Early 30's TTC #1

[MrsPTTC]

Rosababy. Good luck for Thursday, I'm sure it will be fine, unfortunately I don't know what any of those procedures are, but I'll probably know them inside out once I've started my FS appointments next week!! x

 

[hopefulmama2b]

From someone who has had 3 d&c's0- I wouldn't worry about it. Not painful. Good luck

 

[Regalpeas]

Hear! Hear!

I HATE THE WHOLE TTC PROCESS!!!!!!!!

Just needed to get that out.

<<<<<but I do like this girl. so happy and such a free spirit. Probably not consumed with ttc.

 

[mrsmax]

Mrs, sorry to hear it's cd1. That's the worst day of them all.

Afm, ladies, I have my laparoscopy scheduled for Thursday and I'm TERRIFIED. The nurse (or whomever) from the hospital called and said laparoscopy, hysteroscopy (which I've had already) and D&C. I FREAKED OUT when she said D&C. Aren't those horrifying?! However, the good (and bad) news is that I'll be completely out for the procedure. But then, being under puts a whole new set of worries into play. I've only ever had my wisdom teeth taken out, so when she started asking if I had a living will, I started hyperventilating. My dh isn't even home and won't be for the "procedure" (I refuse to call it surgery) so I'm just sitting here fretting all by myself. My mom is coming into town tomorrow, so that will be nice.

Words of encouragement, please!!! I'm so scared!!!



Ps. I LOVE She's my favorite!

Rosababy - thinking of you tons. They always ask about wills and stuiffg for any "procedure"- however minor. Glad your mom can go with you. You will be fine. Honest. Have they explained it all to you so you know what to expect? I have been knocked out before and it is over before you know it. Not scary. x

 

[Regalpeas]

Rosa wishing you the best on your procedures. I had a laproscopic myomectomy. I also had a hysterscopy as well. Excuse my spelling. It was nerve wrecking but once it was through I felt so much better. I hope the same is the case for you. Hang in there. Try to recite or read something encouraging...pray...meditate whatever you do to focus, center and take it all in ...before you go in. This may help as well.

 

[MsJMouse]

I HATE THE WHOLE TTC PROCESS!!!!!!!!

Just needed to get that out.

<<<<<but I do like this girl. so happy and such a free spirit. Probably not consumed with ttc.

hopeful

 

[MsJMouse]

Mrs, sorry to hear it's cd1. That's the worst day of them all.

Afm, ladies, I have my laparoscopy scheduled for Thursday and I'm TERRIFIED. The nurse (or whomever) from the hospital called and said laparoscopy, hysteroscopy (which I've had already) and D&C. I FREAKED OUT when she said D&C. Aren't those horrifying?! However, the good (and bad) news is that I'll be completely out for the procedure. But then, being under puts a whole new set of worries into play. I've only ever had my wisdom teeth taken out, so when she started asking if I had a living will, I started hyperventilating. My dh isn't even home and won't be for the "procedure" (I refuse to call it surgery) so I'm just sitting here fretting all by myself. My mom is coming into town tomorrow, so that will be nice.

Words of encouragement, please!!! I'm so scared!!!

Ps. I LOVE She's my favorite!

Good luck tomorrow Rosa. I am sure you will be fine and it will be over before you know it. The build up is always the worst. Glad to hear your mum will be with you. Sometimes mum hugs help a lot.

 

[rosababy]

Thank you, ladies. hopeful, were you under for your d&cs? My doc said that he would be looking for endo, and would laser it out if he saw any...is that what a d&c is? I'm most worried because last year, I had a coworker die in a routine procedure from complications with the anesthesia. I think I'll be most nervous when they are wheeling me into the OR. I'm not too worried about pain. I've got a nice new bottle of percocet waiting for me at home! Thank goodness my mom will be there. These cases always call for a mommy!

Thanks for the pep talk. Hopefully he figures out what the heck is wrong with me, so we can move forward and have a baby.

 

[pink80]

I had a Laparoscopy in 2007 - they were looking for Endo but they didn't find anything. I had a general and it took about 30 mintues (it may take longer if you they have to 'burn'/laser anything away). I felt ok afterwards, just a bit bruised inside but nothing major.

