Early 30's TTC #1

[rosababy]

Kcali, I'm so happy for you!!! I'm sure your bean will be really sticky, so try to relax. I know it's hard. You are of course welcome to stay here!! You better not leave us!

Afm, I'm just sitting around...bd'ing and waiting for a temp spike. I expected to get it this morning, but nope. Just 0.2 higher. My dh and I bd'ed this morning. Actually set the alarm to get it in before work. Who does that?! My dh was like people who are ttc do that! Still no positive opk, which is totally annoying, but whatever. Clomid has messed with things this cycle, maybe I'll add opks to that list. I hope I get my bfp after this wacked out cycle!

 

[SMFirst]

Kcali, I'm so happy for you!!! I'm sure your bean will be really sticky, so try to relax. I know it's hard. You are of course welcome to stay here!! You better not leave us!

Afm, I'm just sitting around...bd'ing and waiting for a temp spike. I expected to get it this morning, but nope. Just 0.2 higher. My dh and I bd'ed this morning. Actually set the alarm to get it in before work. Who does that?! My dh was like people who are ttc do that! Still no positive opk, which is totally annoying, but whatever. Clomid has messed with things this cycle, maybe I'll add opks to that list. I hope I get my bfp after this wacked out cycle!

That's so great your DH is up for setting the alarm to BD (pun intended )

He's committed!

 

[rosababy]

Susan, oh honey! If you only knew my dh...If it were up to him, we'd be bd'ing EVERY DAY! He was proud of ME for getting up early. I am SO not a morning person. I actually was interested in trying morning because night sex isn't working for our bfp. Not sure if it'll make a huge difference, but it's worth trying. He is definitely committed. The longer this process takes, the more he wants a baby. It's really sweet, actually. He gets really disappointed every time AF comes, too.

 

[mrsmax]

Thanks everyone - feel more positive today. Had a good cry when I got home from work and hubby was fantastic and made me laugh and fel positive.

Rosababy - your post made me laugh!! Also, my dh has got more keen about a baby since we started trying. I know now he will be over the moon when it (eventually) happens. My luteul phase is usually about 14 days, which I think it ok? Also, my HPKs showed I ovulated before F&F did, so maybe my temps were out.

My dr wont consider clomid as my bloods were normal, maybe fertiloity clinic will think differently.

Kcali - that is such fantastic news. And silly, congrats!! Def needed those positives!!

 

[rosababy]

mrsmax, glad I could make you laugh. I'm also glad that you're feeling better. It helps so much to have a supportive dh, isnt' it? Mine is the same. Very supportive and always pulls me out the depths of despair that I fall into every time AF comes.

All your blood tests are normal...SA is normal, right? I can't remember. So what do the docs suggest?? Very frustrating.

I got my +opk this morning! It wasn't DARKER, but it was the same shade/color as the control line, so I'm counting it as a positive. Yesss!! Not sure why it's later than normal, but whatever. Bd tonight and hopefully a temp spike in the morning! I moved my cd21 blood test, since it's so late. Everything I read says wait at least a week after o to get a good progesterone reading, otherwise it'll be too low.

 

[hopefulmama2b]

Rosa- it's such a good feeling when it's finally positive! Good luck catching the egg!!

 

[Soleil Breeze]

So I was bummed a wee bit yesterday; watched a Baby Story on TLC and the ol' eyes welled up (I guess I *really* do want that baby even though I keep finding reasons why it's okay that I'm not pregnant every month)

But this morning! What fabulous news! Congrats to kcali and sillysilly!
Please, please, please rub some of those good baby vibes off on us! [and kcali, we'd all be delighted if you hang around! We need preparation for when we get our BFPs this year! know what I mean? ]

mrsmax, I hope acupuncture works for you. I did it for 11 months; didn't get pregnant, although my acne issue improved quite a bit.
rosa - morning is the best time to [minus the stinky breath of course], but I'm a morning gal, so I'm biased.

CD 11 for me; felt my left ovary yesterday and today which means I am going to ovulate from that blasted side again. I hope to God it's not another 43 day cycle. I need to go back to the 31 day cycles!

X

 

[rosababy]

Soleil, 43 days?! That sucks. I hope you have a regular cycle this time, too! Although if you're already feeling o pains this early, that's a good sign!

We actually got up to brush our teeth and I put in preseed before we in the morning. LOL! I don't mind it when it's not too early in the morning. I've read that the are nice and fresh, too, so I hope it was a good thing for us!

