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Good luck babyface!

Pebbie- well thanks to the formula Louis's weight is back up to normal so that's the main thing. She seems to think I'm just going to be one of those women who can't breastfeed. She's suggested pumping when I can rather than every 2-3hrs and offer baby the breast before each formula like I've been doing and pump after he's finished. By emptying the breast I should make a little more and she thinks one breastfeed a day is more than enough to start with so store my milk up over a day and give him ebm as his last feed of the day. I personally think she knows that my milk will dry up completely soon and by then I'll have settled down with formula.
I've got a support group in Wednesday so I'm hoping that will help with my latching on.
When we arrived at the Mw we bumped in to a couple we met through our antenatal class who were in hospital at the same time as us as well. She ended up with a emcs and has had the exact same problems as us. They switched to formula and haven't regretted it at all. Still not sure what to do.
I want a happy contented healthy baby but at the minute he's far to frantic for that. I'm conscious that if we don't respond to his needs correctly now he won't learn to trust us if that makes sense.
 
they slowed a bit for me to manage another few hours of broken sleep. I can't sleep through them but they were coming about every 30 mins. but I'm up now and ready to get things moving. hope it speeds back up again :) thanks everyone! will update later
 
Zfbaby it's hard isn't it? With Marielle I couldn't feed either. It was very stressful. See what the support group says and if they can help. You can't blame yourself for not trying though, so well done for that!
 
Good luck babyface!

So sorry ur not getting on to well zfbaby, pebble has given u some great advice.

Still no signs for me.
 
No signs for me either. In fact after having cramps for 5-6 days they seemed to have stopped yesterday so if anything it feels like I am going backwards.
 
How's it going babyface?

So I felt flu-ish the other day. It got worse and worse and I developed a fever last night. So we called and the out of hours doctor came round. He said no mastitis as I didn't have a red patch on my boob. So he gave me antibiotics anyways as I had such a high fever. Woke up this morning and I have this big red, boiling hot patch on my right boob and it was really sore. So it was mastitis after all!! Wish I didn't wait 4 days to call a doctor. Anyways, I feel a bit better already and 1 more sleep till my mum is coming over tomorrow!!!! I've not seen her since February and can't wait :)
 
uh I think I'm stuck in early labor. I just had a bunch more of my show and am getting contractions but they aren't becoming frequent enough. I just went on another long walk. hope this doesn't go on for too much longer!! xx
aw hope your mastis clears up quick with your antibiotics pebbbie!
 
I think my plug is starting to come loose! I know that doesn't mean labour is close but it is a good sign.
 
How's things going BF? And Pebie, how are you feeling?

Omi, good news about your plug, all good signs!

Still no signs here, not a cramp or show to be seen! Due date tomorrow, then midwife on Wednesday to book induction at 42 weeks. Very scared about being induced.
 
How you all doing? Any new babies for the thread x
 
Not much more here still. My plug is at best coming loose not fully away. I was really hoping it would happen before this weekend so I don't make it to my appointment just before 41 weeks and DH could make the most of his paternity leave. I pre-washed all my newborn nappies and DH put the crib together yesterday so we are a little more prepared when it does happen though.

Anyone else got some promising signs or a baby yet?
 
Nothing here, I have a sweep tomorrow tho and I have a feeling it be wed/thur il give birth! ... But you never no...

I bought my first tub of formula yday and I'm guna get the steriliser ready fr when I get home ...

Here's a bump picture
 
I'm still here! :p
my contractions keep picking up, then slowing, then stalling, then picking up again. I think its happened about three times so far.

I have my biophysical exam today to check on my placenta and the baby and they will begun to talk about induction dates. contractions have picked up again since about three AM but are still only about 15 mins apart. we'll see what happens at my exam! hope things don't stall out again today xx

clh I can't see a picture!
 
Good luck baby xx

Zf- I am in a very similar situation. I cried when I read your post. I am so sorry you have had such a rough ride - all resulting from conflicting advice. I second what omi said - trust your own instinct. It is your baby. Make sure you get help if you start to feel depressed / post natal.

Breastfeeding is soooo difficult. I too thought it would be easy to just feed my baby. Huh. Matilda had a tongue tie, I produced too much milk but she couldn't latch - literally just sucking on my nipples. Poor little thing was starving. Every night 12-6am crying with hunger, clawing her face in frustration and head butting my boobs. The midwife cut it on Saturday and she had a really good feed off one breast, but my other nipple fell apart in her mouth (I literally had to fish out part of my nipple) far too painful to carry on so introduced formula. Cried my eyes out and felt like a failure. But actually she is feeding and much happier.

