Early 30's TTC #1

[mrsmax]

mrsmax, I'm not missing wine either, which is surprising considering how much I love it. I would not do well if I had to give up cheese though. I ordered a salad yesterday and had to make sure that I got one without feta or crumbled blue cheese, which was painful! Sorry you're feeling so down. Your time is coming. Look forward to the IVF. Your time is coming.

SB, yay for lupron!!!! Do you know when you start "stimming" (ivf code for stimulating the eggs)? Any idea when retrieval is or anything? So exciting!!!


Afm, nothing to report. 2 more days until we see how many buns are a-cookin'. Anyone have any bets? Trying to stay at peace until then.

I bet 3 - just kidding. I bet 2.

 

[rosababy]

I bet 3 - just kidding. I bet 2.

Not even funny!! I hope 2.

 

[MrsPTTC]

I still think two! x

 

[Regalpeas]

Maybe two for you Rosa.

Soleil glad everything went well. I can feel your PMA through the screen!

Everyone else fx H&h . Everyone seems chat happy that makes me smile. AF has come and gone cycle 19 for me. Ive been scheduled for another Post-K Wednesday. Not sure why as I'll only be around cycle day10 or 11. We'll see how that works out. Nothing else from me except WL and upcoming Urologist apt.

 

[MrsPTTC]

Sorry you're on cycle 19 Regal, I hope you get your BFP soon.

Rosa, it's your scan tomorrow isn't it??? Sooooo exciting!!!

x

 

[rosababy]

Rosa, it's your scan tomorrow isn't it??? Sooooo exciting!!!

x

Yep!

 

[MrsPTTC]

I'll be glued to BnB tomorrow for your news! Good luck, hope it goes well and it's not triplets!! x

 

[mrsmax]

Hey Regal 19 sucks. Think I am on 21 - grrr.

Rosa - goof luck for tomorrow hon. cant wait to hear x

 

[MsJMouse]

Regal Peas/Mrsmax - I think I am up around there for cycle numbers as well minus 2 months pregnancy last year. As Rosa has said 2012 is going to be the year of the baby

Good luck with your scan Rosa. I think there will be two!

 

[MrsPTTC]

I'm a few months behind you girls, I'm on cycle 16 (feels like 26 lol.) Question for you Rosa, something that popped in my head, though I'm sure the answer will be no! Fertilised eggs, not sure what the technical term is, when they implant them, can you pick gender? Just thinking cos they'll know if the sperm is an x or y! . I know nothing about IVF, its probably a dumb question. I know you can have gender selection in the US if you pay privately - I'm sure that's what Victoria Beckham will have done to get her girl x

 

[rosababy]

I've never heard of gender selection, so I don't know. It was never presented to me as an option.

 

[MrsPTTC]

I was just thinking about the whole IVF thing & was just wondering whether when they're picking out the good sperm they can tell the sex or not. Gender selection is illegal over here I know that x

 

[Soleil Breeze]

Hello! :wave:

I got some great news today - insurance is going to cover over four grand of my meds! I only have to pay the co-pays (just over two hundred). Wooooow. What a relief! This is HUGE.

Rosa, I think you've got two little Rosas in there. And to answer your questions, I'm not entirely sure when stimming will begin, but the nurse told me that retrieval would be around Feb 14th and then the transfer somewhere between Feb 16 and 18.

MrsPTTC, my understanding is that if you get PGD (pre genetic testing), they can tell you the sex of the embryos.

MrsMax, I remember seeing the AMH test listed on my lab report from the old clinic. Didn't know what it was for...I feel good that your AMH result will be as stellar as your FSH one.

Regal, best wishes on your upcoming appts and tests. These are all things that will get you that much closer to where you wish to be!

Can't wait for Rosa's update tomorrow!

 

[MrsPTTC]

Hi Soleil, that is brilliant news about the IVF!! It's sooo exciting. Hopefully you'll have the same success as Rosa! Rosa has updated her journal with her news, but I'll not say anything and let her update herself.

Well I've come up with a new strategy for this month. You might think I'm stupid but I'm giving it a go. My CM was never very good anyway and I've always needed lube, but with the clomid I've had very little (none last cycle) EWCM. I have a feeling my problem is that my CM is hostile. I read the other day if it is hostile the can only live 20mins!! So it got me thinking, I've used pre-seed, then conceive plus & now have just gone back to pre-seed, but maybe it's not enough. So I decided to do what some couples do for various reasons (same sex couples/sex pain/physical problems/illness) and inseminate! Well I don't know if inseminate is the right word, as what I'm doing (and I know through the soft cups thread I am on that it works) is putting pre-seed inside me, getting DH to "deposit" into the softcup, adding some more pre-seed to the cup and mixing it about, then inserting the softcup & having an O. I have no idea if it will work, but I just wonder if the lube we've used before is enough. We'll still BD around the fertile time just in case and because it's the "normal" thing to do. Any thoughts ladies? The softcups sit much higher than other menstrual cups so the sperm/lube mix is literally on your cervix x

 

[mrsmax]

Hello ladies.

First - Soleil - woop woop. That is fantastic news. Thank goodness you didnt wait let you were going to on the off chance it woudl be funded.

