Early 30's TTC #1

Ah that's a nice story Mrsmax! So excited for you for tuesday! :thumbup:

Jogu, you have amazing will power, I am also a POAS-aholic!

So ladies I have just about stopped crying. DH came with me to the appt, bearing in mind he knows nowt about the ins and outs of TTC... I hated the Dr AGAIN, thought he was condescending. Thinks I'm being ridiculous about the spotting and he's told me time and time again it's normal. When I had my progesterone checked that month he said I definitely didn't ovulate and it wasn't just low progesterone. I told him my gut instinct is I was ovulating most months, I think he took offence to this and basically said something along the lines of, if that's the case then we shouldn't get any help until 2-3 years! If my bloods had of come back I did ovulate, that's what they would've said, come back when it's been 2-3 years. I took this as a threat, either believe him that I'm not ovulating or piss off... He said we could go forward with IUI and clomid, follicle tracking and trigger but they usually suggest clomid for 9-12 months. If I am ovulating fine on clomid then he doubts IUI will help any more than naturally. He also mentioned at one point we could go with IVF now but as this is a last resort if it didn't work in 3 rounds then that's my chance gone, also as it takes time to prepare for IVF then it would be a few months we couldn't TTC. So the end result is, another 6 months of clomid with follicle tracking again on round 1. I asked about it thinning my lining and he said yes it might but if it does there's nothing they can do :shrug:. He said to stop tracking my cycle except how long it is, stop checking what day I'm on, for ovulation signs, spotting etc.. So I came out, got my clomid from the pharmacy and cried, argued with DH and cried some more. DH thinks the bloke is nice as pie and is just direct. Maybe I am being too sensitive but I think he's a knob. I've thought about changing hospitals or Dr's, but this bloke is the top dog at this hospital, has a good reputation, and this hospital apparently has the highest IUI success rate in the country... At least I won't need to see him again for another 6 months I guess! :haha: Oh and he gave me some interesting statistics - 60% chance on getting pregnant within a year of clomid, 60% chance with 5 IUI cycles, 60% chance with 3 rounds of IVF - so he said "don't underestimate the pills." Whatever :growlmad: lol x
 
MrsP :cry: That sounds terrible. He doesnt sound sympathetic at all. I'm not even sure what his advice was. what does he mean prep for IVF? I guess he means it takes a ocuple of months to do th drugs - but for me I could TTC during the downreg cycle, so there was only one month I couldnt TTC. What do you want? I think you need to figure that out and then demand it. Remind me - how old are you? Would you get IVF on the NHS or would you have to pay? I am no doctir, but I have read you shouldnt do clomid for more than 6 months. If I were you, but depending on your age, I would go get a second opinion. This stuff matters too much :hug:
 
I will write more later I only have a minute, but I'm pissed for you MrsPTTC!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

I've never heard of someone on clomid only for this long. So no IUI? No IVF consideration untl after 6 months of clomid only and what a few IUIs after that? You need a more proactive doc in my opinion. Please don't take offense, but we're not 21 anymore, doc!!!!!!!!
 
Can I just say - over 100,000 people have viewed this thread! (Ok so some of thjose will be us, but even so, that is a hell of a lot of people!)
 
MrsP, that is absolutely ridiculous. I don't care what his reputation is, he's being a jack ass to you. Can you really find no other doc? I would not go back to him. :nope: I'm so sorry you're going through that. My OB gave me clomid and said come back in 5 months. If it doesn't work by then, it's not going to work. My RE said not to after 2 or 3 months. :shrug: I would push for an IUI soon if it were me. Hopeful's right, we're not 21 anymore.
 
Aw hon I'm sorry :hugs: These ladies are right, you need a new doctor. I hope you can find a better one soon :hugs:
 
Oh my god Mrs. Max dh and I watched B&G since season one. I mentioned it on a thread here when I first arrived and was chewed out. So I have kept my thoughts on it to myself. We are a bit behind this season so I'm gonna spoil it for dh! Lol I am so happy they got a host. I am so relieved for them I might cry. It's so touching in that way. Their struggle has been an inspiration. Okay just running in to say that. Fx fx for you Mrsmax love your story. Keep the faith!

Be back later!
 
MrsMax- I hope the reflexologist?? is onto something! Yes, I used to watch that show and am just thrilled for them!!!!

And I love Chopped!!! - Whoever was talking about that channel! When I was home sick in bed I would just watch marathons all of the time.
 
@RP – Thats strange.:shrug:..GL for your test, hope the tests come clean...!!! What CD are you on..? tryin anything new..?
Thanks! CD 2 now. AF showed yesterday. Only thing new is we're taking a break from opking, charting symptoms and CM testing. Just bding. Kinda NTNP.
How do you know you're out if AF didn't show and there was no test? Sorry if you explained this already. I didn't see it or didn't understand.


