Early 30's TTC #1

[rosababy]

First of all, yes I am aware that the last 4 posts have been me...

I went to the doctor today! A new ob-gyn, not a fertility specialist, but still an ob-gyn (last doctor was just a general doc). Looked at my charts, said I was ovulating, agreed that my progesterone was a little low, but not zero, so it meant that I was at least o'ing. Put me on Clomid! I start today for 5 days. I'm so excited! He said it's not a guarantee, but doubles our chances for getting pregnant, which is still only 30-40%, but better than 15-20%. He said to dtd on CD12, 14, 16, and 18. Stop temping (that's going to be hard for me) and no opks, so I can just relax. I'm not sure how I feel about that, but my dh is like what will it change? The only thing is if I o late...but I guess that's what Clomid does is o on time. Who knows. Anyways, he was very encouraging, and said that you're 31, healthy, you'll get pregnant, it's just taking a little longer.

 

[Crumbs]

First of all, yes I am aware that the last 4 posts have been me...

I went to the doctor today! A new ob-gyn, not a fertility specialist, but still an ob-gyn (last doctor was just a general doc). Looked at my charts, said I was ovulating, agreed that my progesterone was a little low, but not zero, so it meant that I was at least o'ing. Put me on Clomid! I start today for 5 days. I'm so excited! He said it's not a guarantee, but doubles our chances for getting pregnant, which is still only 30-40%, but better than 15-20%. He said to dtd on CD12, 14, 16, and 18. Stop temping (that's going to be hard for me) and no opks, so I can just relax. I'm not sure how I feel about that, but my dh is like what will it change? The only thing is if I o late...but I guess that's what Clomid does is o on time. Who knows. Anyways, he was very encouraging, and said that you're 31, healthy, you'll get pregnant, it's just taking a little longer.

Oooh, I'm excited for you! March will be your month! Maybe the non-stress method is the key to a I'm rooting for you!

I'm 2 days late and my spirits are back up and trying not to think about how late I am! That way won't torture me, if she comes, she comes ... BUT if for some miraculous reason she doesn't come by this Saturday, I'm testing again!

 

[mrsmax]

Rosababy - That all sounds really positive. And doubling your chances is excellent. How did they work that out?

It feels good to try to something new - I try to introduce a new thing each month (even if only to give me something to think, "it'll happen this month cause i'm doing that new thing!").

Everyone else - thanks re helping me with the OPK thing. I agree 6 days in a row is too much, this is supposed to be fun right?!!? I did try the SMEP, but I wanted to avoid relying on OPKs so started charting, but my chart said I O'd last month on day 12 so this month we started early just in case

Dh ranh doctors today to get his SA, the results are in but doctor on hols. We have to wait until Monday now, which is when I go in for my CD21 bloods. Still, feels like progress!!

 

[Crumbs]

rosababy & mrsmax, you've inspired me to try something new too. If it doesn't work out for me this cycle, I'm not going to POAS anymore - I'm not gonna use OPKs. I've gotten used to temping, it's not as stressful, but OPKs just remind me too much of testing. I'm gonna try to not-stress our TTC too

 

[kcali]

Torturous TWW!

Rosababy! That's good - good luck this cycle!!! Just a matter or time! Maybe this month you can just relax and really see what happens.

Mrsmax - yeah! I have a testing buddy - good luck! We can suffer through the TWW together!

On the opk v. basal temps - I was also slightly confused too because I used to get +opk's around CD14-16, but charting, FF estimated I o'd around CD12. Which seems really early. I haven't done the opks and temping together. Maybe next month (if necessary ).

Side note -My dh has been interested in the temp charting and asks me every morning, "how are your temps" and doesn't mind when I show him the chart. This morning he said he doesn't mind looking at "a graphical representation of baby making"... I was like how romantic!!!

 

[rosababy]

Kcali, haha!! Your dh is so cute. It's nice when they show an interest, isn't it?

Crumbs, I'm glad you've been inspired! At first, I was like you want me to STOP temping and POASing?! No way! Now, only a few hours later, I'm like this could be good. The doc said every other day is fine, and I won't have to worry about "catching" it, just relaxing, doing it on the prescribed days and letting Clomid and my body take care of the rest. We'll see how it works! If not, I might be back to temping next cycle. Who knows.

