Early 30's TTC #1

[dozy]

Hi everyone

I'm a newbie, first time posting on any forum ever, so am sure I am going to get all the etiquette wrong - apologies in advance! I have been stalking these forums for a while, everyone seems really lovely and supportive so I thought it was about time I joined in.

I'm 32 and DH is 33. We've been TTC #1 since August last year, I'm currently on cycle #10. I'm 2 DPO.

I was so naive (or however you spell it) about making a baby. I thought as I have regular cycles and DH has conceived before (way back when with an old girlfriend) that it would happen quickly. How wrong could I be!!!!!! 10 cycles later, I'm totally obsessed and doing EVERYTHING - ridiculous amounts of vitamins and supplements, OPKs, charting, the lot. This cycle me and DH have not drunk any alcohol, we usually drink quite a lot (not binging but a large glass of wine after work-type drinking). I'm hoping that and Pre-Seed might make a difference but if I'm honest, I'm already preparing myself for disappointment (god that sounds so negative, sorry!)

I am off to the doctor's this time if the witch gets me - figured it's been nearly a year and need to get things checked out, plus DH is keen to get tested etc. I absolutely hate going to the docs but it's got to be done I guess

Anywho, I am rabbitting on now but thought I would introduce myself and I am sending lots of good wishes that we all get our BFP's soon

 

[MsJMouse]

Hi Teeny and Dozy. Everyone on this thread is really nice and supportive.

FXd Teeny but I understand what you mean about talking yourself into symptoms - I did that last month and here I am again waiting for ov.

AFM - DH is very keen this month and it looks like we are trying the sperm meets egg plan (except I draw the line at OPKs at this stage - I think I could get very obsessive about it if I did them). And I have managed to get him to agree to taking folate, zinc and omega 3 tablets - all of which are meant to help sperm (even if it won't help this cycle it should help in future cycles). But at the same time we have started saving for our overseas holiday in April next year (back up plan in case things don't work out).

Yay for the first weekend in ages that I am not working and as I am waiting to ov - looks like dinner with a few wines is on the agenda.

Happy weekend - happy 4th of July to everyone in the US. We don't have any more long weekends until Christmas. I hate the last six months of year - no breaks unless you take annual leave!!

 

[rosababy]

So, ladies, I know I said I was taking a break from BnB, but here I am. I've been lurking...CONGRATS TO MRSMAX!!!!! I agree with...gosh...someone...don't test anymore! Trust the process, and try to find something to keep your mind busy for the next few weeks. I'm SURE everything will be just fine and your bean will be nice and sticky for the next 9 months! Well, 8 now! I'm so happy for you!

SM, how are you doing, girl? Have you had a doctors appt yet? Haven't heard from you in while. Hope everything is going well.

Welcome, Teeny and Dozy! This is a great thread. Teeny, I've had all the symptoms in the books and still not had any lucky. This is my 14th cycle of ttc #1. I've had all of the scary, invasive tests with my specialist, and have a laparoscopy scheduled for next Thursday. Hopefully, he finds a little endometriosis (sounds weird to say) and lasers the heck out of it. I say hope because that's easily fixable, and if that's the issue, let's take care of it and hopefully get preggo naturally. If not, we'll do an IUI in the next few cycles.

Dozy, I'm also 32 and have been ttc about the same as you. Frustrating, huh?! I totally thought it would happen the first month, and yet here we are.

 

[mrsmax]

Well, it wasn't to be. I started bleeding yesterday evening and this morning have BFN.

I am gutted, but I kinda knew when I got that faint line.

DH and I had a melt down but now we are ok. iT was such early days. Just going to be kind to ourselves and try to see the silver lining that at least we know the egg and the sperm meet!

On to the next cycle and I am going to stay positive again

Welcome back Rosa - we would have missed you if you stayed away to long.

