extended bf-ers

[apple_20]

Excellent well done we weent night weaning as such but she is extending her first sleep so now she's goes 7- 1am/2am then has a feed and back dine till roughy 5am for a feed in bed until we get up, she goes 7am-5pm with no mummy milk as I'm back at work. Been a rough transistion but she will drink small amounts from the beaker now

 

[Bevziibubble]

That's great, well done!

 

[Hayley90]

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[JenX]

How's everyone doing? I finally got my daughter down from a minimum of 5 daytime nursing sessions plus nursing to sleep, in the night, and when she wakes to only 1-2 per day plus the same night/morning sessions as before. This is huge for us. I feel like I don't mind night nursing (we cosleep), but I am so ready to be done with daytime nursing!

 

[Bevziibubble]

My daughter has really increased her nursing lately. I think my milk dried up at one point so she dry nursed for a while but now she says some milk is back, and she is just obsessed. She would happily breastfeed all day if I let her. She wakes every 1-2 hours at night and wants to stay on the boob for ages. Sometimes she will get very upset and aggressive if I try to remove her. I've never heard of a child this age being so obsessed with it. I'm due baby #2 in just over three weeks and I've no idea how we are going to make night time feeds work as I can't feed two children lying down. I just hope she isn't too possessive, although she has already said she will share and has chosen 'her boob'

 

[twobecome3]

now that we're done in the night, I'm working on daytime. I will try and distract her, offer her a snack instead, etc. some days we feed more than others I figure if she's easily distracted she's fine, but when she is poorly or having a rough day we nurse more. lol Bev yes mine can be quite aggressive about it too, when she is moody she will keep going back and forth from side to side, climbing over me etc. when she gets like this and I put a stop to it she will sometimes bite/scratch in protest.


oh god Jenx I just couldn't cope with the night time feeds anymore! she was feeding more than ever, literally would be unlatched for a few moments and then back on, climbing over me to switch sides, now that we've weaned I don't know how I managed for so long being woken 30x in a night. crazy what you get used to!

ill admit I was out of sorts for the first couple weeks, missed the cuddling in a night at the same time I guess. its a complicated thing! this past week she has woken once per night where she needed a quick rock back to sleep, and had a waking here and there where she would just sit up and then cuddle in.

 

[luna_19]

My guy is down to just before nap and bedtime but I'm pretty sure it was so easy because I have been dry for almost my entire pregnancy! I'm hoping he doesn't want to nurse more.when my milk comes in again twice a day is just perfect for me

 

[too_scared]

Kiddo doesn't nurse much in the day anymore. Usually only when we try for a nap and then before bed. He also nurses when he wakes at night. That can be anywhere between 1-4 times a night. The past 5 nights it's only been 1 time! It's been nice. His sister has coordinated her wake ups with his so it means if I didn't have this darn cold I would have been getting 5-6 hours at a shot! Hopefully it continues when we're all better, too.

Finn doesn't get violent if I don't nurse him in the night but he gets very upset. I haven't not nursed him but sometimes his sister is nursing when he wakes and he has to wait. He sometimes waits happily but sometimes he will cry. It all depends on how awake he is.

He's started nursing at night and then turning over to go to sleep when he going to bed. He used to fall asleep nursing and I would unlatch him. Now sometimes he'll unlatch himself and then move around the bed some and then go to sleep. Also, overnight he will sometimes just reach out and touch my chest rather than waking all the way to nurse. He'll rest his hand on my chest and then go back to sleep. I'm wondering if he's starting to self wean.

It's awful to say but I'm so ready for him to stop. I've had terrible aversion since I got pregnant with his sister. I won't wean him because I'm nursing his sister and I don't want any resentment or jealousy caused by me nursing her but not him.

 

[JenX]

oh god Jenx I just couldn't cope with the night time feeds anymore! she was feeding more than ever, literally would be unlatched for a few moments and then back on, climbing over me to switch sides, now that we've weaned I don't know how I managed for so long being woken 30x in a night. crazy what you get used to!

ill admit I was out of sorts for the first couple weeks, missed the cuddling in a night at the same time I guess. its a complicated thing! this past week she has woken once per night where she needed a quick rock back to sleep, and had a waking here and there where she would just sit up and then cuddle in.

Oh wow- I would have put a stop to that too! My LO nurses to sleep (about 5 minutes) then sometimes again right before I fall asleep. Sometimes there is one other nursing session in the night, but a lot of times not again until around 6 am. So it is not bad at all for me.

 

[JenX]

My daughter has really increased her nursing lately. I think my milk dried up at one point so she dry nursed for a while but now she says some milk is back, and she is just obsessed. She would happily breastfeed all day if I let her. She wakes every 1-2 hours at night and wants to stay on the boob for ages. Sometimes she will get very upset and aggressive if I try to remove her. I've never heard of a child this age being so obsessed with it. I'm due baby #2 in just over three weeks and I've no idea how we are going to make night time feeds work as I can't feed two children lying down. I just hope she isn't too possessive, although she has already said she will share and has chosen 'her boob'

I don't know how you do it- that would drive me nuts! It must be so hard on you. Glad she's at least agreed to share!