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So ladies I have just about stopped crying. DH came with me to the appt, bearing in mind he knows nowt about the ins and outs of TTC... I hated the Dr AGAIN, thought he was condescending. Thinks I'm being ridiculous about the spotting and he's told me time and time again it's normal. When I had my progesterone checked that month he said I definitely didn't ovulate and it wasn't just low progesterone. I told him my gut instinct is I was ovulating most months, I think he took offence to this and basically said something along the lines of, if that's the case then we shouldn't get any help until 2-3 years! If my bloods had of come back I did ovulate, that's what they would've said, come back when it's been 2-3 years. I took this as a threat, either believe him that I'm not ovulating or piss off... He said we could go forward with IUI and clomid, follicle tracking and trigger but they usually suggest clomid for 9-12 months. If I am ovulating fine on clomid then he doubts IUI will help any more than naturally. He also mentioned at one point we could go with IVF now but as this is a last resort if it didn't work in 3 rounds then that's my chance gone, also as it takes time to prepare for IVF then it would be a few months we couldn't TTC. So the end result is, another 6 months of clomid with follicle tracking again on round 1. I asked about it thinning my lining and he said yes it might but if it does there's nothing they can do :shrug:. He said to stop tracking my cycle except how long it is, stop checking what day I'm on, for ovulation signs, spotting etc.. So I came out, got my clomid from the pharmacy and cried, argued with DH and cried some more. DH thinks the bloke is nice as pie and is just direct. Maybe I am being too sensitive but I think he's a knob. I've thought about changing hospitals or Dr's, but this bloke is the top dog at this hospital, has a good reputation, and this hospital apparently has the highest IUI success rate in the country... At least I won't need to see him again for another 6 months I guess! :haha: Oh and he gave me some interesting statistics - 60% chance on getting pregnant within a year of clomid, 60% chance with 5 IUI cycles, 60% chance with 3 rounds of IVF - so he said "don't underestimate the pills." Whatever :growlmad: lol x

Mrs. PTTC, So sorry hun.:hugs: It sucks when you're vulnerable and the one person you're trusting thrashes you in the heart. I kinda feel that way about dh's FS not so much that he's a jerk but he's so non-chalant and doesn't seem to think we'll get pregnant with our current status. Yeah, it's honest but it's negative. To me a good dh inspires a level of hope in his/her patient. Bed side manor makes all the difference. Also not sure how it works with your hosp/clinic but you will have to work with the FS for quite some time. If he's like this now can he be trusted to be better later? I agree with others in saying that another FS may be better. Maybe you can try at the same hosp? If not maybe somewhere else is just as or almost as good.
We've had 4 FS all together. lol So as you can see I am all in favor of second, third and even fourth opinions. Give it some thought. Sorry he was a jerk. Hope everything works out. Never accept no for yourself as the final answer when it's the first answer. Hang in there :hugs:
 
Well, to be honest I am not 100% sure because I left the thread after that week and never returned. But one of the main things said was that they are celebrities, they have money, they're exploiting their lives by being on television...when there are real people out there who struggle with infertility who gain nothing from it. I personally was offended because I really admire B&G for sacrificing their privacy to shed light on the pains of TTC. Also, money can't buy fertility. Yes it can possibly buy a baby (if you look at crassly), but fertility is something very personal and extends beyond just having a child to call your own. I guess it's a tricky topic. Well, I learned quickly to keep certain things in my journal, because you never know what people are going through.

Afterwards, I understood that it may just have been the wrong day that I posted or just that whomever was going through a rough patch in ttc so I didn't take it personal in the end.
 
I like reality tv every now and again. It's a tiny bit exploitative but... we watch it :haha:

I can't help watching 19 Kids and Counting or Sister Wives mostly because they are such nice people with huge families!

As long as we don't start watching real life Hunger Games I think we are fine :thumbup:
 
lol Hakuna! That's what I'm talking about!:friends: lolol O:)

I find the Duggars very interesting, but I haven't watched in awhile. Yeah I have my guilty pleasures which is surprising because I tend not to be a fan of reality tv in general. But the educational stuff works. I also like the drama ones but usually can follow them about one or two season before I'm like...sigh not another fight between such and such. It becomes childish to me.

But dh & I love B&G. Their story resonates with us.
 
I haven't seen it, is it on Netflix? I'll have to check it out. Probably without DH :haha: Mostly because DH likes action and comedy and not the expressing of feelings. We are currently watching game 7 of the Bruins and he's in hog heaven.
 
I watch it on tv links. I haven't seen it on Netflix yet.

Awww sounds good. I actually went to my first hockey game last year. Quite interesting.:thumbup: Btw I had no idea what Bruins were...I asked DH :haha:

I haven't seen it, is it on Netflix? I'll have to check it out. Probably without DH :haha: Mostly because DH likes action and comedy and not the expressing of feelings. We are currently watching game 7 of the Bruins and he's in hog heaven.
 
I cant believe people were so unsympathetc to B&G on here. Like you, I think it is fantastic that they shared their story with everyone - it sure helped me to feel a bit more normal seeing other people go through this. I've heard of threads being bitchy, but I guess I have been lucky so far and havent seen much of it (but then I try to staty to the few I know and then read other threads but not get involved).

Makes me realise how lucky I am to have all you lovely ladies - everyone is so kind and supportive whatever stage of TTC they are going through :kiss:
 

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