F.A.I.T.H. (Forsaking all, I trust Him)

[Willynilly]

mommahawk - just checked out your chart and yeah, I think u r right - your temps aren't really pointing towards a bfp. so, I'm sure you will start by tomorrow...but that is great about your lp being lengthened so greatly! strange that it moved your ov day up, though. or maybe not strange...I don't know much about it. well, sorry if we are right and you get af...praying for you for next month. thx - I hope this is our month...I'm praying. but if not - I know good things will be coming our way soon.

Aaisrie - we used the tb method b/c we were living in a room over my parents bdrm for this whole month. I def DID NOT want to bd w/ any chance of them hearing us...so instead of skipping a cycle, we did that. plus, a friend of mine got pregs last cycle (after 10 months) by the tb method alone...so I thought...well, might as well. her dh's back was out so they had to use that.

the other plus was that I could put it in and then sleep with it in all night...nothing came out until around 3PM the next day! I really feel if it didn't happen this month, that there may be something wrong with me or dh. which scares me - but we will wait and see.

 

[Aaisrie]

Ahhh totally understand now! I wasn't sure if it was something I had missed or something you didn't want to talk about!! My OH and I conceived our DD while living in his dad's and then lived with his mum when she was born... so I'm sure they've both heard us! Fortunately we're a really close family and talk about stuff so it's not too much bother but I know some parents are shocked that their kids might be BDing!
I will be interested to see if the TB works for you. Your charts look pretty normal. I'll pray for you about the whole something wrong thing. I'm trying softcups this cycle. I semi-tried them last cycle but I'm actually gonna use them throughout this cycle to see if it helps. Laura, one of the girls in the group just fell with her first after trying for 2.5 years!! So it definitely seems to be working for a lot of people.

 

[Aaisrie]

No, I don't think I could be pregnant. We only got one BD in on the day of O because I O'd so early. Plus, my temp has dropped too low to be preggo...not to mention that I have no symptoms, except bbs sore, which is not unusual at this time of month. I usually always start the day my temp drops into about the 97.4 range...that's why I've been waiting for four days now...I'm sure she'll make her appearance any moment now, but I'm just ready to get on with next month!!
As far as LP goes, my LP was averaging 10 days before I started taking the B-100. The first month I took it LP was 11 days. The next month was 12, and last month was *almost* 13--I started right before I went to sleep instead of first thing in the morning like usual. Another seeming effect of the B-vits are that they brought my O date forward from Day 17 before I was taking them gradually to Day 13, and this month Day 11! If AF shows up in the next day or so, I will probably drop my dose down to B-50 now that I've gotten things built up, so that I don't bring my O date forward anymore or lengthen my LP.
Also, before my third child, I have *always* been an on the dot 28 day cycle girl. Man, I'd love to get that back!!
More information than you ever wanted to know, huh?

Definitely not!! I'm really interested! I didn't know my LP was short until I started temping and then I wondered how I even fell (on the first ever try!) with my DD! I'm worried that's what caused my MC in sept too?

 

[Willynilly]

Aster...how ARE you? are you ever on your journal anymore?

 

[Aster]

Hey sweetie, I am good. I am on here a lot but haven't written my journal for ages! Must try to keep it up but as this month doesn't look good not sure if we will just be chilling out for a bit.
Xxx

 

[groovygrl]

good to hear the luteal phase lengthening stories!

the month I fell pregnant (after seriously TTC for over a year - was without BC for two + years) was the freakish month i met AF three days early ( previously always to the day on a 28 day cycle) so... I assume my luteal phase was lengthened.

because I want to TTC again as soon as poss. I am very interested in this...coincidence.

No one wants to hear this but the other coincidence was ...DH and I took week out of our lives and really talked about how we'd be okay if we had to move forward without children. As in...with babies we obviously couldn't go to beach house and drink wine, listen to tunes, make fantastic delicious meals together, drink wine,talk and BD all hours of day. and/or night. because of my age, we have to wrap our heads around this and make it real. (of course, would still do similar joyful leasure activities with baby, ha!)

so...god testing me big time! and Aaisrie...the spirit is truely with you and moving through you. It was my second day back at work today and I promptly backed into (really smucked hard actually) another car, on my way home this arvo. Oh dear lord, what in the world is going on? (you know the other words I said Aais) Anyhoo... I came home to read your words and...well, the spirit is working through you my love. Thank you, thank you, a million x's thank you for sharing with me. all of us.

to all of you.. faith, hope and love (and of course baby dreams come true)

xo groovy

 

[Aaisrie]

Well if it isn't meant to be I KNOW God will give you peace but I also don't believe that God gives us desires for no reason - particularly the desire for children. Not everyone wants kids let alone lots of them so I think he gives us this desire, not so it will take the place of Him but to glorify him with it.