 

[arianne]

Hello ladies... Wow so many posts I am overwhelmed!
I am really busy with work stuff so can't write too much But I want to ask you Rosa about the clomid your doctor prescribed to you, as I want to take that as well... but my doctor wants me to get all my tests done before she can prescribe me anything (and I'm still running away from that awful hsg test) Did you just ask for it and he prescribed it to you?
No charting, no opks, just bding every other day...all that sounds like a really good plan, because you are more relaxed and not thinking about it too much... I tried that for a couple of cycles but it didnt work BUT I wasnt on any meds, and clomid doubles your chances so that is exciting!!! I want my doc to prescribe me clomid!
The only thing is that you also have a higher chance of multiples...how do you feel about having twins? I would LOVE to! but I am worried of the complications, and since I'm petite it can be quite risky :S

love to all I was feeling kind of down lately... I guess it's because I found out a good friend of mine is pregnant again... she was hiding it from me because she knows im ttc for 8 months, and she got pregnant first try also found out another good friend is pregnant with her first... she told me last year she was going to start ttc on dec... so it happened quite fast for her as well.... all this makes me realize how abnormal I am... and I was getting upset telling my husband that all that 1 year thing is bullshit! aggrhh... not sure if Im sad or cranky... a mix of both...

Good Luck to all of you!!! hope I see some good news next time Im here... kisses muak!

 

[rosababy]

Arianne, I'm sorry you're feeling so low. Quickly, before you're offline again , I did not specifically ask for Clomid, no. I showed him my charts and my blood test results and he said yes, my prog levels are a little low. 2 things that will fix it...prog vajay jay pills or clomid. Did I want to try either? I said yes, let's try Clomid. I think it's because I had charts and blood work already done. I'm having blood work done again on cd 21.

The every other day, relaxed crap didn't work for me either at first, but maybe now that my body is getting back to normal AND with clomid, it'll happen. If not, I'll start charting and temping next cycle again. I hope this helps.

 

[arianne]

thank you rosa! i'll ask for clomid next time i see her, and see what she says... I heard that even if you are ovulating fine and with fine prog levels, doctors put you on those meds if you are trying for a long time, as you said, to increase your chances of conceiving... but my doctor doesnt seem to think i'm trying for a long time and she thinks I have been trying for 1.5 years!

 

[arianne]

oh I forgot! and I still have this good feeling about you getting your bfp soon! so I really hope march is your month!!! it WILL!!

 

[Soleil Breeze]

Oh Soleil...cycle 19. I'm so sorry. Have you seen a doc?

Hi, rosa. Thanks to you and hopeful for the kindness. Yeah, I did the whole fertility thing last year. Everything - glucose tolerance test, HSG, progesterone, etc., etc. Fertility doc says, no reason you guys shouldn't get pregnant. Have patience.

Have patience even though he says there's a 5% chance of us getting pregnant each month. Sigh.

Anyhew. He advised me to take clomid and DH to donate his sperm for IUI. We thought about it and signed papers at the fert. doc's office that day. Said I would start up in November on the clomid and then, well, didn't. I am so freaking stubborn. I don't want to take anything if what's wrong isn't really me (DH has terrible morphology [4%] and 39% of his sperm are motile - not the best).

But this cycle obviously shows that there is something wrong with me. I just ovulated 10 days later than normal. Hello?!

Keep us up to date with the clomid. I hesitated, too, because I'm a grad. student and just wanted this academic year over first. But between you starting clomid, and this other lady on another thread who got pregnant on her first try on clomid, I'm seriously considering going on it in May.
to you! and to everyone!

 

[hopefulmama2b]

Oh Soleil...cycle 19. I'm so sorry. Have you seen a doc?

Hi, rosa. Thanks to you and hopeful for the kindness. Yeah, I did the whole fertility thing last year. Everything - glucose tolerance test, HSG, progesterone, etc., etc. Fertility doc says, no reason you guys shouldn't get pregnant. Have patience.

Have patience even though he says there's a 5% chance of us getting pregnant each month. Sigh.

Anyhew. He advised me to take clomid and DH to donate his sperm for IUI. We thought about it and signed papers at the fert. doc's office that day. Said I would start up in November on the clomid and then, well, didn't. I am so freaking stubborn. I don't want to take anything if what's wrong isn't really me (DH has terrible morphology [4%] and 39% of his sperm are motile - not the best).

But this cycle obviously shows that there is something wrong with me. I just ovulated 10 days later than normal. Hello?!

Keep us up to date with the clomid. I hesitated, too, because I'm a grad. student and just wanted this academic year over first. But between you starting clomid, and this other lady on another thread who got pregnant on her first try on clomid, I'm seriously considering going on it in May.
to you! and to everyone!

Can you still do the IUI without taking clomid since you're not really wanting to take it? I don't know too much about IUI, but don't they wash through the sperm and get the good ones to inseminate with?

I am very nervous about clomid as well just because of a study that came out last year that talked about side effects. I know TONS of woman use it to help conceive and have success and some people are arguing the results of this study, but still makes me nervous. Just curious about if you would have to take clomid to do IUI if you don't want to?

Rosa- I'm glad that your new doc is helping you so much!! I love proactive doctors!! I hope this is your month!

 

[rosababy]

Soleil, I know how you feel. I never thought I would do Clomid, and who knows...it still might not work for me. If all my body needs is a little help developing mature eggs, then I'm willing to take something for it. We won't do IVF, so this is about as advanced as we're going to get! We still have to get dh tested, 'cause it may be him. Who knows. How old is your dh, Soleil? Did they put him on anything, or suggest anything to improve his ? I'm still terrified it's my dh...but I'm going to try to not worry about that. I'm one of those people who will FIND something to worry about, so I just need to calm down.

