Early 30's TTC #1

[rosababy]

mrsmax, what does amh mean? Quality of eggs? I can't remember. I'm so sorry you're upset.

 

[mrsmax]

Hi guys - not sure I completely understand it. They would be wanting 15 or more which is satisfactory - so 5 is very low. It supposedly doesnt mean anything about quality just quantity - eg a low ovarian reserve. It is not low enough for them to not do IVF but does mean they would only expect to get 5 or 6 eggs instead of 10 plus. It also means we dont have much time left - anyone under 10 is told to start to TTC straight away.

DH just made me feel better - we are giving this a shot (4 shots we decided) and then we will look at othet options - he said he would conisder adoption.

One way or the other we will get our family. I just havent ever felt this low

 

[rosababy]

Oh hun. I'm so sorry. How scary. It's good that you and your dh have a plan. 4 rounds is good. Maybe you could consider egg doners? If it came down to that, I mean. Hopefully you won't need it. I only had 6 mature eggs each time, and it worked for me. Don't lose hope. My doc said he'd be happy to get 7-8 out of me because I had older ovaries too.

 

[MrsPTTC]

Aw sorry mrsmax hun, I understand, Rosa is right, it worked for her with 6 eggs, so no reason it shouldn't work for you. And yes egg donation could be something for you to consider, though I imagine it very expensive. I think we would adopt too if it came to that x

 

[Regalpeas]

MrsMax I am so sorry that the news have you down but have faith it will work out. Glad you know now what may have been apart of the challenge ttc. Now you and your DH can move forward toward better results. Also glad you both are open to several option no matter what should occur. However, praying everything goes well with you in IVF.

Just stopping by to say hi to everyone else and best wishes with whatever phase of TTC you are in. Most of you ladies are in IVF process. I know it's hard but it's good you are one step forward.
I am still in the beginning not knowing what the hell is going on. Good thing is we have a Urology apt with male factor FS tomorrow so we can get things started on DH's end. On the other hand I don't know what's going on with my egg quality or my tubes. That's exactly why I did not track this cycle. It gets to be too much. I don't like feeling like I am wandering around not knowing what's going on at all.

Well praying for the best for all of you gals.

 

[Soleil Breeze]

MrsMax, I wish I could take away your frustration, sadness and disappointment... But look at this from another angle (or two). Your AMH is not zero. You have eggs. You ARE already in the process of getting IVF started, so the ball is still in your court. It IS. I know that we want to have so many eggs for the embryologist to pick from when it comes to IVF, but the QUALITY of the egg is what counts. Not just how many. Everything else for you is checking out, right? So it's a numbers thing. Remember that these levels (AMH, FSH, etc., etc.) and somewhat arbitrary in where they place the "low" and the "high" end of the spectrum. Just remember, my friend, you are NOT zero. YOU HAVE EGGS to give and YOU WILL get a baby. I am confident that you will not need four rounds of IVF either. This is going to work for you whether you have two goods eggs or 12.

Regal, to refresh my memory, have you had an HSG yet or a saline sonogram? Do you use OPKs to check whether you are O-ing? I used to do all sorts of stuff for almost two years (acupuncture, p-ing on a stick, herbs, pre-seed, etc., etc.) and believe me, us girls feel your frustration at not knowing exactly what is going on. Step by step; step by slow step.

AFM, the one cycle that I don't need my body to F around, voila, it is. My temps are below the cover line. What the heck is going on?! I must be on CD 23 now. Good Lord. I think I've Oed ONCE before this late. I am going to have to look at my little book of fertility symptoms to see when that was.

Unbelievable. I actually WANT to start Lupron! as in yesterday!!

xx

 

[rosababy]

SB, welcome to the ever popular "waiting for my body to cooperate to start ivf" game. It's super fun. Next, it'll be waiting for af. It never happens when we want it to. Do you have another scan to see if you o'ed soon?