 

[Crumbs]

Crumbs, good to see you again! I'm glad to hear your dh is coming home! Where are you in your cycle?

Afm, no positive opk yet, still no ewcm. However, I have faint lines on my opk, which means I'm either fading in or fading out. So, I must be close to it. No temp spike this morning, which surprised me. We dtd this morning. There's nothing quite like having to set an alarm for 6:00 am to have sex! The good thing is it was quick, and we both "enjoyed" it at the exact same time, which hardly ever happens anymore! I hope the were sucked up nice and tight! Other than that, just hanging out waiting for a temp spike.

Hey hun! I should be in my fertile period now! Hubby's sick but we managed time for some lovin' this morning I'm really thinking about buying a softcup, trying to lay still on an uncomfy pillow isn't so nice (especially for the pillow)! For a second, I was actually thinking about skipping this month, I just got over sickness and it actually feels good to do things again. I've decided to just act normal and if it happens, it happens!

My friend (she's 34) was one of those that didn't even realize she was pregnant. She went into the hospital because she felt sick and turned out pregnant. It gave me hope for TTCing and having a normal life! (Not like what I've been doing the last 2 months)

I told myself to ignore it (to keep sane) and just BD when I should and stop forgetting to take my temps and that's it! Well, that's my new tactic for this month anyway!

 

[mrsmax]

mrsmax, glad I could make you laugh. I'm also glad that you're feeling better. It helps so much to have a supportive dh, isnt' it? Mine is the same. Very supportive and always pulls me out the depths of despair that I fall into every time AF comes.

All your blood tests are normal...SA is normal, right? I can't remember. So what do the docs suggest?? Very frustrating.

I got my +opk this morning! It wasn't DARKER, but it was the same shade/color as the control line, so I'm counting it as a positive. Yesss!! Not sure why it's later than normal, but whatever. Bd tonight and hopefully a temp spike in the morning! I moved my cd21 blood test, since it's so late. Everything I read says wait at least a week after o to get a good progesterone reading, otherwise it'll be too low.

Roasbaby - all our tests were fine - Dh's SA test was incedible - he has a of 175mill (normal is 20 mil!!) So it is def me I have an appointment with dr at end of this month and he will refer me to a speacilist fertility clinic. They will do the dye tes (HSG?).
Am going to try to chill a bit this month...

I wonder why your O day is so late? I had some really faint OPKs last month for a couple of days and they really confused me. Guess it just means more bding!! Hope you get that spike soon

Anyone near testing time?

 

[rosababy]

Crumbs, I've actually wondered about soft cups. Not exactly sure what they are, but I'm going to research it. It IS sucky to have to lie down for so long with our hips up. Annoying.

Mrsmax, so glad your dh's SA came back great!! That's a lot of !!! That must be a relief. Now you can cross it off your list and move on to other possibilities.

Afm, no temp spike today, which is actually good. Remember when I said my dh would dtd everyday if he could?! Yeah...spoke too soon. He couldn't finish last night, after a LONG time of trying. It was so frustrating. This has NEVER happened to us before. Ever. Of course it's the day I get my +opk. So i guess it's good that I didn't get my temp spike this morning. We did however get to do it this morning, but it took a while (because he still hurt from trying so hard last night) and it wasn't the best/strongest. Sigh. I am so down today. It figures out "good" ones were not during my fertile time. I'm so frustrated!!!!!!

 

[SMFirst]

Rosa- Sorry you are down but don't feel bad - the not finishing thing has probably happened to everyone - particularly if you are using Preseed - my DH said if I used too much it felt too slippery and there was no sensation, and I've read others say the same..

Crumbs - good idea to try to stay low key this month. We are doing that too (although I thought it would be a good idea to BD yesterday but my DH was too tired) - but if we don't even BD at all during the good time this month that will be ok...

I've never really looked into softcups either - I don't know if there's much difference between lying flat and lying with hips propped up, so I just find a comfortable position in general and lay about 20 min (unless I fall asleep!)

Mrsmax - well that's good you are moving forward in the testing. Hopefully your results come back good too..

 

[hopefulmama2b]

Susan- I agree I never really do the propped up thing either- just lay there for a while. The first time I got pregnant I didn't even lay there. I read they get to their destination pretty quickly regardless.

Rosa- Poor guy- Doing it on command isn't always possible. It happens. And I know what you mean when it goes on and on and on and inside you're screaming- Do it already!!! Like Susan said- I think that's happened to everyone.

