhere else or got his own hotel. IM PISSED!
Further he come home yesterday and announced when the baby gets here and my family comes from out of town to visit he will not be doing anything with them, accommodating them in anyway, or cooking for them because of how I treated his family/guests by asking them to leave the party. How immature and vindictive is that? I told him so too. This is juvenile. Hard to believe he will be 40. Grow up!
