Excruciating natural m/c

[Rachsi]

Hi all excuse my ticker cant get rid.

Had natural m/c i was 11 weeks but foetus had died 6 weeks, opted for natural, so was just a case of waiting for it to happen.
WELL, contractions started yes aft and got progressively worse untill they were EXCRUCIATING!!!!!!!!!!!!!!! coming every minute and this lasted 7 hours, they finally got shorter and weaker & i was able to lie down on my side, my mum rubbed my back and i felt a plop in my uterus, loads of blood came out so i went to toilet & had passed our baby. The pain had subsided & i now just feel very sore. It was the worse experience of my life, and the pain unbearable, my mum rang the hosp & they told her m/c pain can be worse than labour!!!! At least i know what contractions feel like now!!!! EXCRUCIATING!!!!! I would never want to go through that again.

A millionm thanks to my mum bought her a boquet today, it wa so upsetting for her to see me in taht state!!!

Anyone who has experienced similar i would like to know your story, as i have not come across any stories of natural m/c being that painful!

All comments welcome

 

[millymolly]

So sorry to hear the sad news of your recent mc...you have obviously had a traumatic time........

Its good to know that you were not alone...your mum was a great support!

I had a medical managed mc in May. I had had spotting for a few days at 9 weeks but a scan showed LO had died at 8 weeks + 2. (missed mc). I decided to have tablets to induce the process because I did not want to go on waiting, not knowing how long my body would start to mc naturally (It can sometimes take quite a few weeks). They gave me tablets to speed up the process. I was in a side room at the hospital and my DH was with me. We did not have a bed but a reclining chair. I had quite a bit of pain and couldn't get comfortable. I kept walking around to keep 'things' happening in an attempt to get it all over and done with. The pain 'doubled me up at times' and my DH tried to help but I did not want to be touched. I kept moving around and focused on my breathing as I did when I was in labour with my 2 sons' (many years ago). The bleeding increased and then the pregnancy sac came away complete after about 3 hours...sorry for tmi! I had to have some pain killers afterwards because the pains intensified for another 3 hours. However, once the pain became bearable, the nurse allowed me to go home and everything eased off over the next few days. I did bleed for 2 weeks but it wasn't that heavy.

(Unfortunately, I havnt got my mum anymore and most friends were not supportive, some because they didn't know what to say or do, but with my DH and now BnB, I am learning to cope with my 2 mc)

I hope that you feel better soon... look after yourself, I know it takes time to recover from a mc....especially emotionally.

x

 

[sammie18]

Im so sorry to hear about your loss, I shouldnt have read this thread Im 11wks now and im scared the baby isnt alive. I think I might be thinking like this because I havnt gotten a appointment or a scan yet..

 

[BlackBerry25]

I had a horrible natural miscarriage. Sorry if this ends up being a long post.

It started when I was 10 weeks, and I was at work and went to take a pee. I wiped and there was a lot of blood. I started hyperventilating and called my OH at home but I couldn't say anything. Finally he figured it out and told me to come straight home. I ran out of the bathroom and told the lady I was working with that I was sick and I had to go home. No one at work knew I was pregnant.

My OH took me to the ER where I waited in the waiting room for 6 hours with no food or drink and had cramps. The bleeding stopped pretty much when I got there, and I decided after about 5 hours that I just wanted to go home. The nurse told me that I had to sit and wait and I could not leave, that I was under hospital care now and how would I like it if my baby died at home. She was the biggest bitch ever.

Finally I was seen by a doctor who did some quick blood tests and said my cervix was still closed and that since I was having my first ultrasound the next day, to wait until then to see what was going on. He sounded pretty optimistic and it kinda made me regain hope.

The next day I went for my ultrasound and they wouldn't let my OH came in. I had started bleeding again, and my stomach hurt so bad from drinking all the water for my test. I was crying in pain, and they told me to let some pee out. Anyways, they wouldn't let me see the screen and made me go back to the waiting room with my OH. Then the technician came out and just said go to emergency they have a room waiting for you. I had no idea what was going on. I got dressed and went there. A doctor then just came in and said your miscarrying, there is nothing really to do, it is best if you do this naturally.

