Early 30's TTC #1

[Birdie Dorf]

I am sorry Rosa, that is incredibly difficult. I've cried many times over this same thing. So frustrating.

OH's sister asked when we were having kids and he told her about the mc. That shut her up and literally surprised her so much she was brought to tears. I think you just never know and you should not ask people. We know this, right?!

Well I do have good news however: My AF came exactly at 30 days past mc. I was so relieved. I mean, I would have rather had a BFP but at least I am not waiting any longer to begin trying. We have to cling to the good news we can, right?

 

[SMFirst]

Rosa - those pregnancy announcements really suck, but hopefully you will get a BFP this cycle and be able to make your own announcement soon enough.

Birdie - Glad that your AF is returning as normal (and you'll get another BFP soon too)

I guess I should be expecting AF at some point this week (CD25 for me today).. I have drank a LOT of wine this past number of weeks so I kind of hope AF does come so that I'll have next month to behave a little better

 

[rosababy]

I am sorry Rosa, that is incredibly difficult. I've cried many times over this same thing. So frustrating.

OH's sister asked when we were having kids and he told her about the mc. That shut her up and literally surprised her so much she was brought to tears. I think you just never know and you should not ask people. We know this, right?!

Well I do have good news however: My AF came exactly at 30 days past mc. I was so relieved. I mean, I would have rather had a BFP but at least I am not waiting any longer to begin trying. We have to cling to the good news we can, right?

Thanks, Birdie. I'm sorry AF came, but glad to hear that you can move on. I hope I never have to go through a mc. I can't even imagine how painful that is.

Rosa - those pregnancy announcements really suck, but hopefully you will get a BFP this cycle and be able to make your own announcement soon enough.

I guess I should be expecting AF at some point this week (CD25 for me today).. I have drank a LOT of wine this past number of weeks so I kind of hope AF does come so that I'll have next month to behave a little better

Thanks, Susan. They really do suck. I couldn't help the tears that were building up, and I felt like such an idiot. Luckily, no one noticed. I slipped out and composed myself...as for drinking wine... I rode rollercoasters, drank a ton, laid out in the sun, etc. I might as well had inhaled paint fumes! AF is due for me in a few days, too. My iPod says Wednesday, but I won't test until Friday.

 

[Soleil Breeze]

I hope all you gals who celebrate Easter had a lovely one. I spent some time with the fam., which I always love to do since I don't get to see them very often (we live in different countries). I think I am either 10 or 11 dpo, so Rosa and Susan we are putting our uterus sticky-lining game-faces on this week! With a smile, of course! Let's hope that we all get fantastic news toward the end of the week!

Rosa, I've had tender bbs since about 3 dpo, VERY early for me, and I've had CM in my undies for the past four days, too - very unusual. I wondered, too, if it had anything to do with the clomid....

I told DH today that if I don't spot before AF this cycle (assuming she comes TH/FRI) then I am fairly convinced that my reproductive system may be the culprit in our TTC non-successes. He doesn't agree. But let's say I don't spot...what does clomid have that my body doesn't produce. Estrogen? Do I have poor corpus luteum? Maybe. Anyway! Enough over-thinking! I think that AF will be greeting me by the end of the week. Will I be upset. Yes, but I kinda figured it will come based on the O-day mix-up. We'll get the egg(s) next cycle!

to my TTC buddies! and let's think like Birdie says, cling to good news!

 

[MsJMouse]

Hi everyone, hope you all had a good easter. Isn't it a bummer that holidays fly by and yet the working week often drags??

AF arrived last week - two days earlier than expected and was a horror!! Oh well maybe that will have cleaned everything out and my body might actually work properly this month.

FX'd crossed for you Rosa. Completely understand about getting upset about the preg announcements. We avoided a family do this weekend cause last year my SIL upset me by assuming that I don't want children cause we hadn't had any (she had just had a baby herself so we are now the only couple on DH's side without children despite having been together for 10 years) and I was feeling too fragile to deal with that again but I will have to see them all next weekend for another family do that we can't avoid. Thankfully it is another long weekend that weekend as well so I aim to pamper myself a bit next weekend and get my hair done. I think the saying is "a change is as good as a haircut". I know I always feel better to present a good front to the world if I think I am looking pretty good. Anyway enough rambling - back to work

 

[rosababy]

I hope all you gals who celebrate Easter had a lovely one. I spent some time with the fam., which I always love to do since I don't get to see them very often (we live in different countries). I think I am either 10 or 11 dpo, so Rosa and Susan we are putting our uterus sticky-lining game-faces on this week! With a smile, of course! Let's hope that we all get fantastic news toward the end of the week!

