End of May 2013 babies CONTINUED..

[pebbie1]

Hello ladies!
So I decided to talk to my husband last night and he was feeling that things weren't going great. He admits his priority is work and the business where as my priority are the kids. The business will have to wait until the kids are sorted and happy. So that's one point where it goes wrong. He admitted he's a bit lazy around the house and called it a typical man thing as its easier to chuck stuff on a pile in the corner instead of putting them away. He said he's trying to do things right but he feels he's running uphill and not getting anywhere. He's trying to make me happy but has the complete wrong priorities so instead of making me happy he's pushing me away. He's always snapping at Marielle as he's so frustrated with himself and he never wants to hold Markus and just puts him in the bouncy chair, hoping he falls asleep. That makes me furious, especially the snapping at Marielle and I get really protective over her.
When I feel like this I always really struggle with not living with my family anymore and it makes me miss them really bad and I blame it on my husband as I moved away because of him. I know it's unfair but when you're just pissed off with someone it makes you feel that way. So we are going to work on it. It won't be fixed overnight but we'll take it step by step.
X

 

[Zfbaby]

Egggh the royals stole our names! Great now it'll be totally overused.

 

[pebbie1]

Wow zfbaby, you should've given him 3 names for the bingo and called him Louis Alexander George! All names fit for a king so your little Louis is like a prince now too

 

[Zfbaby]

Funny thing is I said to dh the other day hiw annoying it would be if they called him Louis but I was only joking. It's like I'm psychic!

 

[Zfbaby]

Having an issue getting Louis to sleep in his basket. He will sleep on our chests and sleep in his boppy but nowhere else. Tried propping mattress up and using a hot water bottle etc but as soon as he hits the mattress he wakes up crying. I'm not happy with him sleeping in his boppy unsupervised so I'm having to stay up all night. Really can't do that anymore. Thought maybe the reflux is causing an issue or the basket felt too clausterphobic for him but then he likes the closeness of being in the boppy and is fine lying flat during the day. Really not ready to put him in a cot in his own room and the one we want is out of stock anyway. How can I make him think he's being held or in the boppy but safely so he wont suffocate?

 

[pebbie1]

Have you tried swaddling? Or get one of your pillow cases that you've slept on and has your smell and use that as a mattress cover? Markus really didn't like his at the start but we just kept trying until he stayed in it longer and longer. I also put him in it during the day downstairs so he'd get used to it. X

 

[babyface15]

oh pebbie so glad you talked it over. it must be very hard to be away from family and I think I would feel the same if I were you and felt my husband wasn't involved enough. my husband tends to try to put her down in her chair or her playpen whenever I give her to him too. it really annoys me because I want him to want to spend that time bonding with her like I do all day. he does sometimes but I guess I'm so attached to her I can't imagine not wanting to spend all his time with her after being away at work all day.
I hope things get better for you guys xx

zfbaby what a coincidence, now he'll have to say, 'no no the price was named after ME' lol

is the boppy the breastfeeding pillow? i bring calla into bed with me on the morning and plunk her down in mine. I think it's safe as long as you're next to him (or watching on the monitor) and he's on his back right in the center & up onto the pillow a bit so he can't roll over onto the bed. I wouldn't put calla in it if I wasnt next to her in bed but I haven't had any trouble like that and we sleep that way for a few hrs every morning.
I hope it's safe at least! any one else sleep like this??

 

[pebbie1]

Markus sleeps in his Moses basket till the early morning feed and then prefers to be in bed with me and really snuggles up against me. I love it! But I don't really fall asleep after that and just snooze. The period when he didn't want to sleep in his cot we did co sleeping. But I made a "nest" with a duvet cover so he was sort of lying in it with his legs sticking over so he couldn't turn. Think we slept like that for 1-2 weeks and then he liked his Moses basket so he went in there. X

 

[Little Ducky]

Ally will only sleep in his Moses basket at night, and he has to be in a good deep sleep before I can out him down in it.

Really struggling to get Ally to take his bottles at the moment, he'll do the first half fine & then he just loses the plot! Its like he forgets how to drink, he cries if you take it away, he cries when you put it back in his mouth! Its a nightmare!