A D&C is what you have after a M/C to clear the lining of the womb - not sure why you would be having that to be honest but there must be a reason. I had a D&E after mine, not quite the same as the contents are 'suctioned' out rather than scraped out, but again I felt ok after - I was sore from the procedures I'd had before the op to stop the hemorraging.

I know it's scary but you will be fine and it'll be over before you know it When I had my latest surgery the anesthesia guy told me to think of a nice, comforting peaceful place before he put me under and I really helped me calm down - so try that if you can xxx

 

[hopefulmama2b]

They do D&C for many different reasons. It just means dilation (opening the cervix) and curettage. So they do the "curettage" for many different reasons. Ex- heavy periods, suspected uterine abnormalities, miscarriage, ect. My 3 were for my 2 miscarriages. My MIL (who's 55) just had one a few months back for some issue she was having. I was asleep, yes! I didn't even take pain meds afterwards as there really was no pain. It's more the psychological aspect and nerves regarding the anesthesia. I was VERY concerned over the anesthesia (I have a health profession related background) so every scenario was running through my head from things I have learned over the years. They had a very good response to all of my concerns and told me exactly what they would do if a/b/or c unexpectedly happened mid-procedure. You just have to trust in them and their skills. Yes, like you said, people have died in routine procedures, but most don't! Pray and know that this is necessary to get you to where you want to be and just think that's it's "not an option and what will be will be." That's what I did and it helped and really, you WILL be ok!!!

 

[hopefulmama2b]

Like Pink mine were also D&Es. Just means they suction instead of scrape (hate that word!) the walls.

 

[pink80]

Like Pink mine were also D&Es. Just means they suction instead of scrape (hate that word!) the walls.

I hate it too - sounds awful - but I don't know how else to describe it

 

[rosababy]

I had a Laparoscopy in 2007 - they were looking for Endo but they didn't find anything. I had a general and it took about 30 mintues (it may take longer if you they have to 'burn'/laser anything away). I felt ok afterwards, just a bit bruised inside but nothing major.

A D&C is what you have after a M/C to clear the lining of the womb - not sure why you would be having that to be honest but there must be a reason. I had a D&E after mine, not quite the same as the contents are 'suctioned' out rather than scraped out, but again I felt ok after - I was sore from the procedures I'd had before the op to stop the hemorraging.

I know it's scary but you will be fine and it'll be over before you know it When I had my latest surgery the anesthesia guy told me to think of a nice, comforting peaceful place before he put me under and I really helped me calm down - so try that if you can xxx

I was surprised when the lady said D&C too, since I thought they were only for M/C, but maybe he was referring to taking care of the endo if he found any. He said he actually hopes he does find a little, so maybe just taking care of it will help my lack of getting pregnant issue. Otherwise, I think I'll fall into the unexplained category, and that would suck. The anesthesia makes me the most nervous...I'll try your idea of thinking of a peaceful place.

They do D&C for many different reasons. It just means dilation (opening the cervix) and curettage. So they do the "curettage" for many different reasons. Ex- heavy periods, suspected uterine abnormalities, miscarriage, ect. My 3 were for my 2 miscarriages. My MIL (who's 55) just had one a few months back for some issue she was having. I was asleep, yes! I didn't even take pain meds afterwards as there really was no pain. It's more the psychological aspect and nerves regarding the anesthesia. I was VERY concerned over the anesthesia (I have a health profession related background) so every scenario was running through my head from things I have learned over the years. They had a very good response to all of my concerns and told me exactly what they would do if a/b/or c unexpectedly happened mid-procedure. You just have to trust in them and their skills. Yes, like you said, people have died in routine procedures, but most don't! Pray and know that this is necessary to get you to where you want to be and just think that's it's "not an option and what will be will be." That's what I did and it helped and really, you WILL be ok!!!

Interesting, because I have none of those symptoms...oh well. I'm sure he knows what he's doing, and has a reason for it. Sometimes, not knowing is bliss, isn't it?! I keep thinking that when this is just a necessary step for a family, so let's just put my big girl panties on and get it over with.

Like Pink mine were also D&Es. Just means they suction instead of scrape (hate that word!) the walls.

I also hate this word...ouch!

Thanks for helping me, ladies. I'm teaching lessons for the rest of the evening, and my mom is coming, so hopefully it'll keep my mind off of it.

 

[hopefulmama2b]

Good luck!! Keep us posted!