 

[apple_20]

We are down to morning 5pm and 7pm in the day but night is still hit and miss. She's poorly again and up every hour for the last two nights. It's torture. Still don't feel I can wean as whilst I'm at work she only takes sips of water from a beaker. Barely any. I don't know what would be the best for her. If I wean she could start drinking more in the day but If it doesn't then I've gone through a lot if stress for nothing.

 

[apple_20]

Just thought if update she just started drinking water in the day of her own accord, I guess she got thirsty!! Still have regressions when she's poorly but generally she goes without breastmilk whilst I work in the day. Other positive, still no af for me! 15 months and going strong.

 

[luna_19]

That's great!

We are still going strong, toddler is nursing before nap and bedtime and was thrilled when my milk came back. My hubby is being a dink about the situation he's convinced that he will still be nursing when he's 5 *sigh*

 

[Bevziibubble]

We are now tandem feeding now baby has arrived. It is going much better than I thought and Holly has taken to things really well with no jealously. She still feeds through the night but only quick feeds and she will unlatch and go to sleep when I tell her that's enough boobs now, whereas previously she got very angry about it.
I'm still not getting much sleep but I cope so much better with it now that I'm not pregnant and I feel more energetic despite getting less sleep.

 

[apple_20]

Sorry that your husband if being an arse Luna, I think it's hard for them to understand afterall it's not something they will ever experience, I'm glad both your children are happy though!
Bevzibubble congratulations on your new bundle too. Impressed with the tandem feeding!

Can't imagine sharing my boobs with another baby. My little ones been poorly recently and refused all other solids and liquids apart from breast milk. If I had weaned her she might have ended up dehydrated a friends boy with the same virus was nearly hospitalised, so yay for extended breast feeding!

 

[Wnt2beAMom]

My son just turned a year but is mainly still EBF. He just wont eat food if I'm around.
I've gone back to work part time now and on those days he has eaten food from DH.

Just read through the comments...I'm glad a lot of your mentioned your LO's didn't eat much when they were nursing lots. I guess the breastmilk just fills them up enough....


I have noticed since being at work that all I pump is 4oz on my lunch break ( to relieve some pressure) during an 8 hour shift and that really doesn't seem like a lot if that's all my DS is living off of and refusing food...
He nurses before I leave then I pump the 4oz halfway through my shift and then I'm full again when I go home to put him to sleep.
I've noticed though that he sometimes gets a tummyache if he has eaten a lot for Dh that day and then nurses what I have in me. Like maybe on those days he is eating too much? :S

But thanks for starting this thread. I feel very committed to extended breastfeeding as long as my son would like. I also haven't have a PP period yet.

 

[luna_19]

Congrats on one year of bf! I found at that age food intake really varies does he feed himself? For us we always offered food regularly and let him choose if/how much to eat and it went really well

My cycle came back at 14.5 months but I was trying to get it to start by having a 6 hour stretch of not nursing overnight, I think it wouldhave taken way longer if iI had just let him keep nursing ad much as he wanted

 

[apple_20]

No af for me at 15 months pp. though she goes 10 hours a day with no bf it's just not coming back!

 

[Marumi]

We are now tandem feeding now baby has arrived. It is going much better than I thought and Holly has taken to things really well with no jealously. She still feeds through the night but only quick feeds and she will unlatch and go to sleep when I tell her that's enough boobs now, whereas previously she got very angry about it.
I'm still not getting much sleep but I cope so much better with it now that I'm not pregnant and I feel more energetic despite getting less sleep.

Wow that is great to hear! When did you ket your toddler nurse in the beginning? I don't want mine to steal the colostrum or milk when the baby is hungry. I was thinking it is probably best to always let the baby go first and him a little bit after? He only nurses about twice a day.

That's great!

We are still going strong, toddler is nursing before nap and bedtime and was thrilled when my milk came back. My hubby is being a dink about the situation he's convinced that he will still be nursing when he's 5 *sigh*

My son is milk crazy now. He even says he smells it My husband has been weird about it too lately but it will pass. He does not want our son to continue but I won't force wean him. Especially now where it could cause jealousy. His nursing has decreased so much I think he will stop soon on his own. He is 4 1/2 though, so I suspect he will still be interested at 5

Re Foods:
Many breastfed children aren't that interested but it isn't a problem even into the third year. My son was only tasting foods at 12 months and began eating at 16 months when he got his molars. Having all his teeth played a major part for him. He quickly became interested in a variety of foods and as a small toddler never was a picky eater.
Until, at 3-4 my parents started watching him and started giving him lots of carby foods like bread, pasta, rice, which weren't on his diet before because we eat Paleo/ Primal. And he turned into a horrible eater, lost weight, started looking pale and was deficient in iron because ALL he wanted was bread, pasta and rice...plain...or sweets.
I am getting him back on track right now but wow...not making this mistake again. Kids just can't limit themselves.

 

[Bevziibubble]

I have heard that the milk adapts to which baby/toddler is nursing as it recognises their saliva.
I let them both feed at the same time usually and have one each, but usually the baby will nurse more often so he gets the majority of the milk.