Early 30's TTC #1

[arianne]

Aww Rosa you are such a cutie! So pretty! You are gonna make really cute bbs!!

 

[rosababy]

ever think that maybe those couples want to have a bunch of kids? If that is the case, and they are using NFP to get pregnant instead of avoid pregnancy, i'd say it's working for them.

seriously, though, rosababy is right - learning an NFP method really helped me get to know my cycle.

Absolutely you're right! Just back then, I was immature and not thinking about babies. NOW I realize they probably wanted a big family. Good for them! They figured it out!

 

[Crumbs]

Rosababy & piccolo 32 is the new 22! Chin up, I'm turning 34 in Sept (yikes)!

arianne I love reading about your advice and your experience with meeting with the pros. It seems like you've been really pro-active throughout the process. Your BFP will come soon!

Finallyready I totally agree with arianne, you should count this as your first true month trying!


As for my poor husband, charting is def stressing him out. Last night I came to bed late and when I hugged him, he woke-up and immediately reached for the thermometer! It was only midnight! In the morning he kept waking up checking the time, I told him it's OK to just wait until his alarm goes off and he said, "I know, I'll get used to it soon." Poor guy!

He said he had dreams about ovulation facts and forgetting to take my temp. He's really laying it on thick ... I'm really starting to feel guilty cause I know he's not just saying it

I think I'll relieve him of his duties and do it myself. Poor, abused man!

 

[finallyready]

Alright, even though it feels like Cycle #6, I will start the count over as Cycle #1.

 

[rosababy]

Thanks, Arianne! It's fun to put a face with a name sometimes.

Crumbs, your dh is so cute! He sure is laying it on thick, though!! What a trooper.

 

[nativetexan]

Happy Friday, Ladies! You all were some busy bees on here yesterday. I was slammed all day and hardly had any time to check in. AF is on her way out the door. Almost time to start trying again (and waiting).

On Wednesday, I met up with a gf of mine who is also ttc. She's been trying for almost a year now and was feeling pretty low. It's so hard to see a good friend feeling that way. She's going next week to get her tubes and uterus dyed and checked, but she feel like it's a progesterone deficiancy. Anyway, if you will, keep you fingers crossed for her.

 

[fides]

Absolutely you're right! Just back then, I was immature and not thinking about babies. NOW I realize they probably wanted a big family. Good for them! They figured it out!

ha ha! i wish my husband and i could figure it out!

 

[rosababy]

Absolutely you're right! Just back then, I was immature and not thinking about babies. NOW I realize they probably wanted a big family. Good for them! They figured it out!

ha ha! i wish my husband and i could figure it out!

LOL! Me too!! We will, just evidently not on our own time schedule. You're on the FAITH thread, too, right?! Good to see you on another thread!

 

[fides]

LOL! Me too!! We will, just evidently not on our own time schedule. You're on the FAITH thread, too, right?! Good to see you on another thread!

Yep - i posted over there, and i'm 32, so this seemed like another good place to jump in.

honestly, i am SOOO glad i stumbled upon this site yesterday - we don't know any other couples having any problems popping out babies whenever they'd like.

SOOO glad to see some strong women online who are struggling!

 

[rosababy]

One of my friends mentioned to me last week that loads of people have trouble conceiving, they just don't talk about it. That made me feel better, because I was starting to think I was the only person I knew (not counting BnB site!) that was having trouble! Come to hear that most of my friends took quite a while to conceive. 9 months to a year, actually. But you're right, it is very nice to be on a site like this and vent our irrational worries!!

 

[finallyready]

Broke down today at 11dpo and got a ! It's okay though, as I have a big exam on Monday! It was driving me mad thinking I could possibly get BFP that I just had to know! So now that I know it is NOT happening this month, I can focus on what I need to do to make sure I pass this exam.

Therefore, I am taking a few days off from this site so I can focus on getting done what I need to do and can stop obsessing over TTC. Hopefully arrives sometime next week and then I can get back to business in Feb!

Good luck to those of you that are still in it this month, and hopefully when I come back on I will see that one of you got their !

 

[nativetexan]

Finally- Sorry about the BFN, but good luck on your exam!!

 

[rosababy]

Finally, 11 dpo is still early...how long is your luteal phase usually? I say keep testing until AF comes!

Good luck on your test!

 

[arianne]

I am 14 dpo, and AF is supposed to show up on monday.... I just realized that my luteal phase is very long I have been reading that it could be a problem, but still not sure about it... anybody nows? I think my luteal phase is always about 15-17 days!!! :S My cycles are always about 28 days, so it means I always ovulate really early

Rosa! where is your pic??

Finallyready 11dpo is so early! you never know! I hope there are lots of bfps in this site too!!!

Crumbs I have been going to the 'pros' since I was 28! I was always terrified by the idea of having a problem conceiving... which I am having

 

[rosababy]

Arianne, oh I got suddenly paranoid since this is a public forum, so I took my photo off. I dunno, I'm weird about that kind of stuff!

 

[rosababy]

Not because I"m worried about my buddies that I chat with, but because any Joe Schmoe can come on here. I'm sure it's fine...

 

[piccolo]

Arianne don't freak yourself out! I don't know much about luteal phase, but I do know that the idea of a "luteal phase defect" is somewhat controversial - not all docs believe that it is actually even a factor. So take a breath. From what I've read 15 days doesn't sound bad at all. Did you show your chart to the specialists you've seen?

 

[arianne]

piccolo not yet, becuase this is my first month charting,... I will once i go see her again, but it will likely be by the end of march, as she wants me to go after I have done the hsg xray test...

rosa, I know! that is why i put a silhouette of my back

 

[Soleil Breeze]

Oh, well; guess it won't be CD 17 this month. Why should it be?

Crumbs, I loved the DH temping story; it bought a smile to my face - thanks!

Piccolo, I'm a grad student and so much of what you wrote, I could have written. This whole idea of planning things out (Arianne with her DH, too) and having "good" times to get pregnant it and not so good times...You know what? I am so glad that I didn't get pregnant when I wanted to...this is my final semester (one class, one field exam left and conference papers to write) before I start the diss., and I KNOW that I wouldn't have been able to handle it if I had a little one right now.

So I'm actually thinking, maybe the universe has it right? My "timeframe" would have sucked. Now, of course, I'd love to get pregnant ASAP, but I'm no longer interested in it for this month. Am I nuts? Perhaps. But "after" February would again be fine for me. Maybe if I say I don't want it enough for this month it will happen. ?! Unlikely, but, again, I'm okay with it. I suddenly have this incredible urge to do fieldwork overseas.

Two little blurbs: pill - I don't know that it messes up your fertility. Yeah I was on it for well over a decade...but everything checks out with me (except for elevated blood sugar levels). You gals have to consider that the DH ain't always up to par, so-to-speak. Plus, my mom was on the pill for nearly 7 years, came off, and within two months was pregnant with me. I think everyone is different and we can't blame it all on the pill. And I'm saying this as someone who is technically "infertile" (if we use the "year" mark).

Second blurb: not having your own biological child doesn't mean you'll be childless! There's plenty of little ones out there who need love/parents. That's what we're going to do if hubby and I can't have. We'll adopt. We'll be the next Jolie-Pitts - okay not that far! (and we certainly don't have the money!)

Wow; this was long. Sorry ladies.

 

[Soleil Breeze]

Oh, Arianne - luteal phase stuff - don't be worried. Supposedly if your LP is too short, then even if you get pregnant, the baby won't have time to implant before your lining starts shedding. I used to have a 10 day LP, but over the past 18 months I'm now at 14 (minus the spotting beforehand). 15 sounds good to me!

xx