Engagement rings?

[Serene123]

Hope this is in the right section

I'm not engaged (yet...) but I really want to be! My OH picked out a ring he wanted to get me a long time ago and as much as it means to him because he picked it out and I loved it, it's so bloody expensive. I'd be just as happy with a ring out of one of those machines and I don't want to wait forever but I want him to be happy too.

So, firstly, how much does what your ring looks like matter?

Secondly, did your ring mean something to you before you got it? (I think it's more that they give you it that makes it special, right?)

And lastly, how on earth do I convince him to get me a different one?

Watching four weddings makes me want to cry! I want that. I love him, and I want to marry him and I'm fed up of having to correct people when they call him my husband or call me Mrs. O

Helpppppp!

 

[Vici]

My engagement ring means more to me than anything! It didn't cost alot (just over £200) but my OH chose it himself, went and bought it himself and proposed on the beach as a complete suprise!
I think it matters a certain extent what it looks like, but only to you. I see some rings that people have paid £000s for and theres no way they'd go near my fingers!! Its all personal taste.
Is your thought that you could have a cheaper one and get engaged now whereas waiting for the other one would mean waiting to get engaged? x

 

[Serene123]

I know he wants to do it now and we're saving for this bloody ring but I'd rather just have a cheaper one and get on with it

Am I being stroppy, selfish and impatient?!

 

[Boothh]

i agree with you, my ring wasnt expensive dont know exactly how much but i know it was roughly £300, OH went and asked my dad permission without me knowing then bought the ring n took me for a meal and proposed on the way home i love love love my ring and £300 was too much imo cus we couldve put that to so much better use than a ring!

i think if your on your own just the two of you and have no responsability then you can justify spending loads but once you have a LO, house,bills etc its just not realistic! xx

 

[Serene123]

I already have an expensive ring, my eternity ring. I love it, but I would love it and cherish it just as much if it was cheap because of what it means to us.

I'm stupidly looking at wedding dresses. Now they are expensive

 

[booflebump]

I adore my ring, and feel lost without it on. Like a little piece of me is missing. It does matter a little how it looks as you have it on for life. But it doesnt have to cost a fortune xxx

 

[polo_princess]

I adore my ring, and feel lost without it on. Like a little piece of me is missing. It does matter a little how it looks as you have it on for life. But it doesnt have to cost a fortune xxx

I agree with Boofs, mine only cost £1,000, but OH picked it out himself so it means more than any amount of money to me

I would wear a £1 ring if he picked it himself

 

[Missy89]

I agree it doesnt matter how much it cost, when we were talking about if we would get engaged my OH asked how would he know what I'd like so I pointed out about 100 rings that were between £20 and £20,000 and told him I only liked white gold, and didnt want a band with a dimond in the middle as I wanted it to be completly different from anyone elses and told him it had to be cheap enough for me too replace it if I lost it!

Still have noooo idea how much it cost but I don't care if he got it out of a christmas cracker! I love it and its very unusal so im happy!

If you want a cheaper one to have it sooner maybe find a cheaper one and tell him youve found an even nicer one than the first one you seen

 

[Boothh]

I adore my ring, and feel lost without it on. Like a little piece of me is missing. It does matter a little how it looks as you have it on for life. But it doesnt have to cost a fortune xxx

I agree with Boofs, mine only cost £1,000, but OH picked it out himself so it means more than any amount of money to me

I would wear a £1 ring if he picked it himself

only £1000!!!! bloody hell you could go on holiday for that!! see for us we struggle and if we had £1000 theres so much stuff we need that id feel guilty having it spent on a ring!

plus what if you lost it! i hope its insured!! xxx

 

[Serene123]

I've just found loads online for £200-£400. The one he wants to get is £2.5k! That would take ATLEAST a year to save for with how much I spend on Caitlyn..... Because my eternity ring is platinum he wanted to get a platinum engagement ring too but I don't care what it's made out of. White gold is more than good enough for me! I'm fed up of waiting. I've saved all the links on his computer hopefully he will stumble accross them. Not that he's ever on the computer for long.. Fingers crossed hey?! Maybe I will make a subtle "don't look at my favourites," hint

 

[buttonnose82]

My engagement ring means the world to me, on our wedding morning when i gave it too my sister to wear before the service i just felt naked and lost without it, it was horrible!