It took almost a full month before I finished miscarrying. I would bleed huge amounts that would fill the toilet. I went back to work after a week, and I would have to come home because I would bleed through those huge jumbo pads. I had big blood clots coming out and felt weak all the time. If I took a bath to relieve the cramps, I would have to get out right away as it was disgusting the amount of clots that would come out. My doctor told me to stick it out and if I bled more then a certain amount an hour then go in to the ER. I was scared of the ER and never went it.

One night I felt really sick, with a fever so I drank some Nyquil. Which was a bad idea because I hadn't eaten. I woke up at 5 am, with the shakes and horrible contractions. My OH woke up to find me laying on the ground, in my underwear, naked and sweaty. He ran out and got me some food. By the time he came home I had passed the sac and I instantly felt better. I had no more bleeding, no more clots. I guess my body just took a very long time to empty itself.

Soooo...yeah. Thats my story. With that pregnancy, I knew something was wrong from the beginning, but no one would listen to me. I hid my pregnancy from everyone except certain family members. I did get pregnant one cycle later, and here I am.

 

[TTaylor]

We suffered a miscarriage on our wedding anniversay back in 2006. I was approx 11.5 weeks along and knew something was wrong from about 7 weeks because I had no more PG symptoms. The doctor booked me for an ultrasound and was unable to find a heartbeat but thought perhaps my dates were off and told me to wait it out.

I started the occasional brown spotting at about 9 weeks and continued, without pain nor any blood until the night it all happend.

I fell asleep downstairs on the couch and awoke to the worst contractions I had ever felt and I just knew. I got up and headed upstairs to find hubby, leaving a trail of blood up the stairs. I woke him and told him to call an ambulance. I knew there was no way we could wake all the kids. So I told him to just let me go to the hospital now becasue the pain was unbearable.

I waited for the ambulance to arrive while I sat on the toilet. My hubby and I were both crying our eyes out. I was passing huge clots and bleeding so heavily that there was a steady stream of blood that wouldnt stop. Even the ambulance driver was worried about how heavy the bleeding was.

I got the hospital within 5 minutes and was taken in right away. I waited to see the OB for about an hour while in the ER room and I was having contractions about 1 minute apart lasting for 1.5 minutes each. The Nurse said it was common for the body to go into labour during a misscarriage when it thinks its that far along. Then I suddenly felt my body pushing, and I passed a very large clot that I refused to look at. The nurse told me not to be scared that it wasnt a baby, more or less it was just tissue and she took it away. The pain never stopped!

Problem was the bleeding wouldnt stop either. Apprarently I started to lose consciousness and I could hear the nurses calling for the OB and it was an emergency. Their voices were in and out, next thing I knew I was being wheeled out of the room and into an operating room, then I was out.

I guess I was bleeding so severly that I had to have an emergency D&C to stop the bleeding. I have never been in so much pain in my life, and I have born 3 children naturally.

Many of us have gone thruough what you are going through and sympathise. Please take good care of yourself.

I found talking about it helped me heal.

I wish you all the best. (((HUGS)))

 

[maybebaby]

 

[jerseyshoregirl]

I am so sorry for your loss. I had a natural m/c two lWednesday nights ago. I was 8wk4d. I took Tylenol beforehand and while I had painful contractions, they were bearable. I, too, felt relief after passing the fetus. Physically I am recovering well and I hope that you are too. Better to go natural than risk your fertility with an invasive surgery. I hope your heal emotionally as best you can and that you have all of the love and support you need through this difficult time. My thoughts are with you. JM

 

[cherylanne]

I had a natural m/c and the pain was so bad i couldn't seem to catch my breath!!! It only lasted about an hour though. After i passed the sac the pain eased, it was still really painful for about 5 hours, but easier to deal with.

I am so sorry for your loss hun. It is really painful and unfair.

If you need to chat PM me xxx

 

[porkpie1981]

 

[Suzanne]

Never experienced anything like this before hun but just wanted to say that im sorry for your loss and that you had to go through so much pain! Please know you are in my thoughts at this time!

