WackyMumof2
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So I had my 20 week ultrasound today and was expecting the sonographer to confirm as we'd been given 60% at my 12 week. Bad idea. Another . Hubby is so upset. I made the mistake of taking 60% for sure as she was right with DS3 and I wish I hadn't. Poor hubby is heartbroken - not because baby is healthy because that's what is most important - but because after 10 years he still doesn't get his little princess. And I feel bad for him even though he keeps telling me it's not my fault. I know it's not but I got his hopes up which is why I feel bad. We knew that the odds were 50/50 but with 3 boys that girl probably was unlikely. And my MIL didn't help those feelings of his by saying that we will have to try once more because she WANTS a Granddaughter! I mean, really?! While us having a 5th or 6th is a possibility, it will NOT be because of what she wants!! Way to go about making your son's feelings all about you! I'm sorry but this is MY body and if ANYONE is going to decide it will be myself and hubby and it will be dependent on my health as to whether my body is capable of carrying and birthing 1 or 2 more children!
It could be worse I know. There could have been something seriously wrong. I am pretty sure I am done with 4 but just seeing hubby today really upset me. This baby is loved already and that will never change but he's just always wanted his own baby girl. Hubby would like to consider trying once more later down the line (maybe) but I've asked him to let me finish my studies and get a couple of years behind us first and we will re-discuss then. We know my age is against me with me being 33 when this little boy arrives but I want that stability of a career behind us too. We KNOW that the chances of a successful (or even healthy) pregnancy are against us now but we are willing to possibly try once or even twice more.
It could be worse I know. There could have been something seriously wrong. I am pretty sure I am done with 4 but just seeing hubby today really upset me. This baby is loved already and that will never change but he's just always wanted his own baby girl. Hubby would like to consider trying once more later down the line (maybe) but I've asked him to let me finish my studies and get a couple of years behind us first and we will re-discuss then. We know my age is against me with me being 33 when this little boy arrives but I want that stability of a career behind us too. We KNOW that the chances of a successful (or even healthy) pregnancy are against us now but we are willing to possibly try once or even twice more.