We went looking for my ring after he proposed as he was so worried about getting me one I didn't like, but I let him very much take the lead and well I adore what he picked. He too picked a expensive ring and I tried to get him to pick something cheaper but he refused because he loved the ring and well, when we put it on my finger we both just fell in love. He did get money knocked off for paying in cash there and then so worth looking into, we saved £250 that way!

And just remember you can't put white gold next to platinum they corrode

 

[Pops]

I have no idea how much my ring cost but I know it wasn't cheap BUT I also know that it wouldn't bother me if it was a fiver, what is important is that Boyo chose it himself and so much thought and planning went into it and it is a symbol of "us".

Explain how you feel about it but try not to push it.....he may have it all planned and just be waiting....I had NO idea that Boyo was going to propose when he did!

xxx

 

[aly888]

I think it's nicer to not know how much a gift cost!? But like everyone else has said, the cost is in no way important. If you have a grand or two laying around (and who actually does?! ) then I dont see the problem with spending it, but I wouldnt want to save up for something that can be bought for a few hundred quid. You've got the actual wedding day that you can save up for

My friend at school got given a ring from a charity shop...but it was a proper retro style and perfect for her. The fact that her OH thought about 'what would be perfect for her' rather than 'how much shall I spend' made it so much MORE romantic Of course, if you are someone who would be perfect with a £25,000 diamond on your finger then you could be waiting a while xx

ETA - I dont know how much my ring was, but I know it wasn't alot...£2/300 at most

 

[booflebump]

I have no idea how much my ring cost but I know it wasn't cheap BUT I also know that it wouldn't bother me if it was a fiver, what is important is that Boyo chose it himself and so much thought and planning went into it and it is a symbol of "us".

Explain how you feel about it but try not to push it.....he may have it all planned and just be waiting....I had NO idea that Boyo was going to propose when he did!

xxx

We were clueless werent we Pops? I found the receipt for mine (oops) so know how 'naughty' Mr Boofs was but the fact that he saw the ring and knew it was 'me', the one he had to propose with, straight away is far more important than the cost of it.

If you want to wear your eternity ring on the same finger as an engagement ring, you are best to get the same metals. White gold is softer than platinum and would get rubbed away.

xxx

 

[Serene123]

Didn't know that about the metals....... Oooo... Maybe we will have to go platinum then! Good bye plan

 

[aly888]

Didn't know that about the metals....... Oooo... Maybe we will have to go platinum then! Good bye plan

haha, you sound devestated hun

 

[Serene123]

I'm just... fed up of trying now. Never going to get married, never going to have another baby............................................................................... BLERGH


I need a hobby!

 

[maddiwatts19]

my ring cost less than £200 (i think..) but it means everything to me because he chose it all by himself, and i know its the ring he wants me to have, and the ring that will symbolise the start of the rest of our lives. just try sitting down and talking to him, tell him that price doesn't matter, you love him and will love anything he gets you! you will get married, and you will have another baby hun, just sometimes these things are shitty and take time xx

 

[aly888]

I'm just... fed up of trying now. Never going to get married, never going to have another baby............................................................................... BLERGH


I need a hobby!

as the saying goes..."never say never" You might be someone who doesnt have a long engagement. You never know, he might propose then you might set a date just 6 months on from then

If you want a hobby, I've got a stack of baby clothes that need sorting. That should keep you quiet for a while xxx

ETA - Maddie, how cute is your ticker at the moment...'1 year, 1 month, 1 week, 1 day'

 

[Serene123]

I know Maddi, I am just PMSing lol x