 

[MrsPTTC]

Thanks Regal, hope you get some answers from the tests & you get your bfp soon.
Mrsmax, how are you feeling? Hope you're ok.
Soleil, maybe your body is making your eggs nice, big & juicy & that's why you're ovulating late?
Rosa, you're a blueberry!

AFM, DH birthday today & we bit the bullet & finally booked to go back to Turkey in May! Just before my birthday . Need something to look forward too. Hope I'm preggo by then

x

 

[Soleil Breeze]

Hi! We are rather quiet today. We must either be very serious and have a lot going on, or we're just saying "screw this TTC" stuff for a while.

Rosa, I've got a scan tomorrow AM and more bloodwork. Based on my BBT this morning, I still haven't Oed. Sucks. I think that I got way too stressed out about the whole IVF process. My body duly took note and said well, if you're gonna freak out about it, then we just won't ovulate, will we? That way you can't get your period and can't begin the IVF meds. Hah.

Ooo and MrsPTTC, you go, girl! Way to get your Turkey trip set! I'm working on a trip to Germany in April/May.

Until tomorrow, ladies!

 

[rosababy]

MrsP, yay for vacay plans!! You went to turkey before, right? I'd love to go there. It's so nice to have something to look forward to. Hopefully it'll take your mind off ttc a little bit. We have a mini vacay planned to Arizona to visit my parents (they're just vacationing for a few weeks since they're retired) and we're so pumped! It'll be nice and warm.

SB, I can not believe you haven't o'ed yet! Has it ever been this late for you before?? How infuriating! I o'ed late on my rounds too, which pushed everything back and was super annoying. However, not this late. I'm sure it'll happen soon, and you're right, it probably is due to stress. Hang in there!

 

[dbluett]

Hello Everybody,:wave:
I am 31 and we have been TTC for a year now. Was told about amonth ago I have PCOS. My OBYN referred me to a fertility specialist. He is going to put on me clomid in a few weeks as well as a "trigger" shot. I has been a rough year, so we are hoping that 2012 will be better! :hoping:

Good luck to all!!

 

[readyORnot]

hi dbluett

 

[MrsPTTC]

Thanks ladies! Yes Rosa, we went to Turkey just last October, but it rained for 5 days out of 7! But we still loved it so much and we're going back to the same resort and hotel! Arizona will be great, and very hot depending on when you're going.

Hi dbluett welcome to our group! Good luck with the clomid hun!

ReadyORnot - you're 16 weeks already?? Wow!!

x

 

[Soleil Breeze]

Well, it has now been resolved. So, I went in for the b/w and ultrasound on TH and, no, Rosa, I still hadn't O'ed. [ARGH]. But lo and behold, all by little self, I have a mature follicle on EACH ovary. Without clomid! :say what: I mean, if DH and I were normal, we could potentially have fraternal twins this cycle! O.M.G. And so this is were the dilemma came in. I said to my RE as I was sitting up after the internal u/s, maybe this is the month where we'd do it on our own? Ha, ha, ha. He looks right at me and says, I would have intercourse. I was like, HUH?

I mean, they tell us not to do that in the prep month (or use protection). Lupron causes birth defects, etc., etc. And so, confused as I am, I point this out to my RE. He says that the fetus doesn't develop a neurological system that can be affected by Lupron until well after we'd find out we were pregnant and able to stop the Lupron. So I, and baby, would be fine.

Back up. I am not yet on Lupron because I had not Oed as of TH. I will, however, more than likely start Lupron TH of next week. So I would be taking Lupron for several days IF I got pregnant. e.g. Maybe four or five days. The RE is telling me that it's okay to have intercourse, if I want. WHAT TO DO? WHAT TO DO? I soooo want to get pregnant by ourselves, without help. The doc is telling me that I can have sex, but everything on the web is saying how bad lupron is and that it can cause birth defects and NOT to take it when pregnant or if you're even thinking about becoming pregnant (crazy right, and yet they have you take it as part of your IVF down protocol).

