Early 30's TTC #1

[Crumbs]

I have to say that I'm now uber excited for all of us! Seriously, can we all please get a this cycle!

Hopeful & MsJ, the question is: when will you be testing? Here I said I would never test until I'm actually late! It looks like the next 3 or 4 days will be crucial! Fx our temps stay up!!!

oh pretty please!

 

[pink80]

Those charts are looking good ladies

 

[hopefulmama2b]

I will be testing Wednesday (11 dpo) if my temps stay up. Fx!

 

[Regalpeas]

Hopeful hope your dh feels better!

SMFirst! OMG I did not know you got your BFP!!! COngrats! H&H all the way to you. I guess I didnt know b/c I'm lousy w/ keeping up w/ the thread. PLease post as much as you please.


Hakuna, the month will be up soon. Plus you'll be right on time w/ Autumn. You know I'm cheering you on all the way hon.

To everyone else! I'm praying for all of us! We deserve our BFPs! Lovely charts by the way!

 

[hakunamatata]

to everyone!!

 

[MsJMouse]

Crumbs - I am with you - according to FF AF is due on Thursday so I aim to test on Friday morning if AF hasn't arrived. Hopefully I can hold out till then - that will make me 14dpo.

I got another high temp this morning and now FF has the following under the pregnancy bit:

Implantation Signs:

Possibly Triphasic on Day 26

I haven't seen that before so that made me a bit excited especially as when I clicked on the "more" - I found a study that FF has done of their charts which shows the 12% of pregnancy charts have this but only 4% of non-pregnancy charts have triphasic which means that it is 179% more likely to occur in a pregnacy chart - so fx'd for us.

I can't help but symptom spot at the moment - really tired and have cramping but I know that can mean absolutely nothing so will hold out to friday (hopefully!!!).

Hope everyone is having a good monday - it is after lunch here already. DH is starting to feel better so hopefully he will be back at work tomorrow. He is currently at the doctors for a medical certificate for today - he won't get paid sick leave unless he has a certificate for today as it is a monday.

 

[Crumbs]

Good morning ladies! Happy Monday!

MsJMouse, I'm a little apprehensive. Good news is my temp rose again this morning, but my breasts don't feel as tender. They're still tender but they no longer hurt as soon as I touch them. This got me uneasy. Uneasy enough to just want to test early to see before all the tenderness is gone. They've never been this tender for so long and so early before. I'm just willing to test and see. I've never gotten a BFP so I'm willing to risk the possible heartache of "just seeing". My temps usually fall around 11 or 12 DPO so I'm thinking of testing on Wed or Thursday although FF doesn't recommend me testing until Monday!

Thank goodness I have a few things keeping me busy ATM or I would be completely obsessed with this. I have a Swedish language test later today and a position was advertised in my field, which is really rare since I don't live in a big city. I'm also trying to get my Swedish driver's license and hopefully they'll be able to squeeze me into a mandatory class I need to take.

Oh, I'm really hoping this is the month for us!!!

Fx to all ovulating and waiting to O

 

[MsJMouse]

Crumbs - according to my chart from BFP in late Dec - I didn't tender breasts till 10dpo or cramping till 11dpo but I truly hadn't expected a BFP that month either - took me by surprise - I only tested cause I was going to a thing for NYE and thought I should check re drinking - I didn't test till 12dpo that month. I will see how I go - my temp usually drops just before AF and I get spotting about a day before AF so.... I guess we just wait and see - but gee it would be nice.

Good luck with your test today and FXd for applying for that job. I am in the office at work for the remainder of the week so that will keep me occupied

FXd for everyone else.

 

[mrsmax]

Hey guys!! I didnt temp past O this month as part of mt "relaxed" August - but now I'm jealous of all of yours I am 7 DPO by the way, although my signature says 6.