Rosa, I've had tender bbs since about 3 dpo, VERY early for me, and I've had CM in my undies for the past four days, too - very unusual. I wondered, too, if it had anything to do with the clomid....

Thanks for having such a positive can-do attitude! It brightened my day. Here's my game face... We're GOING to get that egg and get knocked up! Although, most days it feels like this I sure hope to have good news at the end of the week. My ipod period calendar says that af is due tomorrow. That would be a 32 day cycle. However, last clomid cycle was 34 days. So, if I don't get af or major af cramps on Friday (I usually am awaken by my bad cramps early in the morning of af), then I'll test Friday morning. I'm not feeling really positive about it though. I had a dream that I took a test in the doc's office. It was positive, but the nurse said my numbers were too low and it would probably end up being a mc. This was right before I woke up, so you can imagine how I felt. But let's cling to that hope! As for the clomid and symptoms, I'm sure it messes us up so much that we have weird symptoms. Like the creamy cm in my undies...I'd like to think it's a preggo symptom, but probably just the clomid.

Hi everyone, hope you all had a good easter. Isn't it a bummer that holidays fly by and yet the working week often drags??

AF arrived last week - two days earlier than expected and was a horror!! Oh well maybe that will have cleaned everything out and my body might actually work properly this month.

FX'd crossed for you Rosa. Completely understand about getting upset about the preg announcements. We avoided a family do this weekend cause last year my SIL upset me by assuming that I don't want children cause we hadn't had any (she had just had a baby herself so we are now the only couple on DH's side without children despite having been together for 10 years) and I was feeling too fragile to deal with that again but I will have to see them all next weekend for another family do that we can't avoid. Thankfully it is another long weekend that weekend as well so I aim to pamper myself a bit next weekend and get my hair done. I think the saying is "a change is as good as a haircut". I know I always feel better to present a good front to the world if I think I am looking pretty good. Anyway enough rambling - back to work

The week after a holiday is always the worst! The only thing that cheers me is to plan another vacay for the very near future! I'm so sorry that af came early for you! That really sucks. But hopefully everything is ready to go again, and you'll get lucky this cycle. Sometimes, I think that the stars truly have to allign for us to get pregnant! I wish I could have a convo with God and find out his reasonings for us not having a baby right away, and try to make him see my point of view! Guess it doesn't work that way. I'm sorry about your sil. What a rude and insensitive thing to say. People should just keep their pie hole shut sometimes!

 

[SMFirst]

Rosa - sorry about the bad dream.. keeping my fingers crossed for you!! I love the game face!

Soleil - best of luck to you too

MsJ - Sorry about AF, but it seems (weirdly) that a lot of us are close in cycle timing (have you ever heard that happens with women who live close together - something to do with hormones I guess - I know when I worked on a cruise ship it ended up that we all had matching cycles)

Anyway - also sorry you had to avoid your SIL. People don't think about what they say most of the time..

I got my haircut on the weekend - it was a last minute decision but a fairly big change in style.. I am happy with it

Next will be a color change I think... (Actually I was quite disgusted with my hair color when I saw the hair on the floor of the hairdressers - VERY ashy blonde, not a pretty golden blonde like I would like)

 

[rosababy]

Susan, you worked on a cruise ship?! Which one? We're thinking of taking a cruise this summer...depends on this cycle, actually. For financial reasons. We might go to Alaska, but are open to other places. Any suggestions on which companies or where to go?

 

[SMFirst]

Rosa - I worked for Norwegian Cruise Lines. It's a bit hard to judge how a cruise is when you are working versus being a passenger, but I think NCL is pretty good, or Royal Caribbean.. I would love to cruise with Cunard but it's super $$..

Alaska would be great, but the weather is iffy - I've heard the best is to go August/ September..

