Early 30's TTC #1

[Aisak]

Jogu: i.completely.understand.

In the time i have been trying 4 of my good friends got pg. Without trying or within one month of trying. My other who already had kids conceived them just as effortlessly. It's pretty isolating and sad when you're the only one REALLY trying (FS, peeing on sticks, bbt, blah blah blah) and they're working on number two while you're still trying for your first.

What you're feeling is totally normal, i think. This shit is hard. People who haven't been through it don't get it.

 

[readyORnot]

Can't believe I turn my back for a second and come back and MrsMax has a BFP!!!! Congratulations hon, it's about time.

Big hugs to those who are having a bit of a hard time at the moment.

 

[Regalpeas]

I wonder how Soleil's fairing out right now. Does anyone talk to her outside of bnb?

 

[rosababy]

I wonder how Soleil's fairing out right now. Does anyone talk to her outside of bnb?

I was wondering the same thing. SB, we miss you!

 

[finallyready]

Congrats MrsMax!!!

I haven't been on B&B in a while and thought I would pop over to see how you beauties are making out! This group has come a long way and I know there is even more positive news around the corner. Take Care!

 

[MsJMouse]

It is raining - again! - here in the UK. Can someone from a hotter place please send some sunshine to the south coast - please!!

My friend at work today commented that where i live is having almost european temps in the morning - 1-2C but I must admit it is getting to about 22-23C during the day. Hope it has stopped raining in the UK.

 

[mrsmax]

Hi guys

Not a happy post I am afraid. I had spotting yesterday evening which turned into red blood. DH rang A&E and they said unless it was bad enough to soak through a towel and/or I had bad pains to sit tight. I cried all evening expecting the worst.

Overnight, I didnt have cramping or bleeding, just brown spotting. I woke up and temp still high(ish) and I puked twice. Still assumed all over.

Just rang clinic and spoke to one of the nurses. She said it didnt sound awful and lots of people get it. They have moved my scan from Thursday to Tuesday next week and just told me to rest and if I bleed heavily during the weekend to go to A&E. I cant believe life can be so cruel to make DH and I go through all this.

Am taking the day off work and praying for the best, but expecting the worst.

Sorry for such a downer post on a Friday.

 

[MsJMouse]

MrsMax - hoping and praying that everything is okay and the blood is nothing to worry about. One of the ladies at work had a lot of bleeding during her first trimester but it ended up okay and she now has a beautiful baby boy. Hopefully it is just a clot to the side of the placenta or something like that.

Sending you lots of positive vibes and

 

[pink80]

MrsMax - I've got everything crossed for you, you'll be in my thoughts xxx

 

[mrsmax]

Thanks guys - it just sucks that I have really bad morning sickness - like rubbing salt in the wound. My bro and his wife are coming this weekend - I dont want to cancel them cause I only get to see them 2-3 times a year and havent seen them since Christmas. was hoping to break th good news - but guess we wont be now.

Still, there is a glimmer of hope....here's hoping.

 

[jogu07]

HelloLadies....

Thank you so much to each one of you for your soothing words, it really made me feel better...I am still shaken and not able to get over it, I say God why me God why me...!!! Sorry for being such a downer but guess this is the best place wherein I can vent and feel better..!!!

MrsMax.....Dont worry, you are in my thoughts, hope its just MS and nothing else...!!! Stay strong and positive, I know its easier said than done however I am sure its a sticky bean and praying God for that...!!!

Lots of sticky baby dust to you...!!!

Love you all...!!!

 

[mrsmax]

Jogu

This place in my saviour. I would have lost my sanity a long time ago if it wasnt for this place

So far no bleeding this morning. The waiting is hell

 

[MsJMouse]

yay for no bleeding! mrsmax. Bring on tuesday.

 

[rosababy]

Oh mrsmax sweetie. How much spotting was it? Spotting is very common but definitely rest. I'm praying for u. Glad it's stopped for now.

 

[mrsmax]

Thanks MsJ and Rosa

Rosa - the spotting was more than what I would think of as spotting. It was enough red blood to scare DH and convince both of us it was all over - but, the red blood only happened once and then I just had regular brown spotting. Light spotting over night, and pretty much nothing so far today. It is horrible just waiting to bleed again - not knowing what is going on. On one hand, this could be ok as people do have small bleeds, but it could all be over. After 2 years of disapointment I guess us LTTCers always think the worst.

Have been dozing on the sofa all morning - feel bad about work as I have missed so much recently, but sometimes you have to look after yourself first.

Hoping to report good news - if I dont bleed for another night, I might start feeling slightly better. love all you guys x

 

[Crumbs]

mrsmax, you are in my thoughts! I heard that it's common to get some spotting early on - I'm hoping that's it and your little bean is holding on tight. Get some rest and take it easy and don't forget to drink tons of water.

 

[hopefulmama2b]

MrsMax I know how scary it is to see blood when you're pregnant. And no matter what people tell you, you will still worry and that's ok. It really does happen to a lot of ladies and mean nothing- I know that's not too comforting though.

I had some spotting this pregnancy after DH and I had DTD. That put a stop to that. I also hear of some women having it when they're taking progesterone because you're putting the meds up by your cervix. Not sure if you're on progesterone, but that's a common cause too. There are a million reasons and sometimes there's no reason. Keep your head high and "try" to enjoy your guests this weekend. Tuesday will be here before you know it. I'm telling you- two of my friends had torrential down pours of blood, one of which lasted months (subchorionic hemotoma) and both of their babies are here and healthy. Just have faith and you'll know more Tuesday. I pray that it's just one of those things and on Tuesday will you get to see your bub. I don't know for sure, but my guess would be that the bleeding would continue and be accompanied by cramps if your body was trying to mc.

 

[mrsmax]

Thans Hopeful - logically I know that stuff is true. It is nice to hear it from someone else though. Beginning to look forward to seeing my brother and his wife - they are great fun and at least should offer a distraction and/or support.

 

[rosababy]

It's good that you'll have a distraction. hopeful is right...do you have cramps? my sil is a midwife and she said unless it's heavy heavy flow AND with cramps, you're probably fine. Our cervixes are really sensitive. She said every time she dtd she bled a lot. (so why on earth would she continue to do that?! I guess because she knew it wasn't a problem, just a sensitive cervix, but she's more gutsy than I am.) Anyway, VERY glad to hear you're not spotting anymore and do not give work a second thought. YOu need to do what's best for you right now. Keep us updated.

 

[rosababy]

Oh and my sil's advice was to stay off your feet as much as possible for the next few days. I would do like modified bed rest. cAn you do that with your family in town?