I'm glad my words... strike that, HIS words were of comfort to you and I pray he will continue to show you the path he wishes you to take

x

 

[groovygrl]

yes Aasrie, you're right. everything that will come to be will be for his glory. he know's every detail re: my desires.

Also...to tie in the 'coincidence' of my previous entry. I failed to mention that after my DH and I had the wrapping our heads around 'making it real' week at the beach, my BFP arrived 2 weeks later so...my intention is to encourage all the ladies here who have said that they are taking a month off or giving it a rest. because there might be something to it. As hard as it sounds.

x

 

[Aaisrie]

My OH and I have focused, or are focusing more on the intimacy, not to stop BDing at the right time but to make it as intimate as possible and to use it to get closer to each other instead of just BD for the sake of it. I'm going over to stay with him on Saturday night and I'm gonna get all sexy for him and show him how much I love him

 

[im_mi]

aww evie thats so sweet getting all sexy for him

 

[mrskcbrown]

Hi all!

How do you determine your luteal phase, although I think mines is long enough because I have a 33-34 day cycle? Im just curious.

Im in the dreaded 2WW, 1dpo now. Im not sure why my ticker is so off lately???

 

[im_mi]

mrskc, your luteal phase is how many days between O and af

 

[mrskcbrown]

mrskc, your luteal phase is how many days between O and af

Ok mine is about 13-16 days so I guess that is good right?

 

[somedaymama]

Ok mine is about 13-16 days so I guess that is good right?

Yeah, that's good! Less than 10 days is considered to be a luteal phase defect, and more than 12 is definitely good!

 

[mommahawk]

finally arrived this morning!!

I was so ready to be done with that cycle, since I knew we didn't have a chance! I'm debating using OPK's this month since my O day is all over the place...what do you guys think? Useful? Waste of money? Too stressful? I'm wondering if it might help me to be less stressed, since my most stressful time is trying to make sure we get enough BDing in around O. IDK...well, I have a week to think on it, I guess.

Someday, have you started using yours yet?

*finger crossed* for you, Mrs. Brown!!

Willy, how are you feeling?

How's everyone else doing?

 

[Aaisrie]

Mrskcbrown - the reason it needs to be more than 10 days is because that's the length of time for the egg to implant, so the longer the LP the better the chance you have of it implanting. It's easier to see how long your LP is if you temp because you can see exactly when you O instead of having a rough idea of when you O. The plus side to having a shorter LP - as I have discovered means you don't really have a 2WW, just a 11/12 day wait in my case!

 

[Aaisrie]

Mommahawk since you are charting OPKs would give you about 2 days advance notice of O happening! I have found that with charting you need to have other indicators too because if one thing is off you can see that - eg if you sleep with your mouth open and have a random dropped temp you can still see what else is going on by CM or OPKs or CP. The more indicators you use, the easier it is to see what your cycle is doing. My chart told me I'm fertile because my cervix went high, even though I know I'm nowhere near right now! I started my OPKs today, they are pretty cheap and seem to be much more effective than pregnancy tests lol The only thing I didn't know, which Immi told me is that a line doesnt mean it's positive! I thought a line was a line - not true, the test line has to be the SAME or DARKER than the control for it to be +

 

[somedaymama]

Yay for AF finally arriving! I know the feeling of relief all too well! I'm actually not using the opks this month...if you want to know more, details are in my TTC jounal.

 

[Willynilly]

hi mommahawk! feeling good. feeling very extremely not pregnant. had some bbs pain last night but that just means I did indeed ov! yee ha for oving. well, I'm 11 dpo - about 5 more til testing. I won't lie,though - if we didn't catch the eggy this month with so many well-timed bd - then I will start to be pretty worried.

well, you have two options. you could start bding every other day beginning on CD 8 and hold out til day 18 or so...or you could use opks. I've never used them b/c I'm too forgetful...I just temp. But from what I hear they work well if you A) don't drink too much liquid B) take them at the same time every day.

prayers for you and dh this cycle.

gf diet is a gorgeous thing for me indeed. thank you!!!

 

[mrskcbrown]

Mrskcbrown - the reason it needs to be more than 10 days is because that's the length of time for the egg to implant, so the longer the LP the better the chance you have of it implanting. It's easier to see how long your LP is if you temp because you can see exactly when you O instead of having a rough idea of when you O. The plus side to having a shorter LP - as I have discovered means you don't really have a 2WW, just a 11/12 day wait in my case!

Thanks for this bit of info, it really helps. I tried temping, OPK's and CM checks and I found that CM checking works best for me. I do follow my cycle monthly on a calendar though. When I temp and etc, I become to obsessed and Im forgetful. So for the last 2 months just being trying the relax and release approach. Most of my issue is not me anyway, its my DH who has some male factor issues, but I still believe that God can do anything! Thanks!!!