 

[mrsmax]

Thinking of you Rosa - loads of luck! Let us know how you get on.

 

[Crumbs]

MrsPTTC,

rosababy, I'm thinking of you! Fx it'll be quick and painless.

As for me, I've painted the future baby room (pretending to be craft room)! Since we started TTC, I've been meaning to paint that room and the paint has been sitting in the corner for ages! Every month during TWW, I vow to paint as soon as the arrives but have been putting it off. Well it's 90% painted now and it feels sooooo good!

Now I just gotta buy more paint to finish it off! Woohoo! (Now I just need a baby to go with it! )

 

[MsJMouse]

Rosa - I hope everything went well yesterday and wasn't too painful.

Crumbs - well done for painting the room. DH doesn't let me paint - he grumbles about painting but whenever we have had to paint (some of the walls in our house were bright red when we bought the house and needed to not be this colour as it made the room look smaller) he tells me that he will do it and that I just need to watch/make drinks/snacks for him.

Happy Friday everyone!! My boss returns from leave in one week on Monday - gee do you think I might be happy to see him return?? I am not finding the boss cap fits my head so well - just a bit of a headache with rostering and staff complaints. Happy to stay 2IC personally and leave the headaches to the boss.

 

[arianne]

Hello Girlies

No time no see! How is everybody doing?

I just couldn't keep up with reading all the thousand posts I missed so I'm opting for catching up with the latest news...

Rosa, I hope your procedure goes smoothly... It is nice that your mom can be with you for that... but why are they doing all those things? Did they find something suspicious on your hsg? or what is your doctor's reason for doing it? If I recall correctly, all your tests came out fine?

Crumbs, how nice painting your baby-to-be room... it must be so exciting... Which color did you paint it?

Msjmouse, yeah headaches to the boss, specially while ttc!

hopefulmama!

I'm about to hit the year mark, which means I fall into the unexplained category

I will be trying IUI soon, but without meds as clomid thins the lining, and my periods are already light, so I don't want it to make it worse... Doctor told me that it isn't more successful than trying on my own, but I will just like to give it a shot... after that I will try with the injectables as they don't thin your lining...but they are way more expensive as well sigh... hopefully my insurance covers part of it..

Anyway, this post is short... but I am back! I just took a well deserved vacation

to all

 

[rosababy]

Rosa, I hope your procedure goes smoothly... It is nice that your mom can be with you for that... but why are they doing all those things? Did they find something suspicious on your hsg? or what is your doctor's reason for doing it? If I recall correctly, all your tests came out fine? 1:

Arianne! So glad to see you back. Yes, my hsg was weird. Some of the ink went through the tubes, but a lot of it pooled at the top of the uterus and went through the blood vessels, which is obviously not good.

I'm feeling fine, ladies. No pain, just tired. Doc found endo and got rid of it. That's all the good news I've got. The bad news is really bad.Tubes are open, but too thin and weak. I didn't actually talk to the doc, but he talked to my mom, and said that IVF was most likely going to be our next course of action. I am simply in shock. I never thought it would come to this. My dh has said from day 1 that he doesn't morally agree with IVF, and won't do it, so you can imagine how I'm feeling. However, I just talked to him, and he said that he is NOT ruling it out. He wants a baby of our own just as much as I do, and that we'd talk about it, find out all of our options, and make a decision together. I felt much better after he said that. I'm still very disappointed and just gutted. I'm sitting here, eating toast and sobbing. At least we have IVF, but still. Not the option I was hoping for.

Love you ladies. Thanks for listening.

 

[arianne]

Hey Rosa, I am sorry about your tubes... but what does it means they are weak? if they are open, then the egg can go through and get implanted in your uterus...
That's good that your doc was able to get rid of the endo he found... maybe after this procedure you have more chances? I don't understand why having thin tubes would affect?

We expect life go the way we planned (e.g. your hubby would never want a baby through ivf) but life takes you somewhere else, and the reality is different... once you are in those shoes you can really make a decision, but not before... of course non of us would like to go through fertility treatment... I never ever imagine I will be a year trying for a baby, I never imagine talking about doing IUI... But life takes you places, and it makes you appreciate life much more... we are a miracle... and I am just thankful for existing...

Thanks for sharing your story... It was very important that your mom went with you, and that you were not alone...