 

[Vicky2806]

Hi honey

Well as you can see from my ticker I am now 8 months pregnant but there has been a lot of heartache before this.

I had a healthy beautiful baby boy in 2003 but very sadly he passed away in Feb 2004 at nearly 7 months old to meningitis.

I left it nearly four years before I felt strong enough to try again then last year got pregnant after we decideed the time was right. I started bleeding so went to hospital who booked me in for a scan - I should have been about 11 weeks but the sac was only measuring 6 weeks - they thought I could have messed up my dates so booked me in for a scan the following week although I knew in my heart something was wrong. Well the bleeding gradually got worse until the day before I was due to go for a scan I started having contractions extactluy the same as you and bleeding gettin worse - I can tell you cause av bin thrugh labour the pain was excrutiating and exactly the same as contractions - they got closer an closer together until they were bout 30 seconds apart (this all happened over the space of approx 8 hours) and then all of a sudden stopped. I stood up and then felt something come out ran to the toilet and my baby had passed.

It was a horrific experience and I really feel for you

But decided not to give up and now I am expecting again although I worry every day I am so grateful and happy - hope this gives you a little bit of hope that you can and will be happy again. XXX

 

[wantababybump]

I also had an excrutiating natural miscarriage (with some assistance but I will explain) back in December '07. I woke up early Christmas morning and noticed some blood in the toilet with little clots. I just knew at that very moment everything was over. I was 10 wks but they think fetus died at 6wks ish. I crawled back into bed with mild cramping told my husband Shawn that I was losing the baby. He didnt believe it and said it may be nothing but said if I needed to go to the hospital then we would go...I said no because if I was miscarrying there was going to be nothing anyone could do and I wanted to enjoy my Christmas morning so took some tylenol and went back to bed. Later that morning I started getting cramps worse than when I first had woken up to the point I actually ended up going to the hospital and they did some digging and tried to remove a bit of the clots. I felt a bit better and they took my blood and confirmed my HCG levels were low and that I was miscarrying. I went back home and we went to Shawns parents for supper and while I was eating, my cramps were worsening. Shawns mom gave me a hot water bottle to put on my stomach and back and it eased the pain some. By the time we got back home and I was relaxing now with 2 hot water bottles, one under my back and one on my belly, the pain became excrutiating making me cry and scream...It hurt so bad so back to the ER we went at 11pm ish. Waited for a long time then finally got in and told them I was in a lot of pain and was losing a lot of blood. I was filling a pad within a half hour. I filled about 4 or 5 pads I think thoughout the entire wait. I remember lying on a gurney (spelling?) in the hallway of the ER in so much pain and crying my eyes...asking why I was going through this and if I was miscarrying my baby why didnt I just hurry up and miscarry so I didnt have to go through anymore pain. I finally got into see a doc and they gave me something for the pain in needle form and then started the procedure...the pain killer made me feel so much better and the pain subsided. He got all of his gadgets ready as if he was about to give me a pap smear and then cleaned up the clotting. He pulled out a massive clot and said he believed it to be the fetus and said that the reason I was in so much pain and bleeding alot was because I have a tilted cervix and the fetus was stuck. Because my body was trying to expel the fetus but couldnt I was bleeding alot more to try and push it out but it just wouldnt budge and was causing all the pain. After that they took my HCG levels again and the bleeding somewhat subsided and I went home. It was an awful experience and the pain was unbearable and especially knowing that you arent going through all the pain for a good cause (ie giving birth) I didnt have anything to bring home from that just the memory of him taking out the fetus or embryo (as I think that may have been the stage it was still at) and putting it into a pill bottle thing. It was truly terrible. I had another miscarriage in June '08 but I didnt have a natural miscarriage...I couldnt go through the pain again especially since the fetus was at 14wks gestation so I had a d&c and some of the pain I had to go through with that was fairly bad but nothing compared.

sorry for your loss hun.

