Early 30's TTC #1

[Regalpeas]

Hi Ladies,

I hope everyone is doing well!

So I average a log on of about once every week and 1/2. I'm trying to keep up, but at that rate, I'll have to give up. lol

I wanted to respond to a few things. They may be a little "old" lol but still I'd like to respond.

Hi Regalpeas - We have something in common too - I'm turning 30 and my husband is 40. So my DH feels the clock ticking a bit more than me, and also worried that his sperm might not be as chipper as when he was younger but we haven't gotten a SA done for him yet..

Best of luck this round of trying

Thanks! You too. Yes we do have that in common. Great! DH is going for a SA in May unless BFP before then.

regalpeas - if you don't mind me asking, what are some of the challenges that you and hubby have been facing?

I had surgery last June and he's dealing with health issues. Those are the major two things.

On another topic - as I sit here at work right now my co-worker is telling my about an old colleague who apparently just had a baby and didn't even know she was pregnant the whole time!! I can't begin to believe how that happens!!

I'm hearing this a lot lately! I can't believe it. It's so hard to imagine.

Good to see you, girl. I think I'm o'ing in the next few days, so I'm not testing until end of March, probably around the 22nd or so. 2 days after my 32nd birthday!

I retested Sat & Sun and went to the dr's lab on Sunday to get a test done there and they were all positive. On Saturday the line was a little darker, and Sunday it was really dark not even using fmu or even smu. So it looks like I am pregnant. I need to stay positive that it will be ok! I would have seen AF anywhere from CD26-30 (sat-thurs) so if nothing happens by Friday I will feel a lot more confident that this is for real!

I called the dr's this morning and will have my first prenatal appt Apr 11th.

I just wanted to thank everyone for their support and as it was easier to go through this because I was able to discuss my feelings with others who felt the exact same way. Good luck to everyone, I am sure you will all see a bfp soon!!! If you all don't mind - I'd like to hang out a little here...

Congrats! This is awesome news! Soooooo happy for you!

 

[Regalpeas]

Also, I saw talk about Preseed and Soft Cups. I use 1.5 for preseed on average. 3 (as recommended) is too much for me. I may start using Yes baby, because it's Paraben free. Also, I used soft cups for the first time this cycle. They are rough (the rims are hard). I don"t care for them. I may try once more because I invested in them. As for now it doesn't seem they do the trick. I think there's a soft cup success thread in main ttc so others have had better results.

Speaking of which have you all noticed the TTC#1 forum coming soon? I am so excited about this for many reasons. Does anyone know when it opens and/or how to get the password?

 

[SMFirst]

Regalpeas - glad you can join even sporadically

I saw that upcoming TTC #1 section too and I am looking forward to it too..

There are differences in the way we TTC #1'ers think and feel compared to people who already have kids, in my opinion..

 

[Regalpeas]

Yep. Everything is so new for us. The uncertainty is different at times as well.

 

[Crumbs]

I have to chime in and add how excited I am about the new TTC #1 section. I can definitely relate more with other first-timers!

 

[mrsmax]

Hi everyone it seems like everyone needs lots of

I've been feeling down this cycle too. I guess it happens like that sometimes. My dh's cousin had a baby yesterday too - after 2 moths ttc! Grr.

Soliel - Dh's morphology was pretty rubbish - about 8%, but the testing clinic said it was normal. The speed was ok. Dr told him that it doesnt matter that the morphology is poor, as due to the high count, he still has something like 7million good each time.

I wonder if Dr has got this wrong?

I have started using pre-seed. I use about 3 mil or whatever it is - now I think maybe too much. I did buy some softcups but haven't sued them yet. I dont really understand hwo they help.

Anyway, hope everyone is feeling a bit better

 

[rosababy]

I'm also excited about the ttc#1 section!! I also relate more with people who are trying this for the first time. At least those who have babies know they can actually HAVE babies! There are times when I'm like what if we're infertile and just don't know it?! It's a terrible feeling. My dh (loves the stats) is always like very few people are actually infertile...we're both young (ish) and healthy, we're not infertile. Hmm...well I'll believe it when I see it!

So check out my chart. My temps are going up .2 everyday. It's so annoying. Have I o'ed and it's just a "slow riser" or am I really still waiting to o?! It's cd 19 for crying out loud! I'm so frustrated! After the bd fiasco from the other day, I'd like to just take a break for a while, but now I feel like we should keep bd'ing because I'm not sure I actually o'ed yet!! I'm so ready to be in the 2ww.

 

[hopefulmama2b]

What's this TTC #1 section you guys are talking about? It requires a password?

 

[SMFirst]

hopeful - there's just a link on the main page in the TTC section that says "coming soon"

Rosa - "I'll believe it when I see it" are the exact words I've used a couple of times now! Sorry you have some confusion about your cycle.. I'd say keep BD'ing every other day or even every third day for another week if you can

mrsmax - I laughed when I read your post as I didn't figure out it was a little typo at first:

I did buy some softcups but haven't sued them yet.

 

[Soleil Breeze]

SMFirst, that's funny. I saw the typo and knew what it meant immediately, so didn't think anything of it. But reading it over as you saw it - hilarious!! Now I have to go look up all this soft cup business.

 

[Soleil Breeze]

Rosa girl, you've got that big ol' dip on CD 15. The dip usually happens for me the day before I O. I don't know what the norm is for you. Do you usually dip right before O? Some women do, some women don't. What are your post-O temps normally? I don't know that you have ovulated because your temps are so close to what you had before the dip.
As for going for the business sex or not (ie, just keep on BDing even though you're over it...), I don't know what to tell you. I've had months where we've BDed even though I didn't feel it and some where I said enough was enough.

