Early 30's TTC #1

[rosababy]

Mrsmax, interestingly, the only reason I started to temp was to figure out if I was o'ing, and to have something to show the docs when I went in. Now that I have, and they figured out what was wrong, it's time to stop. I'm surprisingly okay with it. When the doc told me to stop, I was like NOOOOOO!!!!! But now that I decided on my own it was time, I'm fine. I guess I don't like being told what to do!

Crumbs, that's awesome! I didn't know you could do that without special equipment?! So you just sucked up his sperm with the preseed applicator and popped it in you? Wow! That's awesome! I hope it works for you!!

TraceC, welcome! This is an awesome site, and a lovely thread. I hope you have some good luck this month! What are you trying...temping, opks, etc.?

 

[mrsmax]

Hi Ladies. I'm new to this site. I've been TTC since Dec. Am 27 this year and DH is 32 later on in the yr. CAROLINE I feel your pain, it does get very frustrating every month when AF shows up. So yes I know how you feel, the only thing I take comfort in is that it takes the average couple approx 1 yr to get that BFP.
ARIANNE: If the Sperm count is lower, your better to get DH to abstain from BD untill your most fertile period, as when you do it on a regular basis the potency of sperm decreases.

AF showed up yesterday for me, so now the waiting game for O...bestof luck for a Dec baby girls Fingers Xd

Sorry - forgot to say hi and welcome TraceC. I hope you find this site as helpful and supportive as I do. we've been trying since June 2010 - feels like forever!! I hope you guys are luckier!

 

[SMFirst]

Hi TraceC - best of luck this cycle

Crumbs - That's the beauty of this site, you can share things you could never tell anyone else!! My DH would never go for that I don't think (and I might not even be able to get up the nerve to suggest it!). So hopefully it works for you!

Hi to everyone else - hope you had a good weekend. Raining here so it is pretty lazy around our house.

 

[Crumbs]

Crumbs - that is hysterical!!! How did you convince dh to do that??? Brilliant - and what a story to tell the grandkids if you conceive this month

Haha! I don't think anyone else will know outside of out little group! I think he poor guy was just guilted into it! He was gone for a week when it was freezing and I was sick. He knows how much I want to be pregnant and I've been telling him the real odds for us 30+ ladies. Once I told him that others actually do it this way ... it's not such a bad idea, especially since I am in my fertile period. He agreed and I was SURPRISED! I was even more surprised when he asked if we should do it that night!!! But it's not like I sent him off to the room by himself! We just had a cup nearby!

Crumbs, that's awesome! I didn't know you could do that without special equipment?! So you just sucked up his sperm with the preseed applicator and popped it in you? Wow! That's awesome! I hope it works for you!!

I didn't know about it either until I came on here! I was supposed to use an oral syringe but since this was an unplanned thing, the only thing I had was the Pre-Seed applicator. Yeh basically that's what I did. I've read I was supposed to wait until it liquifies, but didn't wait that long -- and I should have because it was a little tricky. A girl's gotta do what a girl's gotta do!

That's the beauty of this site, you can share things you could never tell anyone else!! My DH would never go for that I don't think (and I might not even be able to get up the nerve to suggest it!). So hopefully it works for you!

I don't think it'll actually really work, but it was worth a try for sure! Oral syringes are now on my shopping list -- just in case we get sick again next cycle!

 

[SMFirst]

crumbs - how do you quote multiple posts in your post?

If you go get oral syringes: one thing I learned (in dealing with a sick cat) is that you might have to cut the end off because it's very narrow (so anything thicker than water clogs it)

 

[rosababy]

crumbs - how do you quote multiple posts in your post?

If you go get oral syringes: one thing I learned (in dealing with a sick cat) is that you might have to cut the end off because it's very narrow (so anything thicker than water clogs it)

Good question, Susan! I've often wondered how people do multiple quotes!

Crumbs, do they have special IUI syringes for this purpose? I always thought you had to do it with the doctor, in the office. Learn something new everyday! So, you froze it? Why would it work better than normal ? Just curious.

 

[MsJMouse]

Congrats FinallyReady. Have a great holiday. What a great way to start a holiday.

Hi TracyC - good luck with this cycle.

Wow Crumbs - i don't know that I could get my DH to agree to that. Well done. Fingers crossed it works.

I am happy - been to see the OB and have the all clear to resume trying once AF appears. Yeah Now to wait for AF.......