 

[x_Rainbow_x]

iv had 4 that bad. so bad with one i passed out.
i m/c 3 at home and 1 in hospital. my last i was in a state of labour for 4 hours i had a special pill 2 dilate me as my cervix wuddnt open i had 2 pass my angel in 2 a bed pan so they can disect it.

iv done 4 in a row in 18 months 3 on my own 1 with my partner.

1st mc - baby died at 6 weeks i was 8weeks
2nd m/c - baby died at 7 weeks i was 11 weeks
3rd m/c - chemical pregnancy
4th m/c - baby died at 7 week i was 10 weeks

my motot- what doesnt kill you makes you stronger

 

[gem]

I had a natural m/c after a failed ERPC (my cervix was too tightly closed) the weekend before last. It was a horrible experience. I too had lots of pain and bleeding, pretty much the same as you described. I was 12 weeks but the baby had died at 10 weeks but had stopped growing at 7. I was shocked at the pain and what passed out of me. I too felt everything. This was my 2nd m/c. With the first m/c I had a successful ERPC and had hardly any pain or bleeding. I have to say though my body has got back on track alot quicker this time. I went for a check-up scan 6 days later and when they checked my ovaries there was a big follicle. I was told I was due to ovulate in the next couple of days! After the ERPC I still had pregnancy hormones for 6 weeks after and my periods didn't return for months.

 

[daniella00]

Im so sorry to hear about your loss.

I miscarried in September at nearly 18 weeks. It was so painful. Just like my labour to my daughter who is now 8 years old!

Id forgotten how painful labour is!!

The nurses gave me morphine and some other pain relief i cant remember but it didnt work!

Thinking of you xxxx

 

[JASMAK]

I am so sorry for your loss. I have had three natural m/c's, so I can def relate.

 

[Drazic<3]

Im so sorry for your loss.
I understand what you mean by the pain. I put my story in the 'my miscarriage story' thread. Im so sorry, i would post again but im feeling very weak today. I just didnt want to pop by wiithout sending my love

 

[mjbazz]

hi there i like you chose the natural way it was 3weeks on wensday, i had a spot of blood on the tues nite so went for a scan on the wens at 2.30 found out my baby had died at 7weeks 4days i was suppost to be 12weeks, so we came home and everything seemed normal

thursday morning came and there was a lot of blood and clots i new i had passed something but not sure what, and had moderate period type pain
by 2.30 the pain got worse and i was in like you excruciating pain i cudnt stand still i was white as a ghost couldnt speak and pain killers wasnt doing anything ive never had pain like it EVER it was painfull, it lasted for 4 hours and then i felt a pop and water gushed everywhere i think then i passed the baby and again i was very sore and very tired,
i have my hospital appointment on wensday,

i hope my reply helps you
sorry for your loss
x x x x x x x x xx x

 

[Kevsgal]

So sorry for your loss. I had a natural m/c with terrible, agonizing contractions at 15 weeks. It felt exactly the same as when I gave birth to my little girl except there were no urges to push this time round.
I had been bleeding heavily from 7 weeks and was almost expecting a m/c so I had researched it quite a lot. The labour pain came as a shock to me as it wasn't mentioned in the miscarriage information leaflets/websites etc I'd read. It's left me wondering if pain isn't usually experienced in most m/c?

 

[ClaireyF]

i had a natural mc in July, Earlier that day docs had told me everything was fine, cervix was closed and had even had a scan and seen hb, i knew deep down that it wasnt right. i started to have sharp contraction pains at about 3am in the morning and did not know what to do. i have never felt pain like before! i went in to work the next morning and was standing up talking to a collegue when i felt my baby come out of me. i went up to the toilets and saw the sac in my kniickers, i didnt know what to do! i ended up flushing it down the toilet...something i have regretted since the moment i did it! i rang hospital and they didnt want to see me and told everything would be fine. i went in the next day and they told me that id mc and that i had got rid of it completely so didnt need D&C. I have never felt so empty, angry, frustrated ...everything! i'm now pg again and have a scan tomorrow and so worried. i dont know what i'd do if it happened again. i think you ladies are so brave and hope you all get BFP and have happy & healthy pregnancies when your ready xxxxxx