Early 30's TTC #1

[rosababy]

I totally understand, piccolo. There are times when I can't think of anything but ttc and why in the world can't we conceive. My friend (who is 10 weeks pregnant...of course!) told me that something that helped her was to choose a month in the future, and don't worry about it until then. She wasn't going to freak out or be concerned before March, so every time she got AF (she tried for about 8 months), she was okay with it. My freak out month is May. And by "freak out", I mean I will go in for fertility testing, since it will have been a year. However, my dh and I decided that if we're not pregnant by April, we'll go to Spain for vacay! Try to find something like that where you can look forward to, or put your mind at ease until a time in the future. As for now, enjoy life! Have a drink. Be thankful for what yo do have, and remember that 9 months is average, meaning some totally normal couples take longer than that.

 

[finallyready]

Picolo - Sorry got you!

Ugh - so I decided to take a test and No AF in site! I was so sure that I might see that lovely second line, but why should I be so lucky. All I know is that AF BETTER come soon because I really really don't think I can go through another 5 months of NOTHING! It's too draining playing the what if or might I be? game. At least ladies your AF's are regular...that is a good sign...apparently I am not so lucky.

Sorry for the rant...just feeling a bit down. Was so sure I would either get AF or BFP and now that I don't have either, I feel like I'm right back to where I started.

 

[arianne]

Rosa my freak out month is may too!! we could freak out together
Also planning a trip so I can relax! but a girls trip this time, my hubby is done with traveling... last year we went to soo many places thinking that it would be our 'last year'... so naive!!

piccolo thanks for the thread you started... I was reading some of the histories... however I was hoping to see more bfps after around 9 months it seems that if it doesnt happen before 6 months it happens after 1.5 years!

This month I am trying the raspberry leaf tea.... but only till ovulation, as there is a lot of debate whether it is ok to take it in early pregnancy or not... so just want to play it safe...

Also, will do the pinneaple core.... will let you know how it goes...

my next thing to try on the list is vitex (agnus cactus)... after that... I just dont know what else is to try

 

[arianne]

finallyready! which cd are you on?? your af will come soon, dont worry! sometimes it is delayed a bit... I also worry about my periods... they come regularly, but they are extremely light, and last for a day only... I have been worried about it since I was 28, always going to docs to get checked... I just cant believe this is normal!!! specially now, that it's taking me a long time to conceive, I have the feeling that this has to do with it... I am mad at the doctors! they keep ignoring it! agrr!

 

[rosababy]

arianne, my dh and I also went everywhere last year as our "last time"! HA! Oh well. Finally, are you sure you're 17 dpo? I can't remember if you're charting...maybe you just o'ed late?

 

[finallyready]

I'm not charting...I have no idea where I am. LOL! I thought I had a positive OPK and posted those pics a while back....but I had hardly any CM - that was on a Monday....then the following Sat when DH and I I had a TON of CM so I am now wondering if I OV'd then? I didn't bother taking a OPK test at that time. I guess it is possible I did OV later than I thought, but honestly since my cycles aren't regular I wonder if I even ovulated at all.

I wish I could remember how long my cycles were before BCP....Oh well...I'll keep taking my fertilaid and hope for the best. (I had stopped taking it this week in case I was preg cause I also heard that raspberry leaf isn't good after OV)

Arianne - Fertilaid has both Raspberry Leaf and Angus Cactus (vitex) in it. You should go online and look at the ingredients?

 

[nativetexan]

Happy Friday ladies!

Finally: sorry about your BFN. Keeping my fingers crossed that you get one or the other soon.

I see a couple of you mentioned the raspberry leaf tea....do you have much info? a coworker of mine reccommended i drink it. she's some sort of master herbologist or something.

 

[rosababy]

Finally, you may want to start charting (if you don't get a bfp this cycle, that is!). I've found that it helps me a lot...feeling safe knowing we bd'ed when we were supposed to and didn't miss the window, etc.

afm, +opk this morning! We almost bd'ed last night, because it was an "almost" positive, but we had bd'ed the night before (with excellent ewcm!) and we were both so tired. So now, the have had a night to rest and should be bursting at the seams! My question is my ewcm was at peak 2 days ago...and yet I'm just NOW getting a +opk. wtf? We bd'ed when I had the most ewcm, so at least we covered our bases, but it's still weird. Does this happen to anyone else?