Interesting that your doc would tell you to stop temping Rosababy - the OB said not to continue temping once I know my cycle. I think I will start temping again after AF as I am not sure whether my cyle will be same as I have heard it is often not.

 

[Regalpeas]

Hi Ladies! I hope everyone's doing well.

Congrats FinallyReady! That is awesome news and so encouraging as well. Wishing you a happy and healthy full term.

Welcome Trace! Baby wishes to ya!

Rosa I don't blame you. I just started temping this month. My temps were all over the place but that may be my fault. It's a lot of work. If your doctor says stop and you're frustrated with the process...I think it's just cause to give it a break.

Poor Soleil lol this ttc stress can get the best of us sometimes. Good thing, though bangs are in.

Crumbs no shame to it. If you and OH agreed then it's all good. But if he didn't agree that would be a different story. Lol I've heard many times around the site of other women doing it so I think it's more common than we know because it's kept secret. I wish you the best hon...sprinkling baby dust your way!

AFM I am officially in the two week wait. It's the most drab of times where I try to tell myself to focus on other things. So hard not to obsess.


Oh almost forgot. Multiple Quoting: Next to the original/normal quote button should be a quotation mark with a plus sign directly to the right of it. Go to the first post you want to quote and click on the quote plus. The plus should turn to a negative. Then do the same for every other post you would like to quote as well. When you're done go back to the original post you selected and press the normal quote button. This should bring up an entry with all your quotes

 

[MsJMouse]

thanks for the info on how to multi-quote Regalpeas. The 2ww is horrible. to you.

 

[mrsmax]

Just seen a thread (I think started by Arianne!!) where ladies who conceived after 10 months leave their stories. It def gave me a much needed boost, many on there who conceived naturally from 10 months to 2 years :I Made me feel much more hoepful.

I watched a programme on the Health & Home channel yesterday about IVF. Convinced that will be me someday, but trying to stay hopeful

Happy Monday everyone. Anyone testing this week? Feels liek we are on a bit of a roll, so maybe some more BFPs around the corner

 

[rosababy]

Oh almost forgot. Multiple Quoting: Next to the original/normal quote button should be a quotation mark with a plus sign directly to the right of it. Go to the first post you want to quote and click on the quote plus. The plus should turn to a negative. Then do the same for every other post you would like to quote as well. When you're done go back to the original post you selected and press the normal quote button. This should bring up an entry with all your quotes

Let's see if I did this right...

Just seen a thread (I think started by Arianne!!) where ladies who conceived after 10 months leave their stories. It def gave me a much needed boost, many on there who conceived naturally from 10 months to 2 years :I Made me feel much more hoepful.

Can you send a link for this thread? I'd like to read it too. I'm on my 10th cycle and starting to feel hopeless.

 

[rosababy]

I did it!!!!! So, you just have to erase the part of the quote you don't want, then? You have to quote the entire post, not just part of it, right? This is cool! I've always wondered how people do it! Thanks again!!!

 

[SMFirst]

Thanks Regalpeas for the multiple quote info

I might be in the TWW now too if my cycle is normal.. I think we likely did not DTD enough to have a good chance, but that's ok. But then again sometimes less is more...

Really don't want to be at work today so hopefully this site will keep me distracted hehe

 

[Crumbs]

crumbs - how do you quote multiple posts in your post?

If you go get oral syringes: one thing I learned (in dealing with a sick cat) is that you might have to cut the end off because it's very narrow (so anything thicker than water clogs it)

Thanks for the syringe tip! I never actually used one before! Regalpeas seemed to have covered it about the multiple quotes!

Crumbs, do they have special IUI syringes for this purpose? I always thought you had to do it with the doctor, in the office. Learn something new everyday! So, you froze it? Why would it work better than normal ? Just curious.

I found a site that actually sells a Home-Insem Kit! But most of it looks just like what you can buy yourself. Here's a link to it: https://www.fertilityplus.org/faq/homeinsem.html

As for freezing, I didn't do that at all. I went as-is because I didn't really know what to do. I have read that it's easier to let the sperm liquify first by waiting 30-mins. I understand now why that would be a good idea.

I don't think it's supposed to work better than normal at all. It's just a way to be able to BD when one of you are sick or unable to do your duties

A post on here is what actually gave me the idea but what really inspired me is the movie called "The Switch" with Jennifer Aniston. I watched it while DH was away and for a week. I guess the idea really stuck! They actually used a turkey baster!