Crumbs- Good luck!

Soliel- Baby Story and One Born Every Minute turn on the water works for me too! I prefer to watch alone so DH doesn't think I'm a total wacko with my sobbing. "It's just such a precious miracle! " That's me!!

 

[rosababy]

Thanks, ladies. I know it happens to everyone, just never happened to us, so now I know how much it sucks! It surprised my dh, too, and I know he felt incredibly bad. I did put more preseed in, and that may have made a difference. Oh well. It's over and we're moving on. At least we got to dtd this morning, so all was not lost. I'm just going to act normal and extra lovey so he knows it doesn't bother me. I don't want him to feel pressure next time. I just felt so bad for him because he felt bad. (a vicious cycle!)

I just lie on my back with a small pillow, and it's kind of annoying, but I don't mind. In fact, our "routine" lately has been watch an episode of our favorite shows in bed together when we're finished. It's fun!

 

[Soleil Breeze]

Forget PMS; I'm just freaking grumpy today. Well, this afternoon. I was fine until about an hour ago. Just tired. Lots going on. Found out the DH is leaving town on Sunday afternoon and will be back Monday evening. I'm mad. I told him that I could be O-ing the week before I go away and that he needs to be here until I leave. I will be soooo upset if I get a positive OPK and he's not here to do anything with. Sigh. I even have the pre-seed ready. It will be our first time using it. [By the way SMFirst, thanks for the info on preseed, I didn't know that it could make things a little difficult in the getting-your-groove-on front].

Crumbs, I think it will be good to take some time off of temping. If you've been doing it for a few months, you know what your pre-O temp is. Every now and again I temp just to see whether I am pre-O or if I've got post-O temps. But I don't do it every month. It was just too much after a while.

Rosa, I can't believe you didn't get sore! Sometimes that would happen to me if we did it too much Who knows? Maybe this will be a *surprise*, you think you didn't catch it, but you did!

mrsmax, I don't think you can say that it is "you" just because hubby's count is great. How was his morphology and sperm motility? My DH's count is quadruple the norm, too, but his morph. and motility suck, which is why the fertility doc. suggested IUI to us.

Anyway, girls; I wish we could just get-to-gether for a gab fest right now. I feel so blah. Grrr.

Hopefully I'll be in a better mood when I'm on here next.
X

 

[Soleil Breeze]

Ladies - I just came across this link in another BnB thread:

https://infertilityblog.blogspot.com/2006/05/sperm-morphology-mythology.html

Maybe DH's 4% morphology isn't such an awful thing after all? What about his 39% motility?

 

[SMFirst]

Soleil - I definitely have days like yours, when you just feel grumpy! Though lately I've been feeling better myself..

If your preseed came with an applicator, the volume that the applicator holds is WAY too much.

If I remember, the applicator holds like 5mL, but I found 1-2 mL to be plenty (it was when I tried using 3mL that it was noticably too much)

Hope you are together for the important days

And hopefully you are right about Rosa catching it too!

I would really like my DH to have a SA done, but it has to be 1 year since we started trying before they'll do it, so if nothing happens by June then we will go in..

 

[Soleil Breeze]

SM - that's great to know! Thanks; I haven't opened the box, but I pretty sure it says applicator somewhere on it. So we won't fill it up all the way. 2ml!

 

[SMFirst]

Ladies - I just came across this link in another BnB thread:

https://infertilityblog.blogspot.com/2006/05/sperm-morphology-mythology.html

Maybe DH's 4% morphology isn't such an awful thing after all? What about his 39% motility?

I just read through that - interesting..

I like this line "We are telling almost all men that their sperm is abnormal, and that just can’t be. The fact is we do not know what a normal sperm looks like"

ie If most men have abnormal sperm, then abnormal is normal!!

 

[rosababy]

Soleil, the preseed definitely helps! Like Susan said, only 1-2 is PLENTY. I usually use 1.5 and it works great. I was not too sore, only because we've been trying for so long (months I mean) that I'm used to it now. He tried to "move things along" on his own a lot, too, but to no avail. I'm sorry you're feeling grumpy. I go through days like that too. That sucks that your dh will be gone. Do you think it'll be in your fertile time? Just do it Sunday morning and Monday night if that's the case. I'm sure it'll be fine.

I'm really hoping that I get my temp rise tomorrow. It's already cd18! I don't want to go too much later...