I had my second FA today and it was terrible. It was 5 minutes long and we got discharged. There is nothing more the NHS can do for us as they dont help people over 35 (I will be 35 in October). If we want treatments or investigations we have to go private and they wont even give me Clomid free. I was expectying it - but at least wanted Clomid, but the rules changed again last month.

We now have to sign up to a private clinic. It could cost £10,000 - £12,000 ftreatment - so I guess we better start saving!! DH is happy for us to book an appointment asap though so that is good.

Not as depressed as thought I would be - had a litte cry driving home, but trying to continue iwth my relaxing month!!!

Miss all you guys - so think I am going to have to come back to BNB soon xxxx

 

[hopefulmama2b]

MsJ- That's awesome, I've never seen that!

I didn't get to take a proper temp this morning because I had to go to the bathroom so bad at 3:45. I usually take my temp at 5:30. I thougt I'll just go quick and then in won't effect it, but then couldn't fall asleep and then DH got called to work at 4:30 am for an emergency. Maybe it's for the better.

MrsMax- How frustrating that they won't help you. I'm glad you guys are willing to go private. I know it's super expensive, but sounds like DH is on board. Good luck.

Crumbs- don't fret about the come and go symptoms. I didn't have symptoms with either of my pregnancies until 5 weeks.

 

[rosababy]

mrsmax, I'm so sorry. That must be so frustrating. NHS doesn't cover women over 35?! That's the majority of women who need treatments!! Very glad to hear that your dh is on the same page as you, and wishes to keep things moving along, though.

Crumbs, good luck with your job! Does it require speaking Swedish? How long have you lived there?

Afm, cramps. Can not BELIEVE af has not come yet. I was expecting it anytime from Friday on, and nothing yet. We didn't try this month (or have sex at all during the fertile time) because doc warned us about 60% chance of ectopic. So, we didn't want to have that happen and then have to go through all of that and push ivf back even farther. SO, no chance that I'm pregnant, so I'm just super annoyed that I don't have my period yet. As soon as I get it, I go in for cd3 u/s and bloodwork, and hopefully get the ivf cycle rolling. So here I am...running to the bathroom every 5 minutes just to check...:doh:

 

[mrsmax]

Crumbs - I am with you - according to FF AF is due on Thursday so I aim to test on Friday morning if AF hasn't arrived. Hopefully I can hold out till then - that will make me 14dpo.

I got another high temp this morning and now FF has the following under the pregnancy bit:

Implantation Signs:

Possibly Triphasic on Day 26

I haven't seen that before so that made me a bit excited especially as when I clicked on the "more" - I found a study that FF has done of their charts which shows the 12% of pregnancy charts have this but only 4% of non-pregnancy charts have triphasic which means that it is 179% more likely to occur in a pregnacy chart - so fx'd for us.

I can't help but symptom spot at the moment - really tired and have cramping but I know that can mean absolutely nothing so will hold out to friday (hopefully!!!).

Hope everyone is having a good monday - it is after lunch here already. DH is starting to feel better so hopefully he will be back at work tomorrow. He is currently at the doctors for a medical certificate for today - he won't get paid sick leave unless he has a certificate for today as it is a monday.

That is awesome MsJ!!!!!!!! Sounds like a winner - masses of luck luck

 

[mrsmax]

I can't help but symptom spot at the moment - really tired and have cramping but I know that can mean absolutely nothing so will hold out to friday (hopefully QUOTE]

Just looked closely at your chart and it is AWESOME!!! How can that not be a BFP. I have all my fingers and toes crossed for you.