 

[Soleil Breeze]

Great news from finallyready! FANTASTIC! We are all rooting for you and the bean.

And to today's top Soleil story (imagine a broadcaster with a really great voice): a positive OPK! YEAH! I'm on CD 17 and DH is coming home this evening. Whoo hooooo! We can try pre-seed! I hope it works [ok, that last part isn't in the broadcaster voice]. This might be TMI, but I don't use tampons. I hope that I can insert the stuff up without a problem. Argh. It's worth the discomfort though because like I told you all last week, I am feeling LUCKY in cycle 19. Yeah! is going to make it!

Rosa, did you have the party yet? If not, do you know someone who could babysit the two year old? That way when you tell your good friend that it's adult-only, you can say, "I know a great babysitter who's available..." Just an idea.

Crumbs, thanks for the information on the baster. But how come you guys just didn't have sex? You didn't have to mooch or anything (in case you were worried about getting sick). And girrrrrl, you could have been on top and done all the work for the poor fellow. I really hope the baster works out, and please do keep us updated about it. Cause, holy moly, if I don't have to do IUI and a turkey baster'll do it, I'm all for it!

TraceC welcome!

MsJMouse, I wish you a visit from the dear ol'

[again, the broadcaster's voice...] And ladies, it's just a few more hours until Ms. Soleil Breeze gets inseminated with the wonderful assistance of Pre-seeeeeed!

 

[SMFirst]

Good luck with the preseed Soleil.. I think you'll be fine with the applicator..

crumbs - something about the "waiting for sperm to liquify" really makes me think I couldn't handle it, I'd be too grossed out!

 

[Crumbs]

Yay! Soleil! I'm so rooting for you! Go Go!

As for not doing all the "work" myself I swear it's not cause I'm super lazy! DH gets hurt when I'm on top because he has an old wound on his foreskin when it healed it didn't align properly (it gets a little tight down there). BDing normally is usually fine, but when I'm on top, it pulls it the wrong way and hurts him! It's a total mood killer! He knows he should see a doctor but hasn't brought himself to do it yet. I guess doing this was just the better alternative for him.

I guess I should have explained that before I sounded like I abused the guy BTW, he'd kill me if he knew I told anyone about it! (Well, not literally but I'd be in hot water for sure)!

 

[SMFirst]

ooh crumbs- that doesn't sound too comfortable for your DH.. I can understand why he's shy to go to a doctor but for something like that he should just duck his head and go in!!

Well, I apparently had a 3pm cheese craving so made the best of it - since I'm being positive and hoping to get a BFP in the coming months, my days of eating brie and other soft cheeses may be coming to an end, so I got an expensive brie and also this amazing honey-goat cheese and am gorging on it here at work.. YUM

 

[Crumbs]

Since I'm taking it easy this month, I'm having coffee. It's not a regular thing but I'm not abstaining like I did last month. I'm also having coldcuts because it's also something I didn't have last month (I had a lot of symptoms and wanted to be super safe)! IF I do manage to get a BFP I'll stop (more likely, I'll stop closer to 5 DPO but I'm enjoying it while it lasts)!

SMFirst, I've heard that a lot of women stop eating soft cheeses but most supermarket cheeses are pasteurized. I don't know how it is in Canada, but in the States it's illegal to sell unpasteurized cheeses. I'm in Europe and even here, mostly all the cheeses they sell at the grocery stores are all pasteurized - I have to go to a separate section to get the real cheeses!

BTW, I had to edit my description about my hubby's problem. I meant to say it healed properly, it's just not aligned well. But yeh, he totally needs to just get it looked at! Whatever the case may be, the solution's definitely gonna hurt!

 

[SMFirst]

Actually my pregnant friend learned that it's not just the pasteurization that is the reason to avoid soft cheeses.. (and then told me)

Apparently even pasteurized soft cheese is not acidic enough (like hard cheese) to ward off possible bacteria growth (namely listeria) so that's more why they should be avoided.. (not that there's likely a huge risk but still) - and they would be fine if heated thoroughly.. mmm melted brie...


I had stopped drinking caffeinated black tea as a test to see if I could do it, which I can, but then I relaxed a bit and went back on it (I found the best Earl Grey tea by "Numi") but I guess I should go back off eventually..

I've been drinking a bit of green tea and getting to like it.. supposed to be good to make good quality CM but then it interferes with folic acid absorption..