MrsPTTC - is it bad that I chickled when I read your post? I am sure that could work - it just makes me laugh that us LTTC have to try so many crazy things when other people simply have sex!!! I hope it works for you.

I got a BFN today. I really didnt care - am def resigned to this IVF thing. Anyways, I rang the clinic as havent heard from them since our Dec appoinment. They said they would try to fit us in next period (so about 17th Feb and results end April), but as it was Easter there may be a chance that it would be the next one - (so mid March start and results end May). The annoying thing is that I wont know for sure until I ring on the first day of that period! Also annoying that I waited so long for them to contact me - I should have rung weeks ago!!!!

Nevermind. I am kinda resigned to this thing not happening qucikly - just as long as it happens at all. If I get a BFN end of April it will be doubly horrid as my LTTC friend is due on the 30th April.

I forgot to ask the clinic about my AMH result - or even whether it as in or not. I dont want to be an the pain in the bum patient - do you think I should wait until I call on CD 1 in a month or call back and ask them if they got the result? Or, (for you guys in the UK) do you think they will send teh result to my GP and copy me in? They did write to him to say I was having the AMH and IVF...I really dont want to ring the clinic and make a pest of myself.

Soleil - did they just not bother telling you your results. Eg if they are fine they just get on with it?

 

[rosababy]

I briefly read...will comment more later.

SB, read my journal! There's one little bub in there, and the heartbeat was nice and strong!!

 

[MrsPTTC]

Yeah I know mrsmax it is a funny thing to do! But at this moment in time I will try anything as long as it doesn't cost a lot (accupuncture off the cards at £45 a session!) I've just been reading a thread about insemination success stories and they have all got their BFP's within a few months. Definitely going to keep trying it .

Sorry about the BFN. I would ring the clinic and ask about your AMH results rather than wait another month. I'm sure they send the results to your doctor, but I don't think the doctor posts them out automatically. My DH had to call the docs to see if his SA was back, it was but they wanted to see him, even though everything was fine x

 

[Regalpeas]

MrsPTTC: great idea! I say when you know you gave it your all what else can you do. Have you tried soft cups yet? They hurt me so bad. Maybe I'm just a wimp.
Yay! for insurance actually doing their part Soleil lol! So happy for you. So excited that you are moving forward. You so deserve this!

Sorry MrsMax BFN are never ever easy. Glad you are taking it easy and planning for the next step. That's the way to beat this!
MJMouse thanks for the encouragement.

This is not the best TTC week for me. First I had a facebook issue which I felt bad for even caring (ex coworker complaining about not wanting her pregnancy) I totally overreacted by being upset. Then reconnected with an old college friend who questioned why no children yet and forced me to face what I have been avoiding except here and at home. Lastly my mother reports that family members are starting to rumor I can't have children. I was upset only because my mom asked me if it is true, as if I would tell others that and not her. Screw the family gossip. Ugghhh so emotional. Then she kept looking really sad. So I explained to her that I don't really know what's going on exactly but I am praying for the best. For some reason these things just overwhelmed me emotionally. I didn't tell DH because I know he secretly blames himself. Plus we made the right decision to keep this to ourselves. But...did we realistically think we could keep our struggles private for ever?

Sorry to be so down when everyone seems so encouraged right now. But we always said we could come here to discuss both the good and the challenges. Plus, I am not giving up just frustrated and exhausted.

Hope you all are having great weeks.
And so excited about the LO Rosa.

 

[Soleil Breeze]

Ok! I have to get to Rosa's journal in a second...be reading and commenting in there in a bit

As for you other gals, I am so squeamish about anything going up my vaginal canal other than DH's penis (I don't even use tampons), I couldn't do the soft cup thing, but all the more power to you MrsPTTC if you aren't as squeamish as I am! Try it out a coupl'a cycles. Who knows, eh?

MrsMax, these results are from YOUR body. You have a right to know. They are being PAID to provide you services like telling you what your results are. Believe me, they can't tell one pain in the butt patient from another. We're al tigers! and call 'em!

In fact, I've got to reach out to my crew tomorrow. I've heard nothing back on the ureaplasma culture or DH's SA (or our BW for that matter, although we already know what those results would be like).

My meds came in the mail today. Five days until Lupron! Although we were so incredibly fortunate to have our meds practically covered, we still had to pay just under $11,000 for the IVF and a frozen embyro transfer, if it comes down to that (we bought a package through a fertility financing program). Not as awful financially as I thought it would be. Still a chunk of our hard earned savings, tho. Anyhew, it WILL be worth it, just like it is for Rosa!

Love to all!

 

[Soleil Breeze]

Didn't see your post the first time, friend. So sorry that yours is such an emotional week. And I can totally understand what it feels like when family members think that you won't be having a baby any time soon and show it on their faces. As if we have control over this process. As if we aim to be so terribly different to the rest of the fertile population. Ughhh.

Sometimes the very people we expect to be so supportive of us in this journey (e.g. our moms) turn out not to be so, while those we wouldn't expect often turn out to be complete jewels. You have to reach out and lean on the latter more often, and just remind yourself that you are treasured so MUCH that others in your family really want a mini you. It is OUR bodies and OUR decisions, tho. We owe no one an explanation about this TTC journey. I am just now realizing this. xx