Early 30's TTC #1

[Crumbs]

Hi ladies, I've been MIA too. I hope everyone's well and feeling positive!

I'm 13 DPO today and will be testing tomorrow morning. Here's hoping it goes well. Fx for a Feb !

 

[rosababy]

Hi, ladies! I've missed you. Thanks for the kind words. Sorry I've been mia, but I've been lurking. I was home visiting my family in Illinois, where I met my 6 week old new nephew. It was really hard and bittersweet, and I'm glad I got to spend time with him, but I'm also glad to be home with my dh. CD 2 today. Here we go again.

Workingttc, Dodima, welcome! This is an awesome thread, you'll love us. A little background on me, I just started cycle #10, about to turn 32.

Hopeful, I hope your D&C was okay and you're ready to start ttc really soon!

Finally, I'm so sorry you're still in limbo, girl. That really sucks. Have you seen a doc yet? Is there anything they can do to get your AF and start the cycle over?? You said "pre-pill" as in as you were ON the pill you were regular, or actually before you were on the pill? Maybe a doc will be able to help...I heard Clomid helps with that...

Crumbs, welcome back! We missed you. Good luck tomorrow! I'll be online really early to check up on you! FX SOOOOO hard for you!

 

[hopefulmama2b]

Crumbs, good luck!!! I hope this is it for you!!

Rosa- Welcome back. Being around new babies is always hard. No matter how genuinely happy you are for the parents.

Finally- I was going to ask the same thing...have you seen a doc? Surely there's something they can do to help you?? I hope you get some answers soon.

I decided to start a journal to try to keep myself from going mad again. I hope it works! If you're looking for something to read you can come visit!

 

[kcali]

Hi Dodima - sorry to hear about your struggles TTC. I know what you mean when people tell you to relax, it will happen - Ummm IUI's, tests, scheduled bd'ing, temping ... aren't exactly "relaxing" activities...

Hi Crumbs- good luck, I'll be checking into see what's going on!

 

[Regalpeas]

Hi Ladies,

Thanks to all who posted advice about MACA. DH seemed extremely skeptical. He may do his own research. However, I may try them myself. That may encourage him. lol

Working and Dodima! Hey there! I'm new here as well.

@Working I feel your pain. I was in the same boat. First month trying I just KNEW I was preggers. Well I wasn't then and several months after that either. I was upset from cycle #1 on. lol So if you need support I am here, Impatient Inga! lol

I also had to go NTNP for several months. Still we've been in this for under year. Like someone said, I guess after awhile it becomes a shock if you are pregnant. However don't give up. There are many success stories out there. I use them as inspiration.

Rosa, sorry about AF. But I know you are gearing up for the next go 'round.

Well dh and I are only a few days from trying again. I'm so excited. AF should arrive early March. Then we are back at it again.

I hope everyone's having a wonderful day. Baby wishes to everyone.

 

[kcali]

So this is my first month in temping. I think I see the thermal shift that I was so anxiously awaiting on my chart. We scheduled the bd'ing during the days leading up to it and probably tonight (just to make sure). I think after today, I am back in the TWW'ing game again. I'll probably test on March 8th.... (seems like such a long time, but February is only 28 days!)

 

[rosababy]

Kcali, are your temps on fertilityfriend.com? If they are, you can cut/paste the link into your siggy so we can stalk it!

 

[Regalpeas]

So, I just looked at your chart Rosa. I felt like I was reading Greek, except I understand Greek better. lol I'll be charting for the first time next month. So I guess I better read up on it so I can understand. ...

I have a question. I noticed in the top right quadrant your temps were high. Are those your most fertile periods? Or is there something else to look for?

 

[rosababy]

So, I just looked at your chart Rosa. I felt like I was reading Greek, except I understand Greek better. lol I'll be charting for the first time next month. So I guess I better read up on it so I can understand. ...

I have a question. I noticed in the top right quadrant your temps were high. Are those your most fertile periods? Or is there something else to look for?

Hey! Go to www.fertilityfriend.com and start a chart of your own! They're free, and awesome because they'll send you emails everyday for a week or two, to teach you all you need to know about charting. Their website is awesome, you'll learn so much.

Crash course...temps rise the day AFTER ovulation. My most fertile period was right before the temperature spike. Charting will not tell you when you are about to o, but right afterwards. It's one of the things docs will look at to help you with fertility. They can tell a lot of things from our charts. If we're ovulating, if we're producing mature eggs, if our progesterone levels are high enough, etc. The high temps at the right meant that I DID ovulate, and I was in my luteal phase (between ovulation and period, when implantation happens, IF it happens). You'll notice that it dropped dramatically when AF came. I'm fascinated with it...Fertility Friend will help a lot. I highly suggest it.

 

[Regalpeas]

Thanks so much!!! I will sign up soon.