I cruised in the Caribbean, the New England coast (stunning fall foliage in October - I'd highly recommend that cruise) and South America (that was cool too, but long cruises), oh and a repositioning cruise through the Panama Canal..

It was fun to work on the ships, but I was 20 and unattached..

 

[hopefulmama2b]

Good luck to all of you expecting AF this week. I hope no one gets any unwanted visitors!

MsJ- Sorry to hear AF came last week. And boo to your sil! Some people are so insensitive and just don't "get it". I have avoided family and friend functions from time to time as well and that makes me sad that it has come to that. Last Thanksgiving I made up a reason why I had to leave and just cried the whole way home. It was the worst holiday ever.

Rosa-

To those of you that chart- I'm just getting into it this month and still trying to learn. So this morning my temp was a lot high than I had anticipated it would be. Could me sleeping 11.5 hours last night have caused a higher temp? (I was sweepy)

Also I looked at some of your charts- On Ariane's I dont' understand why they picked cd14 (I think) as ovulation day. Why wouldn't it be the day before when she/you had a .2 increase and then stayed high for 3 consecutive days? Thanks! I'm learning here!

 

[Birdie Dorf]

I thought once your temp increased, the egg is already gone (or fertilized)? The temp should stay high until AF or throughout pregnancy. Sometimes you can tell it is dropping and AF is coming...

Sometimes there are just outlier temps- temp in the room, what you are wearing, if you got up to go to the bathroom a couple hours ago. Temping at the same time (w/o moving beforehand) is the key, don't know about being in bed longer...

 

[rosababy]

Good luck to all of you expecting AF this week. I hope no one gets any unwanted visitors!

MsJ- Sorry to hear AF came last week. And boo to your sil! Some people are so insensitive and just don't "get it". I have avoided family and friend functions from time to time as well and that makes me sad that it has come to that. Last Thanksgiving I made up a reason why I had to leave and just cried the whole way home. It was the worst holiday ever.

Rosa-

To those of you that chart- I'm just getting into it this month and still trying to learn. So this morning my temp was a lot high than I had anticipated it would be. Could me sleeping 11.5 hours last night have caused a higher temp? (I was sweepy)

Also I looked at some of your charts- On Ariane's I dont' understand why they picked cd14 (I think) as ovulation day. Why wouldn't it be the day before when she/you had a .2 increase and then stayed high for 3 consecutive days? Thanks! I'm learning here!

Thanks, hopeful. I just started spotting and have cramps. I just wish I knew IF we were ever going to get pregnant. If God would just sync His calendar with mine, that would be great. Seriously, though. Every month it doesn't happen, I get more and more scared that it will never happen. Not just disappointed, but actually worried that we're infertile.

As for charts, yes sleeping longer and/or later can definitely make it be higher. I didn't check out your ticker...could you have o'ed yesterday? Sometimes FF doesn't always get it right. And sometimes the o dates are not so obvious. Yes, it should be a 0.4 increase and stay high for 3 consecutive days...is the line a dotted line? Because that means FF is "not sure."

 

[hopefulmama2b]

Good luck to all of you expecting AF this week. I hope no one gets any unwanted visitors!

MsJ- Sorry to hear AF came last week. And boo to your sil! Some people are so insensitive and just don't "get it". I have avoided family and friend functions from time to time as well and that makes me sad that it has come to that. Last Thanksgiving I made up a reason why I had to leave and just cried the whole way home. It was the worst holiday ever.

Rosa-

To those of you that chart- I'm just getting into it this month and still trying to learn. So this morning my temp was a lot high than I had anticipated it would be. Could me sleeping 11.5 hours last night have caused a higher temp? (I was sweepy)

Also I looked at some of your charts- On Ariane's I dont' understand why they picked cd14 (I think) as ovulation day. Why wouldn't it be the day before when she/you had a .2 increase and then stayed high for 3 consecutive days? Thanks! I'm learning here!

Thanks, hopeful. I just started spotting and have cramps. I just wish I knew IF we were ever going to get pregnant. If God would just sync His calendar with mine, that would be great. Seriously, though. Every month it doesn't happen, I get more and more scared that it will never happen. Not just disappointed, but actually worried that we're infertile.