 

[MrsPTTC]

Rosa, hope your AF comes soon so you can get on with your IVF!! x

Mrsmax I am completely gobsmacked and very annoyed at the NHS at the minute. Not for me (yet anyway), but for other lovely ladies including yourself. I'd like to ask them if they don't think over 35 year olds make good parents, or don't have the right to a baby, or are being punished as they should've tried earlier? I mean COME ON!! It's so unfair I just can't believe. I've also heard on another thread that the wait for IVF for "unexplained" ferility is THREE years! And the lady that has got to wait this long has low ovarian reserve (the eggs of a 40 year old) cysts and endo!!! Yet it's classed as unexplained! WTF?! I am SO mad! But sending you lots of and hope you can afford it private very soon. I assume you're still gonna keep trying naturally though? x

 

[MrsPTTC]

Crumbs, Hopeful and MsJMouse, I just love your charts, wishing you lots of sticky baby x

 

[rosababy]

AF came! U/S and bloods on Wednesday morning and hopefully a schedule for injections.

UK ladies...just hop over the pond and come here for treatments! Do you have to be on a waiting list if you go privately? Doesn't seem right.

 

[SMFirst]

It's kind of complicated. DH told me he doesn't want me talking about it, including to people online. Everything is okay though

A word of advice- some of them (including my dh) feel extra pressure if they think you're chatting with people and timing things. Just don't get on the forum when he's sitting next to you. Don't tell him super personal things that you read on here because then he will assume that you're doing the same thing. We used to argue about it before our last mc (I was told I was consumed ). Now he knows that this is a type of therapy for me and he's ok with it. I never talk to people IRL about ttc except the couple of girls that I know who have had multiple losses like me. He'll get over it! Just don't force the issue! - especially if he's already upset on month one!

I completely agree with everything hopeful said - it was the exact same with us - I just flat out told my DH that I needed to come on here to vent and chat when I was feeling down or just chatty

 

[Crumbs]

MsJMouse, your chart is beautiful!

hakunamatata, I just wanted to add to what SMFirst just said. Most men don't communicate with each other like us ladies, so they don't understand the need to talk. I tell DH BnB is my support group! Oh and when we first started, I overwhelmed him with info and the poor guy had so much anxiety for a few cycles! But in time it subsided and now alls good on his end.

mrsmx, argh. So sorry to hear about NHS! Doesn't make a lick of sense to me! But it's really nice to hear DH has your full support.

Rosa, unfortunately, it requires Swedish and I'm no way near proficient. I've been living here for 2 years now, 1 year in our current location. There's normally a 6 month wait to start these classes and then we moved to another town so it was delayed further. The position is specifically asking for an English communicator though, so it's worth a try. Hopefully they'll pick up the phone today!

BTW, I caved. Boo! Two months ago I was curious about my symptoms and was kicking myself for not testing before my temps fell so I pos today. Maybe I'm just fighting off something afterall! If I make it to this weekend without I will test again on Monday. (bolded for myself to remind me to save the tests until then! Hahha)

 

[rosababy]

Crumbs, good luck! I hope it works out for you! Sorry about your bfn. They never get easy to see.

Afm, another friend just emailed me to tell me she was pregnant. YOU'VE GOT TO BE KIDDING ME. They're all coming out and telling me at the same time and I'm going crazy!!! At least this one emailed me, which I appreciate because I don't like to pretend to be happy and congratulate them when I'm crying and feeling like I want to die. She also knew how long we've been trying and that we're having trouble, so she was nervous to tell me.

I feel like I'm really cutting myself out, but I do not want to even see them. I don't want to talk to my pregnant friends, let alone hang out with them. And we all teach the same thing, so I'm going to see them next week and it's going to suck. I'm feeling so so sad right now.

 

[Aisak]

Rosa, i feel your pain. A couple of my group of close friends already had kids when i started trying (and neither of them had to "try" for those babies...they just happened). Since i've been trying 3 more of that group have become pregnant. Two of them were over 35 and only tried for a month or two! Yesterday i had planned to go for lunch with an old friend whom i hadn't seen in a while. Turns out she's 21 weeks pregnant!!! It was an oops and it's not an ideal situation for her (and she at least had the decency to call me beforehand and tell me rather than drop it on me in public) but still! i am the only one left...the cheese stands alone. Needless to say after that phone call we didn't end up going to lunch. i sat around in my pajamas and got daytime drunk. Yay me.