Early private scans - worth it?

[Jennifurball]

That is what worries me and why I can't wait until 12 weeks - I don't want to think that all this time I have been posting here and thinking of names etc, that the poor thing didn't even have a heartbeat.

Glad your scan went well this morning - how far gone are you again?

 

[singers_love]

I had an internal because they said you could see things alot better, it didnt really make any difference because once I was looking at the pictures, I couldnt have cared less!

 

[mummy2be123]

With my son I had loads of private scans my first one was at 6 weeks 6 days and it was SO worth ever penny. I've been bleeding since sunday night (my 2nd pregnancy) and I also bled last week I tried to get a private scan but nothing until wednesday I have an appointment at the EPU tomorrow so I may as well wait until then its soooo hard waiting. I would have a scan its reassurance xx

 

[Jennifurball]

Good luck!

OH is saying no now, we can't be handing over £99 now when we only have to wait until Nov for a free one, that is terrible! I just don't know what to do now.

 

[zozarini]

Just book one! hehe. He will love it once you go and see that little HeartBeat.

I am also going to be booking one for when i am at the 8 week mark. I wont let my pregnancy sink in until i see that little flicker of a heart xx

 

[Jennifurball]

I feel the same, I also think if everything is ok at the scan and he sees little baby and HB, it will feel more real for him and bring us closer because my hormones and worry are driving us apart and it is really upsetting him.

 

[kat2504]

If you can't afford it then I would recommend waiting. I know it is hard, especially when you read of people over in america who are getting scanned by 6 weeks, and over here you have to wait till 12 weeks. But if you have no pain, no bleeding, no problems, you just need to hang on! The first trimester is very anxious for everyone and I can tell you that having two early scans for medical reasons this time has not made me worry less really!
You will need the money further down the line for baby stuff so if it is too expensive for you to afford, I think you should give serious consideration to waiting. Thankfully it is rather rare for people to turn up to the 12 weeks scan and get bad news. Mostly if the pregancy has miscarried, it will happen before that point.
If you really want the scan, sit down with your OH and explain to him how anxious you are and that you want the scan to make you feel better. I think you need to make a joint decision on it though and not just ignore what he says and book it anyway, especially if money is tight for you.

 

[Jennifurball]

Thanks for your reply.

Money isn't really an issue, with what I am saving not drinking wine will pay for it!

He just worries too much about money, but for me it isn't about the money at this stage. I know everyone has the horrible long wait but it is making me feel nervous all the time and poor baby won't be liking it.

I will be 12 weeks on 29/10, and I want my private scan on 2/10, do you think that is silly or worth it in case something is wrong?

 

[kat2504]

It won't change it if something is wrong. They can't make it ok no matter how early they spot it. Last time I was pregnant I had a scan at 8 weeks and basically paid to be told I was about to miscarry. the advantage was I could get it over with quicker and "waste" less time being pregnant still.
If nothing is wrong then it will still be ok at 12 weeks. If something is wrong, it has a very high chance of letting you know about it before that point.
There is a very good chance that your pregnancy is perfectly healthy! As I said, the first trimester is nerve wracking for everyone. It's totally normal and worrying isn't harming the baby.

Men do worry about money when there is a baby on the way, it's part of their "role" I suppose, they worry about how they are going to provide for you and the baby.

If you think a scan will help you then go for it! But talk it over together so it will be a nice event for both of you not something to have a row over.

 

[Jennifurball]

Thanks.

He has agreed to come if I really want it, he just thinks the money could be put away for better things like a pram etc, but I want to know we have something to save for.

Hate being so negative, the odds are much more in our favour really, just the bad stories stick in our heads!

 

[1948LC]

I had an early scan two weeks ago when I was 9 weeks for £80.00! It was well worth it, I had been feeling unusually ill and just knew something was different ( I already have 2 DD's, and felt absoluteley fine with them, maybe slight sickness at the begginning with my second) and found out I am having non identical twins.

I have an Angelsounds doppler and from about 10 weeks I have been able to hear the heartbeat, and I can hear a heartbeat now on each side, I think!!

My OH was moaning at me for getting an early scan done (due to money) but I did his head in that much he said fine, as he was working away he couldn't come with me and he was ringing my phone before i'd even come out of the clinic, so he obviously wanted to know, what a shock he got!! x

 

[freddie]

Jennifurball - I am so like you, I just worry that I could wait til 12 weeks only to be told bad news, I am not willing to put myself through that!! I keep telling myself it is more likely to turn out well than to turn out badly which is important to remember I have a scan booked for two weeks time, I will be 8 weeks and I feel like the reassurance will help me to relax a little bit and start believing that I am actually pregnant and there is a real baby in there! Then I can really get excitied You are obviously worrying about it so just go for it!!