As for charts, yes sleeping longer and/or later can definitely make it be higher. I didn't check out your ticker...could you have o'ed yesterday? Sometimes FF doesn't always get it right. And sometimes the o dates are not so obvious. Yes, it should be a 0.4 increase and stay high for 3 consecutive days...is the line a dotted line? Because that means FF is "not sure."

I'm with ya, Rosa. Although my husband and I know we CAN get pregnant, we don't know if we can STAY pregnant so the unknown is absolutely killer. I hope your time comes soon or that you get some answers into what you can do to make that happen. I don't think you should wait the 6 month? your doctor told you to wait to investigate further. That's too long. Fight for more testing! I was researching adoptions the other day. We will go that route if we have to, but I hope it doesn't get to that. I really want at least one biological and also it's so expensive to adopt! I was reading around $25k for domestic if you want a newborn. Eek!

No I couldn't have o'd I'm only on CD5. I think it was the sleeping for so long. Oh- .4? Maybe that's why they put Arianne's date at CD14 when I thought they should've marked CD13. Who knows. I'm sure I'll learn more...

 

[rosababy]

AF came this morning. I was spotting and had cramps last night, so it wasn't a surprise, but still very depressing. I had a meltdown last night...I just want to know IF we'll have a baby at this point. I'm feeling so down.

 

[Soleil Breeze]

Shoot, Rosa; I'm soooo sorry. I sing you a song of reassurance, okay? You WILL have that baby. We WILL all have the babies we want. The unknown is the worst part about it, especially when you are still under that year mark of TTC. Almost everyone gets pregnant within the year...I haven't, what's wrong with me?! But here's a story of hope. My husband has an uncle and an aunt who tried to get pregnant, but couldn't. Year after year, after year, etc. They went to get checked out and everything came back okay, so they got put into that "unexplained infertility" category (where me and my DH are). Year four of TTC they give up. They stay given up. Year six, they get pregnant. !! Two years later they are pregnant again! And all with no fertility/any other kind of help.

Good Lord, I know that's a loooong time. But dang it, it happened and they got pregnant - TWICE - and have two great children now. I don't know why some of us have such trouble getting and staying pregnant. The universe has other plans for us during those times, and maybe we are too upset to see what other possibilities are being presented to us. I know it's frustrating - if AF comes I will be entering cycle 21 (or is it 22? - I've lost count...) - and I wish that some message/sign would appear that assures us that we WILL get pregnant. I don't know, maybe these messages exist, but we don't take the time to notice them? Think of DH's Uncle's 6-year TTC journey as that message for you today.

Here's my game face:
I'm supposed to go in for the pregnancy blood test tomorrow. No spotting still.


Much love to you all.

 

[SMFirst]

Rosa - Sorry AF came for you, but if it's any condolence, she arrived for me too this morning (in a hurry!) - I'm not too upset about it myself, actually - I look at it like, well I'd rather have a baby in Spring than in Winter anyway

So my cycle was 27 days.. If this new cycle is the same length, that means I will either get AF on my birthday or hopefully a really nice BFP Birthday present - I will mention this to my husband so that we really try harder this cycle

Some years ago, I told my husband that I didn't think I would have kids/ be pregnant before I was 30, so now the heat is on to see if that comes true or not...


Soleil - Actually my husbands friends have a very similar story - they tried and tried and were told they couldn't have kids, so they decided to build a beautiful house for just the two of them and enjoy their own lives.. Then suddenly they got pregnant, and then again.. So now they have two kids and a beautiful house! So miracles do happen!!

 

[hakunamatata]

I'm 31, so I'm looking forward to meeting others in their early 30's who are also TTC!

 

[SMFirst]

Hi Hakuna (can we call you Simba for short hehe) - welcome

Lots of friendly ladies here

Best of luck to you!

Some of us are just starting yet another cycle, so hopefully May will bring a few BFPs to the room!!

 

[Soleil Breeze]

Just popping in to say that I'm not going in for the blood test this AM. I think I'm 14 dpo, so it AF doesn't arrive tomorrow, then I will definitely go in for it in the morning. I want another day of uncertainty, instead of a definite "no, you're not pregnant."

Welcome, hakunamatata!

 

[hopefulmama2b]

Hakunamatata!! Welcome!

Soleil- You are one patient woman!! There's no way on earth I could wait another day! Good luck!

Sorry to hear of all of the unwanted visitors this week.