Tnank you all for your support xx

 

[MsJMouse]

So sorry to hear that mrsmax

Good to see you Rosa - i did the same thing the other week - said I was going to take a break but it only last about a week

 

[hopefulmama2b]

Oh mrs.max- so gutted for you. I imagine that even though it was only known for a while it is still incredibly painful. As much as I grit my teeth when people say this to me regarding our past miscarriages, it is somewhat true- at least you know it is possible. And statistically speaking if it happened once it will most likely happen again. It doesn't make it any easier I know, but you guys know that your parts work! And I hope that it happens again soon and that one is a sticky bean. Didn't you just get an HSG this cycle? Maybe that cleared some blockage that was in there and it will happen very soon. Hugs, friend. Thinking of you...

I was just checking in quickly because I've been busy on hubby and I's stay-cation! I'm exhausted from a busy day at a water park. Hello to the newbies- you guys will hopefully find comfort here.

 

[mrsmax]

Oh mrs.max- so gutted for you. I imagine that even though it was only known for a while it is still incredibly painful. As much as I grit my teeth when people say this to me regarding our past miscarriages, it is somewhat true- at least you know it is possible. And statistically speaking if it happened once it will most likely happen again. It doesn't make it any easier I know, but you guys know that your parts work! And I hope that it happens again soon and that one is a sticky bean. Didn't you just get an HSG this cycle? Maybe that cleared some blockage that was in there and it will happen very soon. Hugs, friend. Thinking of you...

I was just checking in quickly because I've been busy on hubby and I's stay-cation! I'm exhausted from a busy day at a water park. Hello to the newbies- you guys will hopefully find comfort here.

Thanks Hopeful - yep, I had HSG this cycle so hopefully that cleared whatever the problem was. I guess cause it was so early, I dont feel completley devastated, just sad.

Glad you enjoying your hols - I love water parks!

 

[dozy]

Hey ladies
Mrsmax, so sorry this happened, it must be devastating. I hope you feel better soon and can find stuff to distract yourself. Once you've had time to absorb what's happened, hopefully you will find some reassurance in the fact that the sperm did meet the egg a
hope all you ladies have a good weekend x x

 

[pink80]

So sorry Mrs Max

 

[hakunamatata]

Hugs MrsMax

 

[rosababy]

Oh mrsmax. I'm so so sorry. I know there are no words that will make you feel better. We're here for you if you need us.

 

[Regalpeas]

Mrsmax

 

[Crumbs]

I just got back from a wedding out of town and read the news. I'm so sorry mrsmax! You're in my thoughts

 

[hopefulmama2b]

I HATE THE WHOLE TTC PROCESS!!!!!!!!

Just needed to get that out.

<<<<<but I do like this girl. so happy and such a free spirit. Probably not consumed with ttc.

 

[pink80]

<<<<<but I do like this girl. so happy and such a free spirit. Probably not consumed with ttc.

Looks like me

 

[mrsmax]

I HATE THE WHOLE TTC PROCESS!!!!!!!!

Just needed to get that out.

<<<<<but I do like this girl. so happy and such a free spirit. Probably not consumed with ttc.

Hopeful (and love the bouncy lady!!!!!)

 

[MrsPTTC]

Hopeful!! I'm so with you there! I'm completely fed up, CD1 of cycle 10 . Sending you x

 

[MrsPTTC]

And loving x

 

[hopefulmama2b]

She is a funny emoticon!!


Sorry to hear it's CD1. Never a good day...

 

[rosababy]

Mrs, sorry to hear it's cd1. That's the worst day of them all.

Afm, ladies, I have my laparoscopy scheduled for Thursday and I'm TERRIFIED. The nurse (or whomever) from the hospital called and said laparoscopy, hysteroscopy (which I've had already) and D&C. I FREAKED OUT when she said D&C. Aren't those horrifying?! However, the good (and bad) news is that I'll be completely out for the procedure. But then, being under puts a whole new set of worries into play. I've only ever had my wisdom teeth taken out, so when she started asking if I had a living will, I started hyperventilating. My dh isn't even home and won't be for the "procedure" (I refuse to call it surgery) so I'm just sitting here fretting all by myself. My mom is coming into town tomorrow, so that will be nice.

Words of encouragement, please!!! I'm so scared!!!

Ps. I LOVE She's my favorite!