 

[Zfbaby]

Ally will only sleep in his Moses basket at night, and he has to be in a good deep sleep before I can out him down in it.

Really struggling to get Ally to take his bottles at the moment, he'll do the first half fine & then he just loses the plot! Its like he forgets how to drink, he cries if you take it away, he cries when you put it back in his mouth! Its a nightmare!

Ducky,
This sounds EXACTLY like Louis!!!! Did you see the post with the list of feeding behaviours for tongue tie babies? It's like reading about Lou! Have you tried paced bottle feeding? It's made a massive difference to how much Lou will take. It's gone from 1-3oz max to 6-7oz and it's now taking less time. It's still about an hour but before it was 2hrs. Does he make gagging sounds or a noise like a man drowning and gasping for breath? Can you hear the milk hitting his tummy and gurgling? Or does milk seep out of the sides of his mouth?
Louis would drink 3oz in one go sometimes and you'd think it was going well then he'd spaz out and refuse to go back on.

Baby- Sleeping in the boppy when you are not able to watch them closely is not recommended because they can slip between the sides and suffocate. I've read a few horror stories. Lou is sooo wriggly because of the gas that he's always moving inside it and often slips down. Last night he slept in there until we went to bed then I managed to get him in his Moses until his 2am feed.

It's the same here pebbie. I can get him down in the basket if he's in a deep deep deep sleep but once he wakes for his 2/3am feed that's it and I have to start off with him on my chest then lower him down to my side and co-sleep. I can't seem to picture the nest you were talking about. Any chance of a picture?

Bloody knackered. Last night I got maybe 2 or 3 hours and the night before it was an hour!! I was awake doing house work and watching movies the rest of the night.

 

[OmiOmen]

Glad you both talked and are trying to work it out Pebbie. My husband is not much help either, he didn't became any help with DS1 until he was about 2 and could properly communicate with him.

Zfbaby I did think I would feel a bit sorry for anyone who had named their child the same name before they said what it was. I think you will probably be okay though because most people will use George now more than his middle names.

I agree with trying getting your smell near them. CJ wants to be on me all the time now and in the day I have realised if I put the cloth I use over my shoulder when he is upright next to him when I put him down he is more likely to sleep. I don't do it on a night because I am not watching him but I am seriously considering sleeping with his fitted sheets.

I have reached that point where I am seriously questioning why on earth all babies are not born with teeth! We have at least 2 cut now and he is not happy about it.

 

[passion4shoes]

Oh my god zf I didn't even click. How bloody annoying!

Glad you spoke to your hubby pebbie. I don't regret leaving (my life now is fab) but I do regret that I didn't even talk about it. Have you put in a plan of action?

I am so glad you mentioned the car seat baby! Seriously wtf? The media is praising him for doing it so quickly (duh it just clicks in!!). There was no newborn head support and what way were the straps done up?!

 

[pebbie1]

No plan of action yet. We're just both going to think about how we can make things better so we're happy again.

I thought the same about the carseat straps! He was swaddled and then put in the carseat and the arms weren't in properly as he was swaddled. And clearly an isofix. I even said to hubby that you just click it in place as he was impressed with how quick it went. Not rocket science that! Would've loved to see him fiddle with the seatbelt with hundreds of cameras taking pictures lol!
One newspaper said how surprisingly refreshed Kate looked. Errrr any woman would do after a visit from the make up artist and hairdresser!

 

[Zfbaby]

Also how pathetic that their swaddle blanket had sold out company wide!! Ridiculous.

 

[Zfbaby]

So I've just ordered a Wesco baby nest cushion, it kinda looks like a giant pumpkin cushion. If anyone gets a chance to Google it I'd be interested to hear If you think Louis could safely sleep in that instead of his boppy??