So I hemmed and I hawed.

Anyway, so this is taking way too long to tell. But I did some serious soul searching on TH. I seriously considered have sex and taking any potential risk from any residual lupron. I mean, the doc. had even said that they have three or four cases a year in which girls are on lupron in the prep. month and get pregnant. I asked him if their babies came out okay, all he said is that with every pregnancy there's risk.

Anyhew. DH made an executive decision. No sex until I've Oed. And so now I am giving up two eggies to the black hole of my uterus.

Enough about me. dbulett - welcome! You will find this a supportive group of girls. Most of us have been trying TC for a year or longer, too. And we've tried ALL sorts of stuff to get pregnant. So ask away, share, read, whatever you want.

Rosa - can I just tell you that I popped over to your journal and am now worrying. A cyst. ECK. I am prone to them and had two really bad episodes where they burst (couldn't walk, etc.). It was great. So now I'm worrying that these meds are going to hyper stimulate me and cause me to get a cyst... LAWWWWD, why do I worry so much? I hope yours goes away without you even noticing.

Happy weekend, my friends!

 

[MrsPTTC]

Hi Soleil, fab news about the follies but such a shame its wasted Could you not take the lupron & start IVF next month? Sorry if that's a dumb question, but I dont know enough about it x

 

[hopefulmama2b]

Soliel- I think you made the right decision. Had you got pregnant you would've just worried the whole time. Good luck with starting Lupron and IVF! Very exciting!

MrsMax- I'm so sorry about the AMH news. I don't know a lot about it, but since it has to do with quantity and not necessarily quality you just have to think positive and hope that it will work. I did a quick search of it on BnB and there's TONS of success stories with low numbers. Good luck!

I'm still thinking about all of you ladies often even though I don't check in much. I have been very sick and really just struggling to make it through each day. I am going to be a better supporter for you all, as you have all been great supporters for me, as soon as I am feeling a little better. Just want you to know that out of sight it NOT out of mind as far as my favorite TTC girls are concerned. I am so thankful for all of you.

 

[MrsPTTC]

Hope you're feeling better soon hopeful

Ladies, when I am preggo I am not going over the 3rd tri My god, there are always loads of locked threads, I've just read to page 26 on this https://www.babyandbump.com/pregnancy-second-trimester/864484-pointless-thread.html It's hilarious, but disgraceful at the same time. Amazing what hormones do to people! x

 

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[rosababy]

Dbluett, welcome! This is a great group. Hope you get your bfp soon.

MrsP, SUCKS that it rained that long! We went on a cruise to Canada and New England last summer and the summer was so rainy and cloudy, we didn't even get to stop in Maine! Yes, Arizona will be hot, but a nice change from now. Not that it's that cold here now...it's going to be 63 and sunny tomorrow! And I agree about the pregnancy threads. 1st tri is terrifying! I won't go back there again. I'm sticking with my trusty threads.

SB, I think you made the right decision. If you had gotten preggo, you would have worried about it the whole time. Doc said the cyst is totally normal, it won't burst, it'll go away on its own and I shouldn't worry about it. Okey dokey, if he says so! So, have you started Lupron yet? Any ideas of when your retrieval will be yet?

Hopeful, I'm so sorry you're so sick. Don't worry about supporting us, you take care of yourself. We'll still be here when you feel better. Hang in there.


Afm, had my 8 week scan today and saw the heartbeat again! I have 2 appointments next week. Monday is with my regular ob/gyn (I won't have a scan because of insurance reasons) and Tuesday is my last scan/appt with my RE. It's bittersweet, because I love that office so much, I'll miss them. I feel safe there. On a good note, I'm down to every other day for my shots!!! I'm shot free today!

 

[hakunamatata]

I felt the same about some of the pregnancy threads (and even some pregnancy books!!) Just scares the crap out of me. I'm better off not thinking about it

Will be popping in and hoping for more BFP's!!!