WAIT! You got a positive OPK! (I am such a bad chart reader, eh?!). Well, then...I think you might have O'ed on Weds. since today's temp is higher than all the others. Have a dance tonight for good measure.

 

[Soleil Breeze]

I do believe that is us, ladies.

But, yeah, I totally agree with the rest of you...we don't even know if we can have babies, but I'm sure there's some mommas out there who are pretty frustrated trying for their second. Still. They've at least got the one joy. Bring the forum on!

Although, I think BnB saw how many reads our thread gets and were like "Hey! This is a good idea!" (thanks, Caroline!).

 

[rosababy]

SMFirst, that's funny. I saw the typo and knew what it meant immediately, so didn't think anything of it. But reading it over as you saw it - hilarious!! Now I have to go look up all this soft cup business.

LOL!! I read right over it without noticing!! Too funny.

 

[rosababy]

Rosa girl, you've got that big ol' dip on CD 15. The dip usually happens for me the day before I O. I don't know what the norm is for you. Do you usually dip right before O? Some women do, some women don't. What are your post-O temps normally? I don't know that you have ovulated because your temps are so close to what you had before the dip.
As for going for the business sex or not (ie, just keep on BDing even though you're over it...), I don't know what to tell you. I've had months where we've BDed even though I didn't feel it and some where I said enough was enough.

WAIT! You got a positive OPK! (I am such a bad chart reader, eh?!). Well, then...I think you might have O'ed on Weds. since today's temp is higher than all the others. Have a dance tonight for good measure.

Yes, the +opk makes it interesting. I've heard that clomid can give you false positives, but this is well after I was done with the meds. Usually, they say if you DO get a falsie, it'll be when you take the meds or a few days after. I got that positive like 8 or 9 days after being done with clomid, so I honestly do think it's a real positive. My pre-o temps are usually 97.5 and under. Lately, they've been in the 96's. So, to have 97.7 and 98 (I discarded the two 98s because they're ridiculous) before O is not like me at ALL.

Sigh. I'm reading too much into this, I know. We'll bd tonight (I'm ready to be DONE!) just in case, but then I'm going to just roll with the punches. The blood test next week should give me some indication if I o'ed and how well of an egg it was. Thanks for disecting my chart with me.

 

[mrsmax]

Rosababy - so frustrating not to know what is going on with your chart. Do yuo have to bd every night? What about every other night - like some of you guys told me last month when I wasnt sure if to do it again for good measure - sometime enough is enough. When I look at people's charts who conceived, lots of them just bd once or twice around o.

I'm glad my typo made everyone smile - my typing is shocking!!

 

[Regalpeas]

Lol@Soleil's sum up of this thread as the ttc#1 forum. Yeah I was so excited to find you guys. I don't know how I missed you all before this time. I have other groups I enjoy dearly. Yet I definately wanted a TTC #1 group as well. On the main forum I found one last year for all ttc #1s. It was huge. A lot was going on and most were much younger than me. I know we live in modern times and many women choose to delay having children due to career and/or waiting later for a partner etc. However starting in 30's is still considered late-ish especially when it starts to take more time than expected. With that comes different pressures and concerns. Even within 30s (early to late) faces different concerns. Late 30s come with an added layer or urgency and anxiety. I didn't want to go through my ups and downs possibly offending someone who felt their chances were truly diminishing with each passing period but I still have all the time in the world. So here was perfect. I love supporting and sharing with women from adifferent backgrounds of all ages and # of children but nothing beats sharing with those who are exactly where you are at as well.


Rosa things look good for you. Keep Bding. Baby wishes! Hope this is your time!

(General comment about when to BD)Also, I was reading a while ago someone in late 30s said DH were upset because they thought they were out for the month because they only bd one during that cycle I think it was something like 4 days before ov. They got pregnant right then lol.

So sometimes I tell DH we should BD every other day starting Day 10 (on 27-28 day cycle). Because sometimes the spermies will wait around lol. This stuff is so complex. The beauty of nature.

 

[rosababy]

Ladies, I am soooo done temping. Maybe this is why my doc told me to stop... My temp went DOWN (yes, that's right) DOWN 0.1 today. I'm so done. It's stressing me out, and I'm obsessing. I refuse to believe that clomid is making me NOT o, when I usually o on my own in the first place!!! I'm choosing to believe that either I did o and my temps just don't reflect it, or I haven't yet and I'm in for a crazy long cycle. Either way, we're going to keep bd'ing every other day for a while, just to cover our bases. My blood test next Wednesday will confirm O if it happend. I'm so frustrated and DONE with this temping nonsense.

 

[SMFirst]

wel my view on temping is that just taking your temperature is not going to get you pregnant - it might give a better idea of when you Ov and when to BD, but if you BD regularly anyway that's already covered so why bother temping? It's just confusing and frustrating when you expect one thing and the opposite happens!

So I say quit!!

 

[rosababy]

Thanks, Susan! I agree. I'm done. I originally did it just to see what was wrong with me, and if in fact I was o'ing. I've learned that I do o, my progesterone levels were low, and now I'm done. I'll bd every other day and let clomid and God take care of the rest! It's not worth my stress.

 

[SMFirst]

Thanks, Susan! I agree. I'm done. I originally did it just to see what was wrong with me, and if in fact I was o'ing. I've learned that I do o, my progesterone levels were low, and now I'm done. I'll bd every other day and let clomid and God take care of the rest! It's not worth my stress.

I think that is a great attitude for moving forward