I can't believe your doc is like "just have patience." Well after THIS long, how patient does one person have to be! Especially since we're in our 30s! I say get a new doc...

I will definitely let you know how Clomid works, and how I feel. I've been nauseous for the past week or so, definitely not preggo, so I"m thinking it's the switch in brands of Maca. I was fine with the other brand, but when I got this new kind, it's not sitting well with my stomach. So it'll be hard to tell if Clomid makes my tummy sick or if it's something totally unrelated.

 

[arianne]

Soleil get your dh on maca!!! It will help with his count! It is not medicine and it will only help his overall health... I also dont like taking any medicine, I dont like anything artificial... but at this point I feel that I have been trying enough, and I want to move to a next step, and if that means taking medicine I will... My husband and I decided that if Im not pregnant by may we'll do IUI... But even may I feel its too far away

Hopefulmama, good thing you dont need to worry about getting pregnant... at this moment I am just thinking about being able to conceive! I dont even know if once I get a bfp I may have trouble staying pg :S

 

[Soleil Breeze]

but figured I'd share anyway. My temp went up by .1 today. Nothing major, I know. But yesterday it was 98.1 and I had red on my wipe; thought AF was coming for sure. Today it is 98.2 and I have some watery brown on my wipe.
I woke up just before 2am with a really bad stomach and the worst taste/feeling in my mouth. It was as if somebody had made me eat baking powder and not given me any water. I still have it; I'm trying to cover it up with my cereal.

Ok; it's nothing. But just felt the need to share I probably just ate something bad and it has caused me to have this gross taste and upset my stomach. My temp is ONLY up by a smidgin and this means NOTHING because temps. fluctuate a little in the 2WW anyway.

On to other matters:
DH is going to be 32 this year, too. He would totally do maca, Arianne (and has even taken one or two since I've been on it), but he's also doing the Fertile Aid vits and I really don't know if the two mixed would be good for him. Once he's done with FA, he'll take the maca.

As for the clomid, hopefulmama. I asked the doc. if we could just do IUI without me taking it and he said yes, but that clomid was the better way to go because it makes for better eggs. Why spend over a grand on IUI when your eggs aren't the best they could be? Okay; fine. [But, yeah, hopefulmama, you had the process down right. Your DH doesn't even have to be there for insemination - just give the sperm! Ha, ha, ha].

rosa, we're more than likely going to be moving over the summer and I will be changing fert. docs then. You really should get DH checked out.

Okay back to work.
Bye from the girl who is NOT going to read into anything and who will wait for AF's proper arrival.
Have a great day, ladies!

 

[Crumbs]

Soleil Breeze, doesn't it feel good to get all of that off your chest? FYI, you are in no way a loony (unless all of us are)

I'm Fx for you!

 

[nativetexan]

Hi Ladies!! I have been MIA for a while, but I think I'm all caught up on everyones news now. Work has been keeping me so busy, it seemed like this last cycle just flew by. AF showed up 10 dpo for me, which seemed a bit earlier than normal. She's on her way out the door now though, and I'm ready to try again. I started temping too. Not sure I'm doing it correctly though. I take it first thing in the morning when I wake up. Is that right?

I started using an app on my phone called OvuView. It's really cool. I can record all my symptoms and temps. Very nice app.

Anyway, I just wanted to pop in and say hello to everyone again. Warm wishes for you all.

 

[rosababy]

Soleil, not loony at all. We all feel the same way! Dh has an appt for the end of March. The only time he could get in this cycle was right during my fertile time, so we opted not to do that. Deep down, I still have this nagging worry that it's his sperm...I really hope I'm wrong. My immature eggs and low progesterone was the reason my doc put me on Clomid. I'm ovulating fine, but not quite good enough, I guess.

Native, yes, you take your temp first thing in the morning, same time everyday, and before you get out of bed at all, take a drink of water, anything. Go to www.fertilityfriend.com and they will explain everything!

 

[mrsmax]

Just want to say hi to everyone, nothing to report but we're off to a Christening on Saturday and I spent my lunch hour going around baby shops to buy a gift. I've never felt so broody or sad

Still, seems about time for someone on here to get a bfp - Soleil those signs are really good - big fingers crossed

 

[mrsmax]

Torturous TWW!

Rosababy! That's good - good luck this cycle!!! Just a matter or time! Maybe this month you can just relax and really see what happens.

Mrsmax - yeah! I have a testing buddy - good luck! We can suffer through the TWW together!
:

Yay - I'm normally pretty godo for the first week, it is the last 6 days I hate when I know I could test but I don't want to. Will report if I get any symptons

Crumbs- what news? Three days late is very exciting....