 

[Crumbs]

kcali & Regalpeas, good luck with charting. It seems intimidating at first but it really is an awesome tool to truly learn about your cycle. This is my 1st month charting too and the free video about it on FF really, really helped me!

All you need is a basal thermometer, an alarm clock, and chart (you can download free templates online and print it out). My hubby helps me since he gets up earlier than me - he sticks the thermometer in my mouth and dots it on the sheet on the nightstand. But I find FF convenient and enter my temps there later during the day.

I've learned that it's really better to be consistent (take it on the same time everyday -- as long as you sleep at enough and it's the first thing you do).

Good luck!

 

[rosababy]

Crumbs....did you ??

 

[Crumbs]

I tested yesterday I really don't feel like testing again, it just stresses me out. I'm gonna wait it out, I think.

I noticed you just started your cycle - Fx that March is your month!

 

[mrsmax]

Kcali - I will be testing on 8th March too and we have nearly been tttc for same amount of time (me since June 2010). Fingers crossed it is our month this month!!!

I have a charting question - I'm on my second month charting and wondering if anyone can help. We usually plan Bding for days 13, 14 and 15 (as get surge on OPK usually day 14 or 15), but FF says that when I get the LH surge on OPKs ovulation day is the day after. So, I got a faint plus on day 14 and a strong plus day 15. Today is day 16 and my temps went up a tiny bit today and got a negative on OPK, but should we bding today too?? (poor dh - it would be 6th day in a row!!!!)

 

[Soleil Breeze]

She's coming. One long ass cycle and I really didn't know when I O'ed.
Freaking ay; cycle 19.

I'm ecstatic.

 

[hopefulmama2b]

Kcali - I will be testing on 8th March too and we have nearly been tttc for same amount of time (me since June 2010). Fingers crossed it is our month this month!!!

I have a charting question - I'm on my second month charting and wondering if anyone can help. We usually plan Bding for days 13, 14 and 15 (as get surge on OPK usually day 14 or 15), but FF says that when I get the LH surge on OPKs ovulation day is the day after. So, I got a faint plus on day 14 and a strong plus day 15. Today is day 16 and my temps went up a tiny bit today and got a negative on OPK, but should we bding today too?? (poor dh - it would be 6th day in a row!!!!)

If yesterday was your true positive you could do it today just for security, but it doesn't mean that you're out even if you ovulate today (6 days in a row- ouch!). The first time I got pregnant we DTD CD 10 and 12(positive opk) and I ovulated 13. Only BD 2 times- that was it! It really doesn't take much to get the sperm and the egg to meet up it's just a matter of whether or not all of the other stars are aligned and it gets properly fertilized and implants. One doctor told my friend- the sperm and the egg do the tango all the time, but they don't always result in a pregnancy. If your 14 was really a positive then it may be too late. Point- do it if you have the energy, but if not you still may be good!

By the way...The second time around we tried to follow the sperm meets egg plan. Have you read it? It may help avoid the 6 day in a row problem (although some months I think it can occur where it's 4 days in a row). Check it out!

https://www.pregnancyloss.info/sperm_meets_egg_plan.htm

 

[hopefulmama2b]

soleil-

 

[rosababy]

I tested yesterday I really don't feel like testing again, it just stresses me out. I'm gonna wait it out, I think.

I noticed you just started your cycle - Fx that March is your month!

Shoot. I should have checked your chart before I asked. I'm so sorry. I totally understand about testing negatives. I hate testing. FX that next cycle works for you!

Yep, CD4 now. March is my birthday month, and I'm very Irish, so maybe a little St. Patty's day luck will be on my side!!

 

[rosababy]

Kcali - I will be testing on 8th March too and we have nearly been tttc for same amount of time (me since June 2010). Fingers crossed it is our month this month!!!

I have a charting question - I'm on my second month charting and wondering if anyone can help. We usually plan Bding for days 13, 14 and 15 (as get surge on OPK usually day 14 or 15), but FF says that when I get the LH surge on OPKs ovulation day is the day after. So, I got a faint plus on day 14 and a strong plus day 15. Today is day 16 and my temps went up a tiny bit today and got a negative on OPK, but should we bding today too?? (poor dh - it would be 6th day in a row!!!!)

Opks predict ovulation any time from 12-48 hours afterwards, depending on the brand. But remember that everyone is different AND you don't know exactly where in time you are with the surge. You may have just caught the beginning, or the tail end. Plus, everyone's surges are different. Sounds like CD15 was your surge, and you o'ed on CD15, since your temp went up on the 16. Is today CD16? I'd do it again just to be sure. However, don't stress because the can live in there for a while, so if you do o today, they should be okay in there. If you feel like you'd feel better, then go ahead today, but sounds like 6 days in a row...might not get the best anyway. You're probably fine.

 

[rosababy]

Oh Soleil...cycle 19. I'm so sorry. Have you seen a doc?