My sister has been with my brother in law for 23 years & nobody in our family can relate to him or feels any closeness to him. He is a bit of a twat who thinks he is better than everyone else and because he has the personality of a sand-fly he is extremely difficult to get a conversation out of. In fact, I just don't bother & he is pretty happy with that arrangement too. We all get the impression that he would rather brown nose to people who are more educated than himself. Anyway, it was my sister's decision to marry him and start a family, they are both misers so have a lot in common
My conundrum is that I don't want my daughter calling him uncle as I don't feel any closeness to him. Would it be wrong for her to call my sister aunty & him by his first name? Their children call me aunty and refer to my OH by his name but we have only been together for 2 years & the kids are 9 & 7 so that is understandable.
The other thing I should mention is that his mum attends all our family get togethers as her husband passed away a couple of years ago and she has no other family here. She is a lovely lady & I'm not sure if she would find it strange that our daughter doesn't call him uncle although she would never say anything.
My conundrum is that I don't want my daughter calling him uncle as I don't feel any closeness to him. Would it be wrong for her to call my sister aunty & him by his first name? Their children call me aunty and refer to my OH by his name but we have only been together for 2 years & the kids are 9 & 7 so that is understandable.
The other thing I should mention is that his mum attends all our family get togethers as her husband passed away a couple of years ago and she has no other family here. She is a lovely lady & I'm not sure if she would find it strange that our daughter doesn't call him uncle although she would never say anything.