 

[Little Ducky]

Ducky,
This sounds EXACTLY like Louis!!!! Did you see the post with the list of feeding behaviours for tongue tie babies? It's like reading about Lou! Have you tried paced bottle feeding? It's made a massive difference to how much Lou will take. It's gone from 1-3oz max to 6-7oz and it's now taking less time. It's still about an hour but before it was 2hrs. Does he make gagging sounds or a noise like a man drowning and gasping for breath? Can you hear the milk hitting his tummy and gurgling? Or does milk seep out of the sides of his mouth?
Louis would drink 3oz in one go sometimes and you'd think it was going well then he'd spaz out and refuse to go back on

Yep, ALL of the above! Exactly as you describe. I asked HV about tongue tie but she said he was sticking his tongue out a bit & moving it around in his mouth so he wouldn't be tongue tied. I'm at a loss as to what to do, he's SO hungry, going through the 6 week growth spurt, all he wants to do is drink and he can't! Its awful

 

[Zfbaby]

Oh my god I think it must be catching, I could kill dh!!
I haven't slept more than an hour or two since Monday night so he could sleep for work. He promised me I could have tonight to relax and sleep and he would look after Louis. In reality he can't do a bloody thing on his own. How do I manage to make bottles and change nappies on my own all day? hes just sat on the sofa with lo who is getting upset wanting to feed and dh just wants to watch tv??! I told him he's hungry so he asked Me to make the bottle!! I haven't sat down for more than a minute all night. He also said he would stay with baby downstairs tonight so i could sleep uninterrupted but has now decided he wants to come up to bed which means I'll be doing the night feed or at the least get woken up. I've stayed awake all night for the past few days so he can sleep in peace and now it's my turn he wants to sleep too. So unfair! Sorry for the rant. Ehhhh men!

 

[Zfbaby]

Ducky,
This sounds EXACTLY like Louis!!!! Did you see the post with the list of feeding behaviours for tongue tie babies? It's like reading about Lou! Have you tried paced bottle feeding? It's made a massive difference to how much Lou will take. It's gone from 1-3oz max to 6-7oz and it's now taking less time. It's still about an hour but before it was 2hrs. Does he make gagging sounds or a noise like a man drowning and gasping for breath? Can you hear the milk hitting his tummy and gurgling? Or does milk seep out of the sides of his mouth?
Louis would drink 3oz in one go sometimes and you'd think it was going well then he'd spaz out and refuse to go back on

Yep, ALL of the above! Exactly as you describe. I asked HV about tongue tie but she said he was sticking his tongue out a bit & moving it around in his mouth so he wouldn't be tongue tied. I'm at a loss as to what to do, he's SO hungry, going through the 6 week growth spurt, all he wants to do is drink and he can't! Its awful

I was told the same and it's not true. Most hvs

 

[Zfbaby]

Ducky,
This sounds EXACTLY like Louis!!!! Did you see the post with the list of feeding behaviours for tongue tie babies? It's like reading about Lou! Have you tried paced bottle feeding? It's made a massive difference to how much Lou will take. It's gone from 1-3oz max to 6-7oz and it's now taking less time. It's still about an hour but before it was 2hrs. Does he make gagging sounds or a noise like a man drowning and gasping for breath? Can you hear the milk hitting his tummy and gurgling? Or does milk seep out of the sides of his mouth?
Louis would drink 3oz in one go sometimes and you'd think it was going well then he'd spaz out and refuse to go back on

Yep, ALL of the above! Exactly as you describe. I asked HV about tongue tie but she said he was sticking his tongue out a bit & moving it around in his mouth so he wouldn't be tongue tied. I'm at a loss as to what to do, he's SO hungry, going through the 6 week growth spurt, all he wants to do is drink and he can't! Its awful

I was told the same and it's not true. Most hvs are not even properly trained to check for them especially if they are subtle or posterior. Where do you live ducky? I would go to your gp and insist on a second opinion or a referral to a lactation consultant. I believe they are trained to identify them. Some babies will get used to their new tongues instantly once it's freed some take a long time to learn so the sooner he is checked the better. If nothing else it rules it out but it certainly sounds like Lou.
Louis is still learning although using the new method is helping loads (he had 9oz in 30) earlier!!! We've also notice he's stopped snoring and his breathing is less laboured.

 

[pebbie1]

I had a look. It's well cute! Does he fit on it completely or are legs sticking out? And how far does he sink into it? I'd say just try him during the day in it and see how he gets along? If he stays in it comfortably without rolling over/out then it shouldn't be a problem at all