I am expressing but only one boob as the other is still too sore. Expressing and formula feeding is a lot of work.

Don't feel bad zf. We are doing what is best for our babies. We can still bond with lots of skin to skin.
 
Nobody should feel bad at not being able (or not wanting) to breastfeed. I know I have no first hand experience so not really qualified to comment, but I know how difficult it can be for various reasons, and I have vowed not to put any pressure on myself to succeed at it whatever the cost. Life with a newborn is hard enough!

In other news, no baby yet, due date today, and I just woke up choking on my own vomit. Scary, scary, scary :-(
 
Sorry you have had a rough time too passion. I do wish women were told how hard BF'ing can be because I remember the shock of how hard it was really hit me hard last time too. :hugs:

That does sound scary Little Ducky. I almost choked while vomiting with MS in this pregnancy, I started to black out and fall to the floor and it only came free just in time. Horrid experience. I felt a bit shook up for a day or two after it happened, hope your feeling okay after it happening now.

No sign of anything happening here either. I am starting to feel fed up and ever passing hour brings my consultant appointment on the 5th that bit closer. I am genuinely just starting to feel stupid and angry at myself for drawing this out by not booking a repeat c-section originally because I now feel sure that is where I am heading again. I really wanted labour to happen naturally and get a VBAC but it feels like it will never happen. :nope: I have a MW appointment tomorrow but I don't think much is going to happen but the regular checks however my normal MW is on holiday so it is with someone else. At least my new house is closer to the GP's office so it will only take a few minutes to walk there.
 
Well I'm now 3cm, soft and really favourable, she expects il give birth within a couple days but she will call Friday to see and if not book induction
 
passion4shoes said:
Good luck baby xx

Zf- I am in a very similar situation. I cried when I read your post. I am so sorry you have had such a rough ride - all resulting from conflicting advice. I second what omi said - trust your own instinct. It is your baby. Make sure you get help if you start to feel depressed / post natal.

Breastfeeding is soooo difficult. I too thought it would be easy to just feed my baby. Huh. Matilda had a tongue tie, I produced too much milk but she couldn't latch - literally just sucking on my nipples. Poor little thing was starving. Every night 12-6am crying with hunger, clawing her face in frustration and head butting my boobs. The midwife cut it on Saturday and she had a really good feed off one breast, but my other nipple fell apart in her mouth (I literally had to fish out part of my nipple) far too painful to carry on so introduced formula. Cried my eyes out and felt like a failure. But actually she is feeding and much happier.

I am expressing but only one boob as the other is still too sore. Expressing and formula feeding is a lot of work.

Don't feel bad zf. We are doing what is best for our babies. We can still bond with lots of skin to skin.
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It's ridiculously hard and tiring too. When he cries and puts his hands to his mouth for food I want to die I feel so bad for him. I'm producing a bit more milk but not enough to properly feed him and he still won't latch on, just pulls on the end of my nipple which is soooo painful. When I take him off to reposition him he screams and puts his hands back in his mouth so I can't latch him back on. Or he goes on really well and then pulls his head back so he slides back on to the nipple.
He's been checked for tounge tie and it isn't that so I have no idea why he won't latch.
I really feel for you knowing why was wrong and having everything else sorted but not being able to do anything about it. Watching them starve and get so upset breaks your heart.

How can nature make the most basic of needs so difficult to produce??!

We are mixing between formula and breast. I'm expressing in the morning, afternoon and night before bed. But I'm so tired I don't really express at night. I've started to wake up in pools of milk though so I think im going to have to go back to expressing in the night too. It's so frustrating trying to preempt what he will need to eat. I put him on the breast first when he's hungry or wakes at night and dh makes a bottle up to top him off. Sometimes he falls asleep before the formula is ready and it gets wasted but then wakes again for more before I've had chance to make any more milk but after the formula is safe to drink. He's done the same with ebm and I end up wasting what's taken hours to pump.
He never seems calm enough for skin to skin so were not getting much of that either :( if he's bots crying from hunger, it's wind or being changed or something else I haven't worked out yet. :shrug:

I'm waiting for that feeling of joy to kick in and although I love him I'm so frightened of him sometimes it's hard to feel that true sense of joy. If that makes sense.

I really hope it all works out for us. :) xx
 
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