 

[arianne]

To me all the time, that is why I dont rely on ewcm alone...

 

[arianne]

Native, raspberry leaf tea is supposed to tone your uterus and make it strong for the embryo to implant...
In the box it says it is a uterine tonic for use during pregnancy in preparation for childbirth, also for difficult and painful menstruation

 

[rosababy]

So raspberry tea...does it taste good? Has anyone tried it?

 

[finallyready]

I am drinking Tea from Fertilaid called Fertil tea - it has raspberry leaf tea in it among other things to promote fertility. It has peppermint in it and tastes delish! (I wish I could say it is working for me, but clearly it is not) LOL although I've only been drinking it for a month. At this point, I'd drink a cup of MUD if somebody told me it would get me pregnant.

 

[Aisak]

Hahaha, finallyready, i'd be in line to drink the mud too if it was going to mean a bean!

i did the raspberry tea for 2 or 3 months (i never drank it after O - i was too worried about the conflicting opinions). It doesn't taste awful but it doesn't taste great...i'd often plunk in a green tea or peppermint tea bag in with it.

My DH calls it my uterus tea, haha.

 

[mrsmax]

I had been following the ttc since July thread, but it seems it has morphed into this one. PLease can I join in? This is my 9th cycle ttc - just got BFN this morning so feeling a bit glum.

Had first dr appointment on Friday though, so hubby is getting his SA next week and I have to go and do bloods - I'm 34 so want to check nothing is wrong.

I love this site and it has taught me loads.

I started charting this month and using preseed. We both take multi-vitamins and last month took EP for first half of cycle. The raspberry tea sounds interesting though.

So many friends are announcing pregnancies, this site is great for support (although I haev been rubbish at posting and better at just reading)

Baby dust to you all - let's hope we get some more BFPs before Easter

 

[rosababy]

I am drinking Tea from Fertilaid called Fertil tea - it has raspberry leaf tea in it among other things to promote fertility. It has peppermint in it and tastes delish! (I wish I could say it is working for me, but clearly it is not) LOL although I've only been drinking it for a month. At this point, I'd drink a cup of MUD if somebody told me it would get me pregnant.

Did you order it online? How is it supposed to help fertility. And you know what, I'd drink mud, too!

MrsMax, Welcome!! I'm also in my 9th cycle. I'm so sorry to hear about AF getting you today. It's good that you have a dr appointment and a SA. We TRIED to get a SA last week, but the doc felt around, looked around and said you look healthy, keep trying. VERY frustrating. Didn't even get to do it in a cup. Whatever. If we're still not preggo in a few cycles, we'll try a different doctor. This site is definitely helpful and I love it! Are you keeping your chart on Fertility Friend online? If you'd like, you can post a link to your chart in your signature so we can look at it! Sometimes, it's fun to see other people's charts.

As for me, I ovulated yesterday!! I had a +opk, O cramps in the evening and sure enough, a temp spike this morning. Very exciting! I'll be happier with a 98 temp in the next few days, so I can be totally sure, but it was .4 higher than yesterdays, so I'll take it.

How is everyone else doing?

 

[arianne]

Rosa, the raspberry tea is supposed to help fertility because it is supposed to help the implantation process: it makes the lining stronger for the embryo to attach...
This is the one I got:
https://well.ca/products/traditional-medicinals-organic_7892.html

I bought it at zellers... which I think is like target in the US? I couldn't find it anywhere else! so I couldn't believe I found it at this cheap store... and is organic!

 

[Aisak]

i have this brand too. i bought it at Shoppers, but i've also seen it at Save On Foods and Superstore...

 

[rosababy]

Interesting, thanks ladies! If I'm not lucky this cycle (I seem to say that every cycle ), I'll give it a shot!

 

[arianne]

Aisak! Nice to see you in here girlie! Didnt know you have a journal! I'll stalk it!

Rosa are you in the 2ww? Good luck!!! Hope this is your month!

 

[rosababy]

I AM in the 2ww! I think I'm 2 dpo, but now that I entered today's temp (which was .1 lower, but I'm not sweating it), FF says I o'ed on cd14. Whatever. It's dotted lines, so I'm fine